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ByeByeSpottsByeByeSpotts member
in January 2016 Moms
My little sister is getting married at the end of April. My mom is planning her shower for February 7th based on my sister's work schedule and my parents vacation plans. My due date is January 30th. My sister has been jealous that I'm pregnant. Am I crazy to think Feb 7th is a horrible date for a shower??
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  • JCGMPGOGGJCGMPGOGG member
    edited August 2015
    I don't know but I'd be pissed... What if your baby comes late, is your sister willing to take that chance? What's wrong with March? There is still plenty of time for your sister to accommodate. This is a baby, it's coming when it wants!! Good luck!
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    ** mom as well I meant to add!!
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  • allsleeallslee member
    I won't lie, I don't really get the being upset part. Two big things are happening around the same time, it'll all work out in the end. And like a PP said, if you miss the shower I'm sure she'll understand. It's not like you'd miss the wedding.
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  • BabyRut2015BabyRut2015 member
    edited August 2015
    I think if your sister has any sort of jealousy issue with you being pregnant, or having something big going on at the same time as her, then it's a terrible idea- for her.

    She may be resentful if you miss the shower, and she also may be resentful if you bring LO and steal the attention away. Even if you don't bring LO everyone would ask and the attention would inevitably be on you.

    Wedding date is in stone, your LO's arrival is not..... I agree on poor planning!

    If the date can't be changed its not your problem, but will possibly cause some tension/stress.... you may just have to deal.

    I'm sure they could find a better time in march/early april??
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  • SnoopylovesbelleSnoopylovesbelle member
    It seems that the shower was planned to best accommodate everyone especially the bride and the hosts. You never know when a baby will show up so take it in stride
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  • SovvySovvy member
    claireloSC said:
    I think you should be happy for your sister and go with it. I honestly don't get why you are mad. The world can accommodate both of you having big moments. Also, as it's just a shower and not the wedding, if you somehow miss the shower it will probably be ok.
    Missing the shower sounds like a blessing, honestly.
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  • mamaksweezmamaksweez member
    I'd be super upset. My sister and I plan out everything around each other's schedules (like my dd's 1st bday party was at a time of day that works with her kids nap schedules, etc.). We like stress out about accommodating each other.
    On the other hand my SIL doesn't check anything with me before she plans it. So if you "should be upset" I think depends on your relationship.
    I'd tell my sister that I probably wouldn't be at her shower if it's the 7th, and if she's ok with that then have it then and if it's not ok with her for you to miss it then change the date.
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  • CaraBoonieCaraBoonie member
    I don't know, I can't imagine my family planning and event like a wedding shower that close to my due date, frankly. That said, it depends on your relationship with your family and how they normally deal with things...I know I planned my wedding, and am planning my baby shower, around other people's schedules to make sure the most loved ones are able to attend, because that was what was most important to me personally. With MY relationship with my family, I'd remind her (if it isn't already set in stone) of my due date and say that there's a good chance I won't be able to attend then, and if she's cool with that, then that's your relationship, I guess.

    However, if they're the kind of relatives who don't take your availability into account when planning important events, maybe PP is right that it's best you're not there anyway.

    It's always impossible to answer things about families though, everybody's family dynamic is different.

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