August 2015 Moms

Baby blues...

my beautiful baby girl was born on July 29th. I've been absolutely blissful until today. I switched from breastfeeding to formula and I've got the baby blues so bad. I can't stop crying. Is anyone else going through this? I don't think it's postpartum depression but I'm definitely having crying spells and I'm feeling really blue. :-<

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  • DS didn't get circumcised until like 6 days old.  I cried for hours afterward.  My MIL and DH thought I was crazy.  After a good meal a hot bath and some extra sleep I was a bit better.  I think everything catches up to you at some point.  The hormones, exhaustion, the changes.  Hang in there and try to take an hour or two for yourself!  Maybe even get out of the house to the grocery store, or have a family member take baby for a walk while you nap, without all those newborn sounds!

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    PPD is very common and needs to be taken seriously. Please talk to your doctor to reach out for help. While I've never dealt with this I know many women who have and there are many resources out there to help you through this time.

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  • I haven't experienced this yet, as LO is only 2 days old, but I just wanted to say do not be hard on yourself, take things one day at a time, and let your doctor know how you are feeling. Many women experience this. Creepy internet hugs to you!
  • @Miz_Liz took the words from my mouth.
  • First of all give yourself a pat on the back for recognizing the signs of postpartum blues and depression. Second, as pp's have said, talk with you healthcare provider as soon as possible about the emotions you have been experiencing. Be as candid and honest as possible, so that you and your provider can determine an appropriate plan of care. Good luck!
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  • don't rule out depression yet - it MAY be so its worth getting checked out by your ob or family doctor. It's completely normal to feel overwhelmed, teary, sad, angry when you have a new baby. It could simply be that your hormone levels are changing after giving up BFing and your body is adjusting to that? Just don't let it go on for too long before addressing it - there is absolutely no shame in it - and there is some good advice above. Plenty of internet resources out there too.

    I had depression for a year or more after the birth of my first baby and it probably wasn't until after it disappeared that I realised what it was. It sounds silly but I guess I didn't know how I was meant to feel so I thought maybe it was just part of a 'new normal.' I gained comfort from some books focusing on adjusting to the change of becoming a mother and had some counselling, which all helped a little bit, but I think it was DD's transition from baby to toddler that somehow made the clouds lift. All the best - I hope it's just a bump in the road for you :)
  • Youve gotten really good advice so ill just ditto above, but ill be thinking of you!!! Reach out to your OB if needed so it doesnt go too far if it is PPD.
  • I am so sorry.  With my first, I had the blues for the first weeks after birth and again when I stopped breastfeeding a few months later.  I can't imagine going through both at once since they both play havoc on your hormones.  I agree with the others to talk to your doctor.  Especially if you feel it going to a really dark place. 

    Also, I am not sure what your situation is but I got involved with a new moms group after the birth of my first daughter that really helped me work through all those feelings and issues.  It helps to feel not so alone.  Post partum is a rough time, but you will make it through.


     

  • the week after DS was born i was very emotional. Maybe it was my hormones leveling back out, or  it could also have been because he was in the NICU and that was very hard for me. For me, the crying spells passed after about a week an a half but absolutely reach out to your doctor about it. Becoming a mother has been a huge adjustment from what life was just weeks ago before he was here. Everything has changed, and even though it has changed in the best way possible, it is still a change and it takes time to adapt to this new lifestyle. Just remember to keep everything in perspective, and to always reach out for help.
    Always hold on to hope ❤
  • @Miz_Liz took the words from my mouth.
    This.  

    I will also add that I was very open with my OB concerning PPD and she said to give it two weeks.  Two weeks for your hormones to even out and especially to get over the crash that comes with birth.  I was the same way, cried every day, had the baby blues, etc.  But it helped to know it was completely normal and it SHOULD end (she was right on it - at 2 weeks I felt like a new person).  Definitely keep track of the time and if it doesn't get better, then call your doctor.  Sometimes something as simple as a progesterone supplement can help.

    Hang in there, good luck.

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  • I don't have any experience, but it does look like you got some amazing advice from these lovely ladies above me. Best of luck to you!! <3
  • I can't add anything from experience and you've gotten great advice... Just wanted to send you encouragement for recognizing a change in yourself and hopefully seeking out help. Best of luck to you.
  • Yes! Baby girl was born July 28. I'm
    Crying reading this. I'm so depressed. I feel lonely, scared, overwhelmed, and am in morning for my old life. We aren't breastfeeding correctly so I'm hooked to a pump every 3 hours. My husband is back at work and my mom
    Is leaving me Sunday. I think my world is about to fall apart. I called my OB and have an appt tomorrow to try to get some medicine. I can't live life this way. :(
    I love my baby so much but it's hard to take care of her when I feel this way.
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  • I went through this with DS two years ago and DD is now a week old and the baby blues started up again about day 5. With DS it lasted about two weeks and never turned into PPD. So I'm just waiting for this to pass. Some days will be worse than others but it will get better. Just hang in there and if it doesn't pass talk to your Dr.
  • kettlekittenkettlekitten member
    edited August 2015
    @dkizz82 feel free to send me a PM if you need someone to talk to who's been through it. I know how you feel and it's horrible. Here's hoping it passes quickly for you but you're doing the right thing for now by seeing your doc.

    Edited to add: anyone who needs a sympathetic ear feel free to PM. And I promise you it WILL get better!!!
  • I totally get where you are coming from! My daughter was born July 26 (was due 8/11). I started getting some baby blues around day 6. I've found that for me it's definitely tied to sleep. On days where I haven't slept much at night and don't get a nap to try and "catch up", I'm a hot mess by evening. Anything can set me off, legitimate or not.

    I hope yours gets better soon! If you feel it's becoming more than baby blues, definitely talk to your doc. Hormones are raging now and you don't have to deal with it alone (thank goodness!).

  • I haven't had to deal with ppd yet, but I have been deeming with depression most of my life. The hardest part is realizing that something isn't right and asking for help. Don't feel embarrassed by going to your doctor. You need to do what is right for you and your baby. I made it a point to tell my doctors that I've dealt with depression before and they are always asking me how I'm doing, if I need any help. Also be sure to talk to your husband so he knows what's going on too. That's what helps me the most when I feel myself start to slip. He knows the signs and helps me. I hope you feel better soon.
  • Thanks everyone. I'm going to make a doctors appointment this week. You guys are so sweet. To everyone else dealing with this, just hang in there. We'll get through this. :)
  • I think I am dealing with PPD.  Don't get me wrong, I am ecstatic that my baby is here, but the process to get him here was very traumatic and ended up with extended stays for us both (he did some time in the NICU)  I just cry at the thought of what could have happened and now I feel overwhelmed with trying to make sure he doesn't go back to the NICU (making sure he is fed every 2-3 hours, counting diapers, etc).  Before the experience I was so sure I wanted at least two more kids.  Now its looking like we might keep our baby boy as an only child.  Hubby is helping but I still feel overwhelmed and emotional, especially since he returned back to work today and it's just me and our baby.   I tell you this to let you know you aren't alone.  I told his pediatrician (I haven't seen my doctor for a follow up yet) and they are great about getting me the help that I will need.  Hope you find the help you may need as well :).  And if you ever want someone to talk to, I'll be here.
  • Something to look into but there is a hormonal leveling that occurs after finishing breastfeeding whether it's weeks or months. I had the same thing after 15 months breastfeeding. Completely normal and aside from rest exercise & diet talk to your dr if it persists. Good luck!
  • I had the same thing with my first child, baby blues starting the end of the first week, into the second. I cried a bit but the one thing I remember was an anxiety feeling more toward the afternoons and evenings for a few days. It was weird because everything was fine - the baby was fine, nothing was stressing me out - but I just felt off those first two weeks. Once someone told me it was normal I relaxed a bit. While I agree PPD is a serious thing, I think you have to give yourself a break those first few weeks and see if it levels off. Wth the huge shift in hormones I think it's normal to feel what you're feeling that first month.
  • I've mentioned before that I dealt with it pretty badly with DS. I was not ashamed to mention to my doctor how I was feeling and talk about my options. I was so relieved. I was having a hard time even functioning as a new mother and didn't want to be around DS. I was prescribed medicine that was safe for me and DS (I was nursing) and I felt so much better. Good luck!
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