My mom doesn't like the name we picked for DD#2 - Ava, due in October. DD#1 is Riley. I know I shouldn't let it bother me but it does. Ugh! Do they sound weird together?
I agree with the previous poster that they don't have to "go" together. My siblings and I all have names that don't really go together. Not like it really matters, as we all moved out and have our own lives at this point. If I heard Riley and Ava, I would assume that Riley was a boy out of the two. But since Riley has already been named, I think that any female name you use next to Riley might look a little odd. Don't stress about it. If you are having a hard time finding a name that you both like, then don't involve your mother....especially when you find one that you like.
You and your husband created the baby.....you get naming rights....whether anyone else likes it or not. HAHA
People will get used to those two names "going" together once they get used to hearing them together in the context of your family. Stick with what you picked.
Use the name you like, regardless of what your family prefers.
Personally, I've never understood the need for names to "go together" - the children aren't always referred to in one breath and they're not attached to each other (unless they're Abby and Brittany).
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Okay, I see your mom's point. Riley is a traditionally masculine name and paired with a girly girl name like Ava, it doesn't exactly "match". That said, I'm not really into sibsets matching as long as you're not going to an extreme like naming one son Zapp and the other John. Go with Ava. It's a lovely choice.
I say go with Ava. It's not a perfect fit with Riley but so what. My name is a completely different style than my sister's name and it's never bothered me. Ava is a beautiful name.
I don't get this idea of "sibsets" anyway - it's silly. Each child is a unique individual, not part of a set.
So i think if you like those names, you should use them. When your mom goes on about how much she doesn't like them, tell her it's a good thing they're not her kids.
I never heard of subsets until I started lurking in the Bump. Personally, I love Riley and I love Ava, I definately would use it.
They are their own person and when they are older they will not be around eachother 24/7 like they are when they are little.
I hate the idea of names "going together".
I never really heard of "sibset" either until I had a kid so I feel like I'm sorta worrying about nothing, BUT mom's comment didn't help!
Seriously who cares with what your mom thinks. She had a chance to name her babies. Now it's your turn. I really like Ava regardless if it matches Riley or not.
Thank you ladies! We're going to use Ava because WE like it and I agree with what alot of you are saying about "sibsets" - the girls will be two different people. I don't think their names need to match.
I agree that siblings don't have to go together. I do find myself trying to find names that fit my other kids' names though. In the long run, when is your child ever going to be referred to along with his/her brothers and sisters after the age of about 12. Certainly not in adulthood. I don't think it matters and I really don't think your names are that far off. Yes, they are a different style, but it's not like one is totally off the wall and the other is super boring and standard.
It seriously doesn't matter if the names go together. My sister has a traditional name and mine sounds like our parents smoked to much at Woodstock. Lol. Always get asked if my parents where hippies or if it's my real name. Ha! Like I would lie about that. Then things get really weird when I tell them my middle name is after the family dog's registered name.
If you like the name then definitely use it. Names do not have to go together, I'm not into making sure names sound good together. My sister and I don't have similar style names.Do what you and your hubby love because coming up with names is a hard enough job and then trying to make sure they match, flow, etc is another.
Re: Mom doesn't like sibset names
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Personally, I've never understood the need for names to "go together" - the children aren't always referred to in one breath and they're not attached to each other (unless they're Abby and Brittany).
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So i think if you like those names, you should use them. When your mom goes on about how much she doesn't like them, tell her it's a good thing they're not her kids.
Good thing it's not your mom's baby.
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Ones more feminine than the other but that's it, they sound fine!!
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