Doctor confirmed today that DD has colic. And apparently her wanting to cluster feed because of it is why she weighs 13 pounds now. She's almost 7 weeks. I just feel awful. And of course she's crying and fussy, and DH goes to work in 10 mins. I really don't want to deal with tonight alone
@rrcameron21 DS gets occasional night terrors, so he cries in his sleep during one. It's not a normal "I'm not happy" cry, but a real fear/pain cry that sets me on edge. It is the worst sound to wake up to, and there's nothing I can do but wait it out. It usually takes me an hour to get back to sleep after one because of the adrenaline dump from hearing that cry. We joke that he's being attacked by zombies in his sleep. But it's really not funny.
@Sammy K yes that's exactly what it was like! He was sound asleep then all of a sudden scream crying. I don't know any other way to describe it! I'm glad I'm not the only one. It scared me pretty bad!
@rrcameron21 & @Sammy K I'm so glad my LO isn't the only with night terrors. The first few times I woke him up by picking him up now I just shove the paci in there.
Currently pumping in the car at 2:50am during a 14 hour car ride to Myrtle Beach. LO is passed out in his car seat and has slept better the past 12 hours than he ever does at home. This is interesting.
Ugh were up 2 hours earlier for her night feeding then normal. She started fussy an hour ago but I kept putting the paci in her mouth and finally got too fed up with lost sleep so now she's done eating and hopefully will sleep soundly now. Think she might be getting too long for the rock n play at night. Now what?! I'm dreading transitioning to the bassinet. Should have just done it straight out of the hospitAl
After a rough sleep day yesterday, where she napped for maybe 5-6 hours between 8:30am and 11pm (mostly in 20-30 minute increments) and was overtired screaming most of the rest of that time, we somehow also had a rough night...maybe 7 hours of sleep with 2 feedings rather than the normal 10. I'm praying I can get her back down for a couple of hours right now. I can't deal with another day like yesterday. It's too much.
Why do babies fight sleep so hard when they're exhausted? I love sleep so much; they don't know what they're missing.
For those who were wondering about eliminating that last early morning 5:00 feeding, my baby figured out a foolproof way! Just stay awake for almost three hours after the 2:00 feeding. Worked like a charm.
@delujm0 7 hours is bad?!?! Crap girl a lot of us would kill for that!
Yall...I do not get 7 hours. LO does. You can subtract at least two of those hours for me due to "letting her be fully asleep on me pre-transfer" and "pumping post feed" and then another 1-2 because that happens after 6am and I know if I don't get up and have breakfast and tackle any to-dos before DH leaves for work I may not eat or accomplish anything all day. Truly, a good night for me is 5...and at least half of those are spent quasi-sleeping in the nursery recliner instead of my bed because she resists the initial bassinet transfer and after repeating the entire feeding/sleeping routine I don't have the energy to try to move her again.
Last night I got maybe 4 hours, two of which were in the recliner...I did actually get 7 hours one night last week though, and it was glorious. ;-)
We had a better night even Though she had a hard time going down for bed...had stomach issues. Woke up at 1:30, had a good feed- she fell asleep in my arms burping her but when I set her down in rock n play she freaked out. Took about 35 mins to get her asleep. She whined and cried around 330 but I ignored her and she miraculously fell back asleep. Up at 5- fed, same issue fought going back down- went back around 615 and still sleeping. Guess it's an improvement.
Anyone else's kid love their paci and when it falls out they freak??
So, the LO ate more at her 11pm feeding last night and still managed to wake up at 3am and again at 6am this morning. Like clockwork. Getting used to it but don't want to.
We are at my parents lake house right now, and LO was doing so great, slept from 9-2, but then the smoke detectors randomly started going off at 230. We ended up calling the fire department to come check everything since this is not our house, so we didn't get back to bed until 4. And now we have been up every hour since. The night had so much potential. . .
DH is taking the first feeding and I feel bad. I told him I haven't bonded with LO and I don't particularly like her. She's just so hard and inconsolable all. The. Time. I've given up on trying to soothe her. If she's fed, burped and dry, there's nothing I can do and she will cry until her next feeding. I can count on one hand the number of times she's slept 3+ hours straight at night and she's 7 weeks tomorrow. I just about lost it today, she never went more than one hour without crying. I never realized what an easy baby DS was. This one is a hellcat. And I'm a terrible mom because I don't like my own kid. I guess I should sleep now. And probably call my shrink tomorrow.
So, the LO ate more at her 11pm feeding last night and still managed to wake up at 3am and again at 6am this morning. Like clockwork. Getting used to it but don't want to.
DH is taking the first feeding and I feel bad. I told him I haven't bonded with LO and I don't particularly like her. She's just so hard and inconsolable all. The. Time. I've given up on trying to soothe her. If she's fed, burped and dry, there's nothing I can do and she will cry until her next feeding. I can count on one hand the number of times she's slept 3+ hours straight at night and she's 7 weeks tomorrow. I just about lost it today, she never went more than one hour without crying. I never realized what an easy baby DS was. This one is a hellcat. And I'm a terrible mom because I don't like my own kid. I guess I should sleep now. And probably call my shrink tomorrow.
Been exactly there with #2. If it helps, try to remember that right now her entire personality and mood is basically 100% based on how her stomach feels. The older she gets the more the other aspects of her will be able to shine through. My little nightmare is 2.5 now. His favorite song is Uptown Funk. He yells "I WUV it!" when he's excited. He can't resist picking a dandelion. He's awesome.
@Sammy K creepy internet hugs mama. It's so hard when you feel like you can't console your own child. And then get mad at them because they are so difficult. No one faults you for that. You are doing an amazing job...even though it's so damn hard. Sometimes you just need a minute to breathe and an hour with a therapist
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@Sammy K I've totally been there. Last month, LO was screaming his head off and I actually said that I hated him, never wanted more kids, and that he ruined my life. It does get better. He is almost 11 weeks now and I can't believe the progress he has made in the last two weeks. I am now at the point where I love him more than anything and don't want to be away from him. There is light at the end of the tunnel... I promise!
Sammyk.. This is when DH takes over without choice.. You go get a pedi.. Take your time shopping.. Etc.. Then about an hour and half out.. You will be missing LO and rush to get back
So we always start LO in the rock n play at around 8:30...then at the next feeding, right now, we move him to the pack and play. This is night 3 of getting out of the napper. DH is still at work, and I'm so tired that I'm debating on putting him in the napper where I know he'll sleep. Trying to stay strong...
I was convinced tonight was going to be *the* night where we got a 3 hour stretch of sleep. This was after I thought i had figured out that LO has been waking up in the night too hot and sweating (which id previously thought was pee - duh, I know) in his swaddle sacks. Proud of my discovery, I swaddled him in a muslin blanket and prepared for a nice 3 hour stretch.
Put him down at 10:30 and I've been up at 12:30, 1:30, 2:15, and here we are again at 3:30. He just won't settle.
Resorted to sleeping in his rocker last night bc he won't sleep in the bassinet next to our comfy bed but will so in his crib. I'm so freaking tired! He screamed or was awake for 6 hours straight. Of course DH was snoring while this is going on in our room.
LO is always pretty good when DH is home instead of on duty. He is quieter during the day, napping in his swing for an hour or more after being bounced or soothed into a nap, or being awake / not angry and hanging out contendedly, or taking his bottle feedings with little spit up and then resting for a good long while after. Its so frustrating. Last night DH stayed up a little late with LO and I went up to bed at 9ish to get a jump on some sleep. They stayed downstairs until 10 when DH gave him a top-off bottle (he had just finished one before I went to bed) and brought him up about 1030. Apparently the kid did not spit up, and the shirt walk from the loving room to the bedroom put him out. Awesome. 2am (3 and half hours after DH put him down) comes and its my responsibility because DH is going back on duty today, 2 days and 2 nights at the station and me home alone with LO. So it takes an hour to feed LO, that gets us to 3am. It takes over a half hour to get him back to sleep. I lay down and am unable to return to sleep until almost an hour later at 430am. And before 530 am woken up by LO, who is awake and already beginning the pre-meal fuss.
SO glad DH had me come up to bed early and kept LO that extra little bit. Cause it's looking like I'm all set for another 2 days of LO never being good for me like he is for his dad. I will probably not get back to sleep until after DH leaves at 7 (its now 6am), and that will be a super short shift because its light out and LO is learning that's daytime and time to be awake. Then it will be constant crying all day. No napping in the swing, not for me. No quiet time, not for me. I'll probably get a few minutes of awake / not angry time, but nothing like the stretch of time DH got. Another 2 days of eating junk because i cant take 10 minutes to make something substantial to eat, and not being able to nap when he naps, and not getting any good stretches of sleep at night. This kid hates me, I think.
Hang in there @mellymar! I can imagine how tough it is. My DH has been working late and hasn't been able to put our LO to sleep or give him his late night bottle like normal. Last night, DS would not stop screaming, and I definitely felt he disliked me. Wouldn't take the pack. Then I realized he wanted to nurse...total comfort nursing...for an hour until he passed out. Sometimes I think they smell milk when we have them and just won't settle down. You're doing awesome and that little boy loves you!!!
I hope this made sense...I'm exhausted and falling asleep holding my phone...
I've been struggling with sleep myself. I just can't seem to sleep much at night even when LO is! I'm dreading going back to work in 2 weeks. Not sure how I'll function with such little sleep & no napping during the day. I have an autoimmune disease that is definitely affected by lack of sleep. I get moments of severe fatigue, weakness & woozy feeling where I just have to sit or lie down ASAP. LO is 10 weeks & still doesn't really have a schedule. So nervous about work, can't shut my brain off & that's not helping me catch any decent sleep either.
Since we moved everything is in one room until we get it all painted. Which means DH wakes up because I feed her in bed with the lights on and talk to her. He is visibly huffy and tired every morning and I just smirk and shrug my shoulders. Sorry not sorry.
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@amccoy129 I *never* thought that he might be smelling milk and that was why he wouldn't settle for me. You smart, girl. Thanks for the perspective. How to solve that problem, I have no idea, but at least I can tell myself that instead of thinking my kid hates me.
@mellymar they definitely smell the boob! I was holding my cousins baby today and he was hungry. He was crying and trying to nurse from me but was fine being held by everyone else. I felt so bad!
@Sammy K I definitely shouted WHAT'S YOUR PROBLEM at LO this morning.not my proudest moment but it's so hard when they're inconsolable!!
I have also done this. @Sammy K its hard to feel like you're connecting when the LO cries so much and is so much work. I find easy to lose my patience and it takes a lot additional patience to just keep going and not wig out. I feel ya. Glad your DH was able to step in and give you a break. Dont feel guilty, we need our own time. Guard it jealously and advocate for yourself for it. I'm learning this lesson the hard way, but I'm learning it. Hugs. >:D<
Re: Nighttime sucks. That is all.
I just want to cry and have someone run and feed me. Can I train my fiancé to do this? Chocolate please.
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Why do babies fight sleep so hard when they're exhausted? I love sleep so much; they don't know what they're missing.
Last night I got maybe 4 hours, two of which were in the recliner...I did actually get 7 hours one night last week though, and it was glorious. ;-)
Anyone else's kid love their paci and when it falls out they freak??
Put him down at 10:30 and I've been up at 12:30, 1:30, 2:15, and here we are again at 3:30. He just won't settle.
I. Hate. Nighttime! (
SO glad DH had me come up to bed early and kept LO that extra little bit. Cause it's looking like I'm all set for another 2 days of LO never being good for me like he is for his dad. I will probably not get back to sleep until after DH leaves at 7 (its now 6am), and that will be a super short shift because its light out and LO is learning that's daytime and time to be awake. Then it will be constant crying all day. No napping in the swing, not for me. No quiet time, not for me. I'll probably get a few minutes of awake / not angry time, but nothing like the stretch of time DH got. Another 2 days of eating junk because i cant take 10 minutes to make something substantial to eat, and not being able to nap when he naps, and not getting any good stretches of sleep at night. This kid hates me, I think.
I hope this made sense...I'm exhausted and falling asleep holding my phone...
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