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What will you do differently?

RainbowMama7RainbowMama7 member
in October 2015 Moms
Second+ times moms, are there any things you feel you missed or messed up on along the way with baby #1 that you would change this time around? I will definitely try to be in more pictures with baby #2 and to try and not rush to next step as much this time around.
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  • bishopgnbishopgn member
    Less iPhone pictures, more cuddles.
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  • midge519midge519 member
    To wear him more. My last two I didn't, just carried or used the stroller and I think wearing him will be much easier.
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  • MamaOwl15MamaOwl15 member
    I'm not going to expect anyone to support me or not oppose me in my parenting choices. I'm ready to be told I'm wrong at every turn and not get upset by it.

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  • laceyjaeplaceyjaep member
    I made the mistake of thinking it was bad if my newborn cried. So, if I heard her stirring at night I would get up and make her a bottle before she got upset. I then accidently trained her to wake up every 2-3 hours to eat. This one will be fed on demand and I will focus on sleep when I can. A little crying is healthy and even improves lung function.
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  • NukkeNukke member
    More play dates/play groups this time around.  I cloistered myself a bit too much. 
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  • komorebikomorebi member
    I'm going to get my homebirth stuff ready and accessible by 36 weeks like they ask.

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  • eat111315eat111315 member
    I'll accept more help from others. MIL and my mom both drive me nuts but i think this time I'll need more help. I have to weigh the frustration to help ratio to figure out just how much I can tolerate.
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  • smlowe9311smlowe9311 member
    Try to remind myself sometimes babies cry because they don't know what they want/need and that's ok. Try the normal things (feed, change, rock, burp etc) but if baby is still fussing that doesn't mean you're (me) a bad mom. And don't ride the mommy guilt train. Learn from my mistakes and move on.
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  • MamaOwl15MamaOwl15 member
    A couple more things for me:

    I won't cry if breastfeeding doesn't work out perfectly and I have to use formula

    I won't stress myself out trying to get my baby to sleep on her back if I know she's happiest on her tummy (once she can lift her head up)

    I won't panic if she spits up a lot or gains weight slowly at first


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  • komorebikomorebi member
    smlowe9311 said:

    Try to remind myself sometimes babies cry because they don't know what they want/need and that's ok. Try the normal things (feed, change, rock, burp etc) but if baby is still fussing that doesn't mean you're (me) a bad mom. And don't ride the mommy guilt train. Learn from my mistakes and move on.

    Yes, baby's cry just to do it sometimes. And as long as they aren't being left alone to do it it's not detrimental. It's tough on us but it's great to know that just you holding them helps, even if it doesn't seem like it.
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  • candicequeencandicequeen member
    Lay that baby down sleepy but awake. I'm really excited to train a good sleeper!! We have a 2 year old that is quite the opposite and it's our own damn fault!
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  • MamaOwl15MamaOwl15 member
    I'm going to put her in her crib for naps as soon as possible. My son was a spoiled napper for a while. Initially he napped in the pack'n'play, then it was on DH and my bed because his room wasn't dark enough. Then he started napping every day laying on the couch with DH, and when I became a SAHM, he'd only nap if he nursed to sleep and would only stay asleep if I was with him.

    Once he weaned, DS eventually started falling asleep on his own on the couch, but wouldn't nap in his room. Until a week or so ago. I decided to basically nap-train him after he put himself down on his own volition in his bed. Some days he puts up more of a fuss than others. But he's getting the idea. I want DD to nap in her crib/bed from the beginning.

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