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Not Connected to Pregnancy #2?

tdoswell1tdoswell1 member
in February 2016 Moms
I feel really bad and have had depression with this pregnancy so far, it sucks. But today I just all of a sudden got worried about if I can love both of my kids the same. My son will be 4 in a few weeks and it has always been just us. We are complete BFFs to say the least lol when I was pregnanct with him I was so excited, enjoyed it etc. With this pregnancy I am just hoping it goes slow so I can get it together. Are there moms with more than 1 child who experienced this?
If so, how did you get past it? Does it just come natural?
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  • KimberlyTeresa3KimberlyTeresa3 member
    I'm currently in the same boat, I'm not sure I'm capable of loving another baby as much as I do my daughter. I'm so anxious about it and worried ):
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  • MamaFroFroMamaFroFro member
    edited August 2015
    I felt that way for a while but now I'm starting to feel a bit more attached slowly. My son is five and I really did wonder if I could love anyone else as much as I love him. Your depression could be interfering. I'm dealing with some pain that is making it a bit more difficult to bond with the pregnancy. Regardless I have no doubt when baby is in my arms everything will change. I remember the new mommy hormones/chemicals that our bodies produce from last time that made bonding so natural and desirable, and we have that to aid us. Try not to stress too much now. We have a long pregnancy ahead of us still. Big hugs!

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  • Latina211508Latina211508 member
    I'm pregnant with my fourth baby! Honestly your love will multiply. I never personally felt the way you ladies did. But especially once you have your baby it will be instant love. Just take it easy and don't stress about it. :)
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  • wisco29wisco29 member
    Me too, people say congrats and get all excited and I'm just meh.
    Hopefully after this next Ultrasound and he looks more like a baby I will feel more of the connection or I think after I start showing and can stop living on zofran always worried I might throw up.... I will connect more.

    It's definitely common, if you are super worried about it you can mention it to your doctor because they should be trained in knowing if it's any sort of depression or anything to be worried about.

    I have read about lots of people feeling this way and once their nausea was gone, felt like they were showing, or when the baby was here in their arms they felt better and loved their baby just like their first
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  • camusoh2011camusoh2011 member
    https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12609987/not-feeling-connected#latest

    Very similar discussion and a lot of support on this thread. You might check it out. :)

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