Extra sensitive :-/

Re: Extra sensitive :-/

• Miz_Liz member

  August 2015

  Unless he has given you reason to believe he will up and leave again, you are right, it is probably hormones and just bad memories from last year. I would recommend focusing on the good things that you have in your relationship instead of remembering the bad things that once were. Perhaps go out on a date night or even plan a date night in? Game night? Cook dinner together? Movie? Go for a walk together? Find something fun to do together that you will both enjoy to take your mind of the bad stuff from last year and remind you that you're in a better place now. Good luck!

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• nakoppel member

  August 2015

  @Miz_Liz that's a good point. I know I have had a tendency lately to focus on the negative instead of the positive. Last Friday we got lunch just the two of us (he has half days of work on Friday) and it was really nice. Maybe I'll see if he wants to make it a little ritual. Not necessarily to go out but to have just us times on Friday afternoons.

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• candicejeff2013 member

  August 2015

  All you can do is trust and believe what he has told you unless you choose not to. Hormones...yay!

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• MamaMandy2015 member

  August 2015

  You're not the only one love, my DH works out of town at the mine and during his day or night shifts he stays in one of our 5th wheels down there, usually 3-4 days at a time. The town where the mine is, is very small so there are women down there who are interested in my DH even though they know he's married (the town is so small, almost every couple there are swingers...eww) and a couple of times he's had people try to set him,up, or hit on him. At first I was insecure about it and conciously I know he will never cheat but it was the hormones that made me think otherwise a few times, until one day I sat down and realized I was being silly. Plus the fact he works 14 hour day/night shifts and he's too tired anyways, I always joke with him that if he does have a girlfriend down there that she damn well better clean his trailer, cook for him and least put out once in awhile because every time he comes home he's hornier than a rabbit in mating season and I'm too tired for that lol

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• saroos3137 member

  August 2015 edited August 2015

  I agree that it's probably a combo of hormones and time of year for you. Since texting isn't in person, it makes it a lot harder to know what he meant or how he meant it. I think men just have a harder time getting pumped up for baby's arrival because they don't have a constant reminder kicking them in the bladder. I'm sure that once your baby boy arrives, your DH will be completely smitten. Try not to take his comments too personally. 

  
  

  
  

  

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• nakoppel member

  August 2015

  @mommysar you make a good point about texting. Also I guess I don't realize he probaby doesn't have the same visualization a that I so about our baby since he isn't getting love ninja-Ed from the inside all day long lol.

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• CaliforniaDream87 member

  August 2015

  I understand why you would feel the way you do. It hasn't even been a year yet so I'm sure you're still working through those emotions which is tough to do while pregnant. Allow yourself to feel what you feel. Continue to communicate this to him and at the end of the day, if you want your marriage to work (which it sounds like you do), then you have to put faith in him.
  
  For now, just focus on the life you're about to bring into the world and try to trust what your husband is telling you.
  
  ((Hugs))

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• nakoppel member

  August 2015

  @California_Dreaming87. Thanks for your support . I know these insecurities will take awhile to work through. He's also the first guy to ever dump me. I just don't want to push him away in the process. He really is a fantastic husband. Actually he's a better husband than he was a boyfriend lol

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