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have to abstain from sex and .... Horny?

angbrienzaangbrienza member
in December 2015 Moms
hi ladies. We're to stay away from sex because of placenta Previa. Anyone else in this position and really struggling with the lack of sexual contact? I know it's a weird thing to be interested in sex while pregnant to begin with, but I'm hoping I'm not alone. It's been only 2 weeks and we have at least 10 more til we have our 30 week u/s. And then maybe more. Then the 6 weeks postpartum. Gah! Please tell me I'm not alone.
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  • chewie5990chewie5990 member
    do you have to stay away from everything or just penetration? I'm not dealing with this personally, and I sure it really sucks, but there are other ways to get intimate and sexual now it's just time to get creative! 
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  • angbrienzaangbrienza member
    We were told "pelvic rest". So I'm assuming an orgasm wouldn't be good no matter how. Perhaps I am wrong. I love a good old fashioned make out session along with heavy petting (lol!!) but am scared it will only tempt me more. Anyone else have any input regarding whether it's just penile penetration that we are to stay away from? I have an appointment in a couple weeks I can ask at, but would love some more input!
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  • Beckah31Beckah31 member
    Yeah. This. I had a cerclage at 13 weeks and I'm feeling fat and ugly and unloved. I think part of it is that SO is so ok with it! And I'm really not. I'm sure I'll get over it, but I actually cried a little bit about it today, mostly because I was feeling sorry for myself and this was just one more thing to add to the mix. It's not that he can't have fun- which he does- I'm just not feeling very loved right now. :(
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  • stephaniechen82stephaniechen82 member
    edited August 2015
    This podcast is applicable but is based on sex during and after pregnancy, mostly for those experiencing lack of sex drive. It's a discussion about sex expectations, forms of intamacy, and more...while going through these changes. Even though yours is a completely opposite case, there may be some tips that work for you. I will post separately too because I think it's something that most women have trouble coping with, for various reasons. https://longestshortesttime.com/podcast-48-the-parents-guide-to-doin-it/
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  • nram25nram25 member
    Omg! I know what you mean. Being high risk and previously going into preterm labor with my first pregnancy, I was told the same. After dealing with morning sickness and not being interested in sex in the first tri., now that I'm in the second tri. it's like I'm the horny machine. Of course we have tried other things but I promise it seems to make things worse and tempts me more.. But then I remember it's for the sake of bringing healthy full term babies(twins) into this world.
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  • christidixonchristidixon member
    Have you had bleeding throughout your pregnancy so far...I also have partial previa on top of having a premature birth with my first and have not been told to abstain from having sex and it may be because I haven't had any bleeding so far so I'm just a little curious
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  • angbrienzaangbrienza member
    No bleeding at all @christidixon ! Not even a drop of spotting early on. Just showed up on my scan. I'm happy to hear other Women feel the same. Especially the part about SO not really noticing we aren't doing it.... Like, aren't men supposed to be hornier than women!? He loves my belly and is always touching it, so I know he's not turned off by it. Maybe he can just tell himself that it's for the sake of our baby and that keeps him happy. Maybe I'm hormonal and selfish right now. Just imagining months without sex and I wanna cry!!!
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  • prinlolyprinloly member
    Me too, I have a placenta previa and been told to abstain sex and I feel increase in my sex drive too. The problem is during sex his penis touch or get close to the cervix and might cause irritation to this area and this can lead to bleeding since the placenta is laying just above the cervix. So what we do is to do everything we want except that he does not go all the way to avoid the cervix. This seems to be working fine for me. We have been doing so for a few month now and no bleeding(thanks god!). Good luck dear:)
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  • ellebaby4ellebaby4 member
    I have placenta previa also. We quizzed our doctor and the high risk doctor. They both stated no penetration and no orgasm. They said that an orgasm causes uterine contractions (even when you are not pregnant). It totally stinks! This is my fourth baby and I've always enjoyed sex more when I'm pregnant. At first I felt bad for my husband and would try to do "safe" things for him, but that just made things worse for me, lol
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  • kidcapri100kidcapri100 member
    Oh girl I feel you...

    First tri I was SO sick I couldn't even think about sex. By the time 2nd tri came about and I was starting to get my groove back I was diagnosed with a short cervix and a large SCH. I was put on strict pelvic rest and haven't had sex in almost 20 weeks. I'll be on pelvic rest for the remainder of my pregnancy as well. Luckily DH has been taking it well (as he should)!

    I know a few PP's have mentioned doing "other things" but you may want to clarify with your doc if you are to just avoid penetration or orgasms as well. I'm not sure what they require for placenta previa but for my issues it's unfortunately both.

    Hang in there..it's such a short time in the grand scheme of life and SO worth it to keep your LO safe and sound in there.
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