16 weeks and DH hasn't told his family..

Re: 16 weeks and DH hasn't told his family..

• Emott13 member

  August 2015

  DH took a while for me, too. I don't know about your DH, but mine was just really excited to have such a wonderful, personal thing going on. He just wanted to keep it between us because he was so excited and felt that it was such a huge moment in our lives he wanted to keep it for ourselves. Guys process things differently, and keep things close to the chest. Give him time to enjoy it with you. He'll tell everyone when he's ready.

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• Mamabeagle member

  August 2015

  Maybe you should ask him if he'd like to post something on social media, or have dinner with his parents/siblings. Some people wait until 16 weeks but I don't know why you would wait longer without a discussion with him. I think it's more likely he just hasn't gotten around to telling them as opposed to he doesn't want to tell them. Talk to your husband.

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• l4rk member

  August 2015

  We told my SO's parents together, and I've left it up to him to tell his brothers. He has told one and not the other--we haven't crossed paths with him yet, and my SO hasn't put any effort into seeing him. It makes no difference to me. It's SO's job/right to tell his family and I'm going to let him do it at his leisure. Guys are weird. It's no use trying to figure out their bizarre minds.

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• keshakdavis member

  August 2015

  My husband is the same way. He's super excited and my side of the family knows but he doesn't want to tell his. He says if it were up to him he wouldn't tell them until I give birth. But I'll be announcing on social media in Sept so he says he'll tell them before then. He isn't that close to his family so that's why but I'm pretty close to 2 of his aunts who I have on fb. When I announce they'll find out if he doesn't tell them. I was bothered a bit thinking he wanted to hide it or was ashamed but after talking it out I was able to understand his reasoning. He's much closer to my family so I'll let him tell them when he's ready.

  1st child DOB 9/3/02

  
  

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  Due date 1/16/16 with our twins!

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• chellechan1 member

  August 2015

  My husband doesn't seem to care about telling anyone this time around. He said I could tell his family, and I told him I'd do that, but he needed to tell his friends and co-workers. So far at 17.5 weeks, he's told exactly one person, who asked him directly if we were planning to have more kids. My feelings are pretty hurt by this, but I know he wasn't thrilled about the baby, so I'm trying to give him space to do things his way... we are supposed to go to a co-worker's wedding in September, though, so I'm pretty sure the office will find out then. Lol.

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• JoJoMama730 member

  August 2015

  I'm nearly 15 weeks and DH is just slowly starting to tell people he knows. It's just not our way to go running around telling everybody all at once. I still haven't told my dad and step-mom (and feel guilty about it too). I guess my point is I don't think it's strange your DH is taking his time. Let him do it in a way he's comfortable with.

   

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• skfg member

  August 2015

  I understand where you are coming from. DH told his parents earlier than I had wanted bc I had a gut feeling something was going "off". Something was and in our situation it added drama. Your DH will come around, like pp said, he may want to hold it dear for a wee bit longer.

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• mommaSimpkin member

  August 2015

  DH waited to tell his mom/family. Any information with the baby, he always waits forever to tell her or he'll tell me "you can tell her, I don't care".
  After every baby appointment, I immediately call my mom and tell her everything. She'd drive me crazy if I didn't.
  DH on the other hand.. He waits forever or doesn't tell his mom at all.
  
  I honestly think it's a guy thing. Us ladies get so excited about it and we have to tell our friends and family.
  Guys on the other hand, they are excited about the baby, but they don't think to share the info with others because their excitement is a different kind of excitement than us ladies.
  In my opinion..

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• arose3eb member

  August 2015

  I agree with PP's, I honestly wouldn't worry about it. We made the misstep of telling family pretty much as soon as we found out, and we're only at the beginning of the 5th month and sick of the constant pregnancy questions. He might just want to wait to spill the beans to hold onto a little bit of privacy, which is honestly wonderful. The second EVERYONE knows, you won't be left alone!

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