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Hubby deployment missing birth

MrsFirePuppyMrsFirePuppy member
edited August 2015 in October 2015 Moms
Any other moms due while their husband is deployed? I'm active duty myself and this isn't our first deployment, his or mine, but this is our first while expecting so I'm pretty nervous. I'm due Oct 11th and he will be back late January. He recorded books for him to listen to, I play them every night (partly for baby, partly for me!) We are new to overseas so no family or friends here, but my mom is flying in for the birth so as long as he (Baby) is on time I won't be alone alone. Nervous though!
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  • intheversaintheversa member
    I'm not sorry but I'm sorry that your husband is being deployed. I'm sure that's so hard. At least he has his voice to listen to. That's a really good idea.
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  • emeraudecephiroemeraudecephiro member
    My friend's DH was deployed while she was pregnany, he was able to attend her birth via Skype :)
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  • adcoxmtadcoxmt member
    Ugh, I'm so sorry your husband won't be able to be there for you and LO at the birth! Is there any chance y'all can at least skype during it? I had a friend who was able to do so with her first child; her husband was overseas until their son was almost 6mos old. :( I hope your mom is able to be there for you! I couldn't imagine not having a loved one there as a support person. 

    I'm not remotely in the same boat, but I do have a baby daddy (ugh, that title, but that's the most fitting, haha) who is a few states away and whom I've only seen once since April. Although he plans to be there when I give birth to our son, with his long drive there's a good chance he could miss it. He'll have bonding time with the baby right away, but after that I don't know logistically how he's going to see his son frequently "enough" when he lives so far away... especially if he moves forward with his plan to do contract work (overseas) with the military. He was in the Army for about 10 years and that's what he's used to, I just hate the idea of him being away from his child that long and I know it kills him too. 

    Anyways, I hate that your husband won't physically be there, and I'm sure he hates it too, but it will be so amazingly sweet when he get's back in January and finally gets to hold y'alls sweet baby! 
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  • mandy903mandy903 member
    I'm not in your situation but wanted to say thank you to you and your husband for your service and sacrifice!

    I hope your baby is on time and your mom is able to be there for you. And maybe you can Skype hubby during delivery?
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  • bcooper81bcooper81 member
    My fiancé may be in San Diego doing some training for the Marines leaving middle of September and not be home till November some time. And I'm do October 2nd.
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  • batmom05batmom05 member
    I'm sorry your hubby won't be able to be there for the birth. Will he be able to skype? I know quite a few people who have been able to do that and it took some of the sting out of hubby not being able to be there.
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  • KLopez33KLopez33 member
    My husband and myself are both active duty as well. Currently he is going to be leaving for training over my due date and then will come back for a month and deploy shortly after :/

    If you can make it being dual active duty you can make it being mommy and daddy for a little while too! You got this!
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  • midge519midge519 member
    My ex husband was deployed when my daughter was born. What helped me deal most was constantly writing him emails and sending pictures so he could see her. He met her when she was 7 weeks old
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  • gatorgrad2007gatorgrad2007 member
    My DH is deployed but hoping he will be able to come for 2 weeks around my due date then he will continue the remainder of his deployment until baby boy is 7 months old. I'm not holding my breath regarding him making the actual birth.... we know babies have a mind of their own when they decide to make an appearance... I have 3 girlfriends that were due mid/late August that just had healthy babies within the past week.
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  • baconladybaconlady member
    So sorry lady. I've been there. My husband missed our daughters birth by a week . I was in tears at first at the thought of him not there . I had to toughen up and stay calm for my baby girl . You got this ! It sucks but it'll be so wonderful when he gets to meet baby . Skyping is a great suggestion if possible ,as previous posters mentioned . Best of luck you'll do great!
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  • OperaSingerMommyOperaSingerMommy member
    Not in your situation but I'm a military wife and just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you, mama. I think it is great that you have support from your mom and I'm sure that the moment that your husband meets his child will be amazing! Thanks to both of you for your service.
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  • zaclinazaclina member
    It sounds like you have an amazing and supportive family! What a great idea to record books! I know it is NOTHING compared to having family there (so glad mom will be flying out to be with you) but maybe consider a doula?? Best of luck to you mama, you got this!
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  • MrsFirePuppyMrsFirePuppy member
    We are going to Skype if possible, his internet connection is terrible where he is but that's the plan :)
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  • millereliz13millereliz13 member
    My bil was deployed two weeks before the birth of his 3rd kiddo. They used Skype and phone calls at birth. Good luck to you.
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  • cbowen1020cbowen1020 member
    My husband is on a pcs to S.Korea right now. He will be back the month of October but has to go back until May/June of next year. It's our first deployment and first child so it was quite hard for us to get used to, but really communication is key! Lots of Skype dates and photo s sent back and forth. My midwives were telling me that they've had some mothers skyping in the delivery r
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  • morganabyrdmorganabyrd member
    I have no experience to share, but I have the highest respect and admiration for you and your hubby. I can imagine it's a seriously tough situation for your family and I hope you cope with it the best you can. Hopefully his internet will be in full force that day and y'all will be able to communicate! And I hope your mom will be able to be there on time, too.

    Are there any military mom groups around you that could offer support? Maybe you could develop a friendship with a few gals from now til birth and that could be a huge blessing for you!
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  • MrsFirePuppyMrsFirePuppy member
    edited August 2015

    Thanks everyone :) Its hard but I am trying to stay positive. We don't get any time off before hand so when my water breaks and contractions start that's when maternity leave starts! We work up until the day of our due date. Yay lol. There aren't too many "military" mom groups, mostly just civilian wives and they can be a bit hard to "join" their groups. Plus I'm so tired by the time work ends that I just want to go home and cuddle my doggies!

    @cbowen1020, I just came from Osan so I know what your husband is going through. Even though its not a deployment but a short tour its still a long time away from family. My husband was at Kunsan that year and I was at Osan. Closer but still apart. If you have any questions about anything let me know :)

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