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Not sharing my scheduled C-section date with anyone other than my mom, husband, & kids

julesventurajulesventura member
in August 2015 Moms
Hubs & I were told that our C-Section was already scheduled for the 17th. I was thankful because I am so miserable being pregnant and just knowing the baby's exact birthday is great! (My moms birthday is on the 16th!)

Well, the only people that know when the baby will finally make her grand entrance into this world is my parents, my husband, and of course our kids. I haven't told anyone else because I'm thinking back to my first two babies and I can honestly say I don't want to play host to a lot of visitors after being cut open lol. I would much rather have a day to myself to kind of feel better before having to fake smile at a bunch of people throughout an already exhausting day.... Another reason is that when my son was born, my brother-in-law made some very rude comments about my son and I don't think I'd be able to bite my tongue this time around, especially when I'm all hopped up on painkillers and such.

The only thing now is that every day I get a bunch of texts from family or friends asking when? When? When? The only thing I can say is the doctor hasn't told us yet. I don't know if I'm doing the right thing or not but I would like to keep the whole thing private... What do you ladies think?
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Re: Not sharing my scheduled C-section date with anyone other than my mom, husband, & kids

  • bpwife&mamabpwife&mama member
    It's your choice. If you don't want family there, then don't tell them.
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  • MouseMama817MouseMama817 member
    Is your husband okay with keeping his family in the dark? If he's supportive of your decision then go for it. You can always use the excuse of everything happening so quickly there was no time to notify anyone. Nobody needs to know it was scheduled. 
    However, if not letting them know is going to cause a lot of drama then I would let them know when it's scheduled but that the hospital isn't allowing visitors for 24 hours so you can recover from surgery. Blame it on the hospital's policies and nobody can argue with you.
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  • SassetteSmurflingSassetteSmurfling member
    I wish I wouldn't have shared our date with everyone. My phone did not stop ringing ALL day, including during surgery while my husband was trying to take pictures with my phone.
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  • breezymeema7breezymeema7 member
    If your H is on board, I don't see a problem with it. GL!
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  • MamaMandy2015MamaMandy2015 member
    I'm doing the same thing, although my mom started to blab and I had to tell her point blank to stop I would tell people if I chose to. I too don't want a barage of people coming by or blowing up my phone. My DH understands (or he's too scared to argue with me lol) I figure I'll tell certain people later the same day or the next and explain there are strict visiting hours so I don't have to be dealing with it all. Don't feel bad about it at all, you are the one having the csec it should be you calling the shots about visitors
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  • deviduke412deviduke412 member
    Good for you! No1 needs to know. I wouldn't want to tell anyone that I wouldn't be telling when I'd go into labor on my own.
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  • laylababe3laylababe3 member
    I think it's a great idea! As long as you and DH agree, it's a perfect chance to settle into the new addition to your family without the added stress of visitors.
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  • prairiedreamsprairiedreams member
    Keep the date to yourselves, we barely told anyone our due date for this one as with DS it got way stupid annoying with people asking questions and passing comments.
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  • bhargrave88bhargrave88 member
    I feel the same way! I don't have to have a c section but now that I've made it to almost 39 weeks in a high risk pregnancy, we face the possibility that I will have to be induced at 41 weeks, or there about depending on whom I want on call that day (doctor wise). I went 41 weeks with my first bit my water broke a few hours before I was supposed to go in for an induction ;) which is great.

    I just had my husband and my daughters God mother there Until my MIL showed up (love her!) and my grandma missed the birth by literally 2 mins. I saw my BFF later that day, but I was so tired I didn't want to have a crap ton of visitors anyway.
    It's different this time because I found my biological dad last year and he, my step mom, and his mom all want to be apart of everything (but live 5 hours away). I feel like I'd be being mean if I asked them to give me a week before coming up, and I know my dad will want to drive up as soon as he gets word I'm in labor. My dads mom, not to be outdone, will do the same. And she can be a bit over bearing in the affection department.. Lol. I also want to make sure everyone has had a recent tdap too. So if I'm induced, I'm only telling my BFF, my neighbor who is watching our dog, and my girls godmother (she is such a calming influence on husband and I both!). That's it. That way I can have my baby in peace, without being bombarded by phone calls and texts and visitors.
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  • bhargrave88bhargrave88 member
    I'm sure some people will be upset, but oh well. My body, my feelings, my birth, my baby. Don't like it? Don't come by.
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  • julesventurajulesventura member
    Thank you all for such reassuring words! Yeah my hubby is on board (he isn't too pleased with his family at the moment anyway) and he knows how hard the c-section is going to be on me.

    I'm glad to know I'm not the only one that's trying to keep the whole thing private. And I had to tell my parents because ultimately they are going to watch our two older children while the whole thing goes down (our doctor likes to schedule these things at the crack of dawn! And our kids are not morning people lol) Thank God my mom is completely on board about no visitors til later, she's been very tight lipped about it too
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