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Thanks for your "concern"

candicejeff2013candicejeff2013 member
in August 2015 Moms
I suppose it's natural for people to be concerned when you've gone past your due date??? Someone please explain this.

Everyone I know from friends to co-workers to in-laws (SIL) to acquaintances have all given birth early. Whether it be emergency c-section, induction with pitocin or membrane sweeps etc! So since I'm "1000 months pregnant" according to one of them (40 weeks 5 days now) they wonder why my doc didn't induce me sooner. Even my mom was concerned why I haven't gone into labor yet! I'm like "MOM, you gave birth to ME two weeks late!!! Don't make me feel like there is something wrong with me!!"

Although I know I've complained about going past my due date I can't help but feel fortunate to have gone full term!

I need a sassy comment anytime someone expresses their "concern" next time....thoughts? Help?
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  • MouseMama817MouseMama817 member
    Turn the question around! "Why would I have been induced already? I don't have any medical issues and my doctor isn't a kook (spelling?). She'll come when she's supposed to." Or he.
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  • emmacake08emmacake08 member
    I make a joke about my "turkey timer" hasn't popped yet so she must not be done yet. You don't want an underdone baby after all ;)
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  • lifesabeach85lifesabeach85 member
    You could always go with the none of your F-ing business route!!!

    More polite but getting the point across "doctors now know that it is not safe to induce before 42 weeks."


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  • 907_baby907_baby member
    I know it can be frustrating when everybody has a comment about something that doesn't directly impact them. (I was "overdue" with DS 5 years ago, and worked all the way up to the end - I've experienced them first hand.)
    But try to keep in mind that *most people just don't want to see you uncomfortable. Moms who have only had early babies don't fully understand what it's like to be on the other side of their due date. And moms who haven't been pregnant for awhile seem to forget some of these annoyances. (Which may be the case with your mom)
    Just hang in there and know that baby will come when baby is ready. Try to shrug it off as best you can. In the end, their comments don't matter anyway.
    Joey 06.05.2010, MC Jan 2014-EDD 09.11.2014, Aurelia 08.24.2015 (lost twin ~12 weeks), Ectopic Loss Feb 2016, EDD 01.03.2018
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  • malonc2malonc2 member
    I feel the same way at 40 w 4 days. They are almost convincing me that I should be induced sooner! It's very frustrating... I'm happy my little guy is happy and healthy in there and wish everyone would just leave us alone. I usually just say "Well it's very common for ftms to go to 42 weeks" and leave it at that.
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  • drummondstdrummondst member
    41 weeks, 2 days. I actually just want to cry with frustration when people ask me where the baby is now
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  • JenkaybJenkayb member
    Yeah it's super annoying. I get so irritated when people give advice about how to induce labor (walk, sex, pineapple, whatever). That's great, I'm not going to do any of that. He'll be born when he's ready.
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  • CaliforniaDream87CaliforniaDream87 member
    Meh, a lot of people don't understand women who go over due now a days because we live in an *induction happy* society. Think about how many women, on this board alone, have come here before even hitting 40 weeks to figure out ways to "get baby out".

    I would just say you aren't willing to induce and you and your doctor have a plan. Keep it at that!
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  • candicejeff2013candicejeff2013 member
    Glad to see I'm not alone! With that being said I have an induction scheduled for Sunday per docs recommendations. I believe she will come on her own before then but at least I have a true date set. :-bd
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  • ChristyM87ChristyM87 member
    I got a lot of these comments. I went into spontaneous labor at 40.5 and delivered at 41 weeks. Even before I hit 40 weeks people kept asking me when I was scheduling my induction and/or c-section for. I would just tell them that my provider was monitoring me and there were no issues or reasons to intervene until 42 weeks
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  • scir89scir89 member
    emmiemae08 said:

    "My doctor/midwife feels that brain development is important."

    Coool comment =))
    This should settle ppl with doubts regarding the due date and delivery.
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  • KaylaLovesNoahKaylaLovesNoah member
    "Alright, you caught me! I'm not actually pregnant....I've been eating watermelon seeds again...." ;)
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  • countryrhodes90countryrhodes90 member
    I'm avoiding my MIL ever since she said "I guess you're going to be pregnant forever"... she has no idea what it's like to be late, (she had her boys at 37 and 38 weeks) technically I don't either since tomorrow is my due date. Pretty sure I've got another week to go...
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  • MissV22CMissV22C member
    I'm due today and we've started getting all the calls now too. "Isn't she due now though?", "Just get her out already!", "Oh man, I leave to go on a holiday in a few days and really want to see her before I go, do you think you could have her by the 14th?" 

    Yea righto, I'll get onto that for you now then - I've just been bouncing around on my exercise ball waiting for a good enough reason to pop her out. Eyeroll.

    And then I get plain weird conversations. Just yesterday I was in Target buying some tops for little Miss and the checkout attendant asked me when I was due. When I said tomorrow she gives me a shifty eye, looks me up and down and says "oh so you've booked that in?". Huh?? Clearly I looked a bit confused but said "oh no, it's her actual due date", to which she replies "there's no way she's making it out without an induction, you haven't even dropped!". Thanks for your unsolicited professional advice based on zero knowledge of me, as well as adding to my concerns as a FTM that this may end up being the case.

    This is why pregnant women get a bad rep - provocation at every turn! You do have to try and laugh it off though and remind yourself that most times it comes from a good place (still unsure how I'll be classifying my interaction with Target lady though).
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  • kettlekittenkettlekitten member
    My dr booked a 'backup' induction for me at 41 weeks today (currently 38 + 5). My mum said 'can we wait another two weeks??' I said 'why, are you uncomfortable?' and reminded her that pregnancy does indeed last for approx 40 weeks. And that I had a number of difficulties with my 37 week baby that she saw first hand!
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  • MadissonMadisson member
    When people ask things like "what, no baby yet?" I just point somewhere behind me and say something like "Yeah I think it's over there somewhere." A friend of mine told everyone from the beginning that she was due two weeks after her actual due date so that people wouldn't ask.
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  • ChristyM87ChristyM87 member
    Madisson said:

    When people ask things like "what, no baby yet?" I just point somewhere behind me and say something like "Yeah I think it's over there somewhere." A friend of mine told everyone from the beginning that she was due two weeks after her actual due date so that people wouldn't ask.

    I think I am going to do this next time
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  • lifesabeach85lifesabeach85 member
    Seed0824 said:

    Tell them you're trying to break a record for longest pregnancy ever. You're hoping if you wait long enough, she/he will already know how to do certain things when born.

    Perfect! I might even add "you know like how horses can already walk and turtles can swim. Like that!"


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