Baby in Day Care, back to work in a week and hostility towards hubby.

I put baby in day care a week before I go back to work to make sure I get used to getting back up at 4:30 every morning and getting him to daycare by 6-6:30. It took a toll on me yesterday, but it happened. This morning I got there at 6:30 and left baby with the owner because the normal infant adult was running late, so baby was sleeping and he doesn't know I left. He is almost 3 months, so I don't really know how he will react when he wakes up. I would have stayed, but I need to learn to leave and I know baby needs to learn to wake up without me. It is still tough. Yesterday I went during lunch and fed him his bottle and the lady laughed at my craziness. But she is so sweet as she sends me pics almost every hour to reassure me he is fine. Having to go back to work is haunting me. We are out of money and I know we need me to go back...but I don't want to leave baby. I tell everyone I have Stockholm Syndrome. This past month I have also been very hostile towards daddy. He doesn't really do anything to warrant aggression, but he will do something or not do something I need, (I don't even say what I want half the time). This morning, for example, Daddy held baby and slept while I took a shower and got ready. I think the thing that set me off this morning is I'm trying to feed baby and pump in bed and spilled an ounce all over me because I have to lean back for baby and forward for pump...so huge mess. So here I am, covered in liquid gold while daddy is sleeping. I asked him, I understand why I took most of the care giving these past 12 weeks, but what are we going to do when I go back? He says, "I held him while you took a shower." I replied with, "And I fed him while I pumped, changed his diaper twice, got him dressed, his diaper bag packed, took a shower, brushed my teeth and got dressed myself. He literally gets out of bed 5 minutes for him to leave and puts on clothes and leaves. I get that he can't feed him from his boob, but he could make a bottle and feed him while I pump. He could not let the alarm go off for 3 minutes straight and go change a freaking diaper. I am not saying he doesn't try and help when asked...But I'm tired of asking. He has yet to give baby a bath because, he "doesn't know how to do it." and will not learn. I have to rock,paper,scissor him for every diaper change. I just want more help I don't have to ask for. He isn't using this last week to learn the process, so is he expecting me to do all of it AND go back full time?