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D&C scheduled for tomorrow morning :(

katemparkatempar member
edited August 2015 in Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
Well, it's officially over.

Went for my first ultrasound last Thursday -- I was so excited I could barely sleep -- only to see no yolk sac or fetal pole. My gestational sac was only measuring around 4.5 weeks when it should've been 8+. Doctor was still optimistic though, saying my dates could've been wrong. Things got more stressful when I learned that my hcg level was more than 31,000. I went for another blood draw on Saturday. The on-call doctor called me yesterday afternoon to tell me that my hcg level was stagnating (only went up by 200 or so). I confirmed the miscarriage in-person with the doctor today and scheduled my D&C for tomorrow morning. I am going to try to return to work on Wednesday and get back into my routine.

My husband and I are so heartbroken. This has been such an emotional rollercoaster. I've never been so overjoyed and so sad within such a short period of time. I know God has a plan for us, and my faith is what will get us through this, but I'm still sad. This was an unexpected pregnancy, so I'm optimistic about getting pregnant again soon. I just hope I never have to go through this again. I know I'm not alone and have received a lot of support from family and friends, but I think it will still take me awhile to feel totally normal/happy again.

My thoughts and prayers are with the rest of you ladies who are going through the same thing. <3
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Re: D&amp;amp;C scheduled for tomorrow morning :(

  • ALC08ALC08 member
    Sorry sorry for your loss! It's an awful thing to have to experience. I have had two in the past year. I wish i could say that my faith has not been shaken but after the last one i have really struggled. I am trying to take it one day at a time. I think in time we will be able to heal. Hugs
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  • KerryS1009KerryS1009 member
    So sorry for your loss.
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  • tobrieornottobrietobrieornottobrie member
    I'm really sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband! 

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  • nram25nram25 member
    You're in my thoughts and prayers. I know what you're going through but know that God make no mistakes. Have faith and your head up hunny.
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  • katemparkatempar member
    Thank you all for your kind words and thoughts. Thankfully, everything went well with the D&C this morning. I feel like it hasn't really sunk in... I was so sad and weepy when I initially found out that I miscarried, but I've kind of gone numb since then. Now that I've gotten past the surgery, I'm waiting for the emotions to hit me again.
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  • ceclarlinetloceclarlinetlo member
    I'm so sorry for your loss - I had almost the exact same experience with my first pregnancy (no yolk sac or fetal pole at first ultrasound at 8 weeks). That was actually harder in some ways than the loss I experienced recently (baby stopped growing at 6 weeks) I'm glad the D&C went well - and best wishes for when you are able and ready to try again.
    TW: MMC
    BFP1 12/24/14 - EDD 09/07/15 (D/C 8w1d)
    BFP2 6/12/15 - EDD 2/22/16 (D/C 10w3d)
    ———
    Diagnoses and Treatments
    PCOS (myo-inositol, excercize)
    Indeterminant levels of APS IgM antibodies (baby aspirin)
    Sub-septate uterus (hysteroscopic septoplasty 12/18/15)
    ———
    BFP3 05/02/16 EDD 01/09/17 DS born 01/05/17
    BFP4 01/28/19 EDD 10/?/19 🤞🙏

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  • vallericvalleric member
    I was 9w when the mc happened, and that was back in April. The pain and sadness just hits me in waves now, and little things will make me cry. It's hard to not think about it when it was wanted so bad. Take as much time as you need off of work.
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  • taraemerald11taraemerald11 member
    I am so sorry for your loss. The same thing happened to me for my first pregnancy, which was also an unexpected pregnancy. I have never been through anything so heartbreaking in my life. It happened a year ago now, and I didn't take any time off work, and thinking back now I really should have - It was such an emotional and frankly depressing time in my life. I would highly recommend taking time to yourself, and taking all the time that you need off work. I regret not doing that, you need the time to yourself to just be sad and grieve your loss. Spend time going to yoga class, getting a massage, and writing in a journal to get your feelings out (I just started one, but I really should have started one awhile ago) - my naturopathic doctor recommend this to me and she gave the best advice... all of your friends, family, and husband are clearly going to be supportive while you go through this, but everyone will also have an opinion when you explain your feelings, and a journal won't have an opinion - it's a place where you can just let it all out without any opinion coming back at you that you need to "just move on/miscarriages are so common/it wasn't the right time, etc." I hope this helps :)
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  • katemparkatempar member
    Thank you for the kind words, @taraemerald11. I ended up taking the day off today, but will return to work tomorrow. At least I'll only have two more work days until the weekend. I love writing so I think journaling will really help me cope/heal.
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  • mamabear119mamabear119 member
    So sorry to hear about your loss. Thinking of you in a hard time like this
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  • Lg1488Lg1488 member
    I'm sorry for your loss ;( I'm having a similar situation, I'm scheduled for d&c tomorrow morning because of my hcg levels being too high (32000 even though the miscarriage occurred 4 weeks ago at 7w ;( I was suspecting it as my symptoms were disappearing but only confirmed yesterday. We miss our little nugget very much and I'm very scared of the procedure. My doc advised me that I need the d&c despite that I wanted to m/c on my own...
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