STM or TTM leaving first babes while in hospital

Re: STM or TTM leaving first babes while in hospital

• Miz_Liz member

  August 2015

  Did you get her a gift "from" the baby? Can she come visit you?

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• Baby2HG member

  August 2015 edited August 2015

  Yes she will come visit tomm and my mom will stay with me at the hospital while my dh takes her for the night. Today I guess my mom is taking her to the store and getting her a gift to distract her.

  Miz_Liz said:

  Did you get her a gift "from" the baby? Can she come visit you?

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• MamaMandy2015 member

  August 2015

  Well it is hard, but I've found that having my other kiddos come and visit me has helped in the past. While they would love nothing more than staying with me all the time, I've told them that with this one there are times they can come visit and times where me and the babe need to rest. They understand and while it's hard on me too I know that soon I'll be back home with them. Have your DH take your DD out for a movie, or lunch or dinner and then have him bring her by to see you and spend time together. Then grandma can pick,her up, or if your mom is with you can just take her back to her house. I've also found that I had gotten a big sister gift for my DD1 when my DS was born and she felt so special.

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• brinbri member

  August 2015

  I only stayed one night but DH went and had dinner with DS and his parents and put DS to bed so their was some normalacy. I found that I really savoured and still do the four or five hours just my daughter and I had in the hospital that night to bond and relax!

  
  

  
  

  
  
  
  
  
  

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• SassetteSmurfling member

  August 2015

  My kids came to see me and baby in the hospital every day. Sometimes twice a day. My husband didn't stay with me. Honestly I don't see the point in SOs staying in the hospital over night (or even all day long... My husband came and went). We had my parents, DH, and DH's parents switching off taking care of the kids throughout the 4 days, but DH was always home for bed time and they always slept at home in their own beds.
  
  Not that it helps you now, but we also talked about it for the week or two leading up to delivery that mommy and baby would have to stay at the hospital for a few days so the doctors could make sure we were healthy.

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• breezymeema7 member

  August 2015

  SassetteSmurfling said:

  My kids came to see me and baby in the hospital every day. Sometimes twice a day. My husband didn't stay with me. Honestly I don't see the point in SOs staying in the hospital over night (or even all day long... My husband came and went). We had my parents, DH, and DH's parents switching off taking care of the kids throughout the 4 days, but DH was always home for bed time and they always slept at home in their own beds.
  
  Not that it helps you now, but we also talked about it for the week or two leading up to delivery that mommy and baby would have to stay at the hospital for a few days so the doctors could make sure we were healthy.

  Everything @SassetteSmurfling said.
  
  

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• benmel31 member

  August 2015

  These are good points. I should talk with DH about what he plans on doing. Last time he was barely at the hospital because of his work schedule. Now he has more flexibility, so he could be with DD at times instead of relying on others. A conversation for tomorrow!

  
  

     

     

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  
  

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