Hello all,
My baby is 3 days old and we were released from the hospital yesterday afternoon, so we are coming up on 24 hours of being at home.
In the hospital we were getting a really good rythym for breastfeeding and things were going really well. But since we have been home my baby has been demand feeding and she has been at the breast for about 16 of the last 24 hours. I'm exhausted, she's exhausted, I just don't know what to do!
After getting a total of 6 hours of sleep the last 5 days my husband stepped in for me and gave the baby some formula so that I could sleep a little bit.
My question is, is this normal? Has anyone else dealt with this? How did you handle it? I know that at some point we have to turn the corner, I just need some positive encouragement until we get there! It's just so hard to see my little perfect angle so upset and frustrated all the time. She must be EXHAUSTED too... she has not slept much at all other than when she dozes off while feeding.
Please, positive demand feeding advice only. I know not everyone believes this is the way to feed a child, but honestly, I don't care. This is what I'm going for, and I really need to hear some positive encouragement from other like-minded people.
Re: HELP! 15 hours of constant feeding!!
Make sure she's swallowing and not just using you as a human pacifier... If so use your pinkie to break the latch and take her off. My LO was doing this and it resulted in sore nipples! In the end we caved and gave him a pacifier... Best thing we did! Haha. He loves it and is very soothed by it (obvs do what you think is best)
We also had a lactation consultation on day 5 which helped me realize what was going on and how to help baby. We ended up needing to supplement but we did it on the breast with a syringe and tube to help increase my supply. If you have access to a lactation consultant I highly recommend it. I am a FTM and need all the help I could get!
Good luck, I know it will get better for you!
Taking that break was a lifesaver! I needed it for my sanity! Now I pump and nurse.My DH and I tag team the nighttime cluster feeds with expressed milk bottles.
Props to the full time nursing moms, it takes dedication!
My midwife gave me a nipple shield which I have only had to use sporadically and was an absolute saviour to deal with the pain when it got too much. I rarely need it now but it's so comforting to have just in case. She also convinced me to pump so that DH could give the baby a bottle and me a break from the cluster feeding. I made sure the nursery was stocked with extra water, snacks and reading materials since I was spending so much time in there nursing.
The good news is that the cluster feeding tapered off and my LO started sleeping. In fact he slept 5 hours after one cluster feeding session! Since he regained any weight he had lost within one week, I will never wake up this baby to feed. He is now two weeks old and still has days where he feeds more than not but it is nothing like it was and is completely manageable.
I really wish someone had explained cluster feeding to me ahead of time. The first week after my LO was born was the hardest time of all for me (including my entire pregnancy and delivery). It sounds like you are in the middle of the toughest part and I'm hoping things get better for you quickly as they did with me. Regardless of how you handle it, the most important things are that your little one gets fed and you keep your sanity. Hang in there!!!
We did the same thing I.e give her formula, so I could rest and feel refreshed to start all over again! I was having breastfeeding issue ( sore and cracked nipples) mainly latching problems. We saw lactation consultants which helped but be careful as some may make you feel like crap and push you to keep feeding, even if that means every half hour!!!
Realistically, do what feels right and works for your family! If exclusive breastfeeding is what you want to do then don't give up hope, but remember baby will grow regardless as they are very resilient!
Good luck!