Intro and TTC with known IF ? (not sure if this is where I should be and trigger warning)

FutureMrsW9 · August 2015

Hi Ladies - I was over on the IF board a couple years ago, and we went thru IVF and now have a beautiful energetic toddler! She's a breath of fresh air (most days hehe) :-) We were very lucky in that I had know many years in advance what my dx was and we knew from the beginning that we'd most likely need some intervention with TTC. We started out with a round of IVF and we were blessed that it worked the first time with very minimal hiccups - I did get some wicked OHSS, but compared to what others go through I'd say it was just a small blip of the crappy radar. We're now thinking about "TTC" #2, and I put TTC in quotes because we have 15 frozen embryos from our first round of IVF so idk how to even classify what we're doing. That said, did any of you have a similar situation when you started planning for #2 (or more)? If so, how did you go about it? Did you TTC naturally first or just go right back to the doc? My DH and I have mixed feelings about it....we would love it if we could conceive naturally (which, we can't now because I'm on Victoza to control my PCOS And was instructed that I absolutely cannot under any circumstance get pregnant while taking it), but on the other hand we have these 15 other babies waiting for us in the wings and were told that once we're ready we just need to make a phone call and can start the process again. If you were in the same boat, how did you decide how to proceed? Thanks in advance for any words of advice. -Katie

Bperkun · August 2015

Wow 15 is a lot!

I am in the same boat, and have been thinking about that same thing for a while. It's totally a personal decision; but for me I decided to try on our own for about 6 months. I knew it was a slim chance but thought if it happened naturally it would be easier on yourself and your pocket book. (who says pocket book LOL that is such an old phrase.) Anyways, I kinda set up a time I knew I would call if it didn't work to start the process again. I have 3 frosties waiting for me and I really feel I need to go back to them anyways. So, I called and set up an appointment on how to proceed. Now I am waiting for my period to start the IVF process again. I don't have any other advice because I am not much ahead of you. It shouldn't be as much work as last time since you already have the embryos. I believe I do some testing first and then a water ultrasound, then start some meds and then they transfer pretty fast if all goes well. :-)

Good Luck to you on whatever you decide!

Jodee37 · August 2015

you have "15 babies waiting in the wings." i'm so sorry you have such a problem deciding how to proceed here.

Frenchteachermama · August 2015

Yeah, I'm sorry but your situation isn't going to go well over here. Most of the women on this board have been struggling for years to convince another child and gone through countless IUI and IVF cycles with nothing to show for it. I would try a different board or a different 2IF community somewhere else.

ellebelle2384 · August 2015

Flamingemu · August 2015

I am sorry you have IF & 2IF. It sucks. But most of us have been trying just to get some good embryos for years. If I were you and already had that many frozen, just go see your RE when you are ready for #2. What is the question here. If you know you can't do it on your own, just go to your RE when you are ready. Man I wish I had your problem.

ellebelle2384 · August 2015

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1983Lindsey2 · August 2015

I hope you and your husband figure out what is right for you. I would say as far as IF goes, your problem is a good one to have! It sounds like you need to get off that medication to even think about ttc, so it is probably a little early to be on this board. This board is for those who are actively trying. It sounds as if you are all set should the natural way not work, since you are lucky enough to be blessed with 15 frosties! Good luck with whatever you choose going forward.

GK2009 · August 2015

It sounds like you are in a pretty good position. Personally, I would get off the medicine... try on your own for a little bit and don't waste too much time and get back to the RE if you are unsuccessful on your own. Even with good numbers on your side it can still take some time to make things happen... but you should feel good knowing that you were so successful with your embryos the first time around. Good luck to you!!!

CeCe8579 · August 2015

Some here have no babies waiting in the wings, some have even had to come to the realization that they don't get to have any more babies, all would like you to leave!

STFU, GTFO, KTHXBYE, DAB!

meganfauer · August 2015

I personally think that if you have 15 frozen "babies" (which embryos are not babies, take it from me I have had 4 embryos inserted into my body and never one baby came from it) I would use those. You are in the best situation that could ever be in. I never had any embryos to freeze, I do have a beautiful baby boy, but what I would give for any sort of option. I also would never get on any medicine to EVER prevent me from getting pregnant ever again after 5 years and 8 rounds of fertility procedures. Anyone that has to deal with fertility knows its not easy but your fertility story is a walk in the park compared to mine or these other ladies.

I wish you the best

AprilDrew04 · August 2015

I don't think you intended to offend anyone. But unfortunately that is what you did. So many of us have spent years ttc #2, with nothing to show for it. So to come on here telling us you have 15 potential babies and your not sure if you should use them just isn't going to go over well.

If you want to duck around hoping to miraculously get pregnant on your own - go for it. However, if I had that many potential babies I would feel guilty not to use them.

FutureMrsW9 · August 2015

Thanks to those who didn't give me snarky responses! Obviously some of you could infer that I was simply looking for experience (i.e. already been thru the IVF process, which I clearly have) in this decision making from those of you who have been in my situation. I had such a positive and supportive experience over on the IF board when ttc my DD, I foolishly assumed this would be a safe space...I guess I was very wrong. I battled with IF and related issues for almost 10 years, so yeah, it's not like I don't "get it." I'm sorry for everything that you're all going through. Though we all have different stories, we do have IF in common, and I empathize with how much it completely sucks, because, again, I'VE BEEN THERE AND MOST LIKELY WILL BE THERE AGAIN. I wish all off you nothing but the best of luck!

FutureMrsW9 · August 2015

@meganfauer Victoza doesn't prevent pregnancy, but it's controls my PCOS, as Metformin has never helped me, so my endocrinologist and I decided that this was the best interim solution so that I could avoid being on the pill but still control my IR. Unfortunately, it's not a drug that's safe for pregnancy...pros and cons.

FutureMrsW9 · August 2015

@1983Lindsey2 I think you and I were on the IF board and conceived #1 around the same time...good luck with #2!!!

I know this is for those who are actively trying, which is why I asked here because I wanted experience from someone in a similar boat, and this seemed like where it would fit best since there might be mom's on here who had IF with #1 and bitter moving to #2. I'm going to my endocrinologist on Monday to discuss my status, go over recent bloodwork and talk ttc #2, so I'm guessing she's going to tell me to stop....which means buh bye ovulation

CeCe8579 · August 2015

Read, lurk and know your audience please! The whole OMG, you guys are snarky and I've been there post won't get it here. We're going to tell you the truth.

FutureMrsW9 · August 2015

Iloveshanej Yup, I've been lurking these pages for a long long time and considering where my question would fit best. Obviously not in TTC because those women don't know hide nor hair of frozen embryos and IVF and ET. MOST of you seem level headed and reasonable, so I didn't think it was an issue. And I'm pretty sure I never said "...OMG, you guys are snarky...." I have more tact than that, I simply stated that there were some snarky responses, which if you look back there are - just using an adjective for responses that were written. But thanks for the feedback. Good luck with your 2IF journey!

CeCe8579 · August 2015

Bye Felicia! If you lurked you would know my 2IF journey ended without choice. You actually didn't lurk or read anything because your lack of tack in your OP is the problem here but kthxbye!

1983Lindsey2 · August 2015

@FutureMrsW9 yes I totally remember you now!!! Welcome!! I guess I just wasn't sure if you gonna be trying right now or not, I didn't mean to me rude.

I hope your appointment goes well. Maybe you will keep ovulating on your own for a bit if the med has tricked your body into doing it. I was hoping after my first that I would start ovulating and not need treatments with #2, but after 9 months I gave up and went back to the RE. My AFC was 30 in one ovary and 40 in another, and has stayed around there even after 2 doses of Provera, so glad I didn't wait too long because he said I would not be ovulating with ovaries like that!! My hormones are 100% normal though and my LH FSH ratio was 1:1 like it always has been, so I kept hoping too that I might not need the treatments again. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. Let us know what happens with your appointment

You are in a good situation should you not keep ovulating though with having so many embryos. That has to be some relief. I remember everything you went through with #1. I am wishing you tons of luck with #2.

ellebelle2384 · August 2015

I think you might get better responses on PAIF or SAIF. Many here have not been in the position you are in going into TTC again.

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