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Feeling Blue?

AtlasmomAtlasmom member
in September 2015 Moms

I'm wondering if other women are feeling blue or if it's just me. I feel like putting a pillow over my head and crying. It has been really bad last few days...almost like depression. It makes me feel even worse when people tell me that I "should" be happy and excited because of the baby. The baby has nothing to do with why I feel sad. I don't love my baby any less because I feel sad. Anyways...I'm a FTM 33 weeks and being pregnant feels lonely sometimes.

Not sure if this is normal, hormones, or if I should call the doc.

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  • TeacherMom210TeacherMom210 member
    Getting into the last weeks can be overwhelming. Don't let anyone tell you how you "should" feel. There's no such thing. 

    However, have someone help keep an eye on you, if you can. If you think it is depression, you want to talk to someone, and you might need to be monitored more carefully for postpartum depression after the baby is born. Perhaps mention it to your ob?
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  • PlainJane8350PlainJane8350 member
    I've been more emotional lately, too, especially since I thought that phase was over! I got upset trying to find nursing stuff, everything my husband does (or doesn't do, rather) hurts my feelings and I even started over analyzing my belly button yesterday! For me, it's all just getting real...and real scary. At least we have each other, thinking of all of you guys tonight!
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  • verveine407verveine407 member
    Really good answers already but I want to add that sometimes being a mommy can be lonely. It is really good to reach out to your doc, friends, or family. Reaching out to an in person birth club or mommy group can be really helpful too. Hang in there!
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  • HayliBeanHayliBean member
    edited August 2015
    I have major depressive disorder and anxiety. Annnd I'm not on my meds as I want to avoid possible problems for my daughter...
    It's caused me to spiral down pretty bad these past few weeks as my hormones change. 32 weeks 4 days ftm.
    I understand what your feeling. I hope for you that it passes. I know mine won't... But it's also the lonely feeling. No one wants to hang out with the preggo... It's freaking miserable... I want my girl born just so I will have someone to spend the time my husbands at work with... :/
    Your not alone mama.
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  • knowmeinadifferentlightknowmeinadifferentlight member
    STM and I feel similarly. Just feeling pretty down and not motivated to do much of anything at all. I feel like this will pass any day now, but hopefully sooner than later. I feel like a real bummer to my family lately even though I still put on a smile. I keep reminding myself it is only temporary, and that helps a little.
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  • AtlasmomAtlasmom member
    PlainJane8350 said:
    I've been more emotional lately, too, especially since I thought that phase was over! I got upset trying to find nursing stuff, everything my husband does (or doesn't do, rather) hurts my feelings and I even started over analyzing my belly button yesterday! For me, it's all just getting real...and real scary. At least we have each other, thinking of all of you guys tonight!
    I'm glad it's not just me. It can make you feel crazy sometimes. I've been over analyzing everything my SO says, does, or doesn't do. He made a mild comment and I started crying. Feeling less sad today but still very emotional.
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  • AtlasmomAtlasmom member
    Thanks everyone for the comments and encouragement. It helps to know I'm not the only one in this situation. I'm feeling less sad today but still very emotional.
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  • TracyYoung819TracyYoung819 member
    I don't feel down or depressed but I find myself describing how I feel as "bleh or meh" with low motivation. Not a bad mood though.

    I think I've had a change in hormones, I can usually tell because I feel funky for a few days or so on the inside.

    I've also been experiencing more physical pains that I haven't had that I think are more common for the 3rd trimester. I'm just done being pregnant. Tired of the physical aches and pains, tired of sleeping better during naps than at night, tired of feeling tired, and tired of waiting for motherhood to begin and ready for it to start!
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  • mpache06mpache06 member
    I'm right there with u. Yesterday I had a horrible depressed day and finally broke down crying. I'm also a FTM and single. I feel very lonely and cannot wait for my baby girl to be here. She's what keeps me going!
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  • Knottie84998431Knottie84998431 member
    I'm glad to read that I'm not the only one. The last week or two has been really tough and I feel very much alone. I've been super anxious about everything and work stress has been increasing - last night I just sat down and cried over everything because that's all that felt right. I'm feeling a little better today, but even as I say that I've had several new stressors come up in the last 12 hours. I just need a break - from work, from my husband, from the hormones!
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  • kakemacckakemacc member
    It is normal. You are not alone. Feeling mild, moderate or severe depression does put us at higher risk for post partum depression despite being very normal so when someone said make sure someone is monitoring you, she was right. This has nothing to do with how much you love your unborn child. Share this with your OB. Do NOT feel ashamed. Share this with your partner or someone you trust. Keep talking here. Whatever helps you feel better. I cannot stress enough that you are not alone in this. No matter what severity, most of us have suffered from some form mental strain during our pregnancy.
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  • kmcshane0211kmcshane0211 member
    Yep. I've been the happiest I've ever been this entire pregnancy. Then, the last few days I feel overwhelmed with anger and worry. I also notice that I'm isolating myself from others. I do feel a bit on the mend today, so hoping it was just a brief phase. Hang in there. It's just your body doing its thing.
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  • surprisepkg31surprisepkg31 member
    I've been blue this whole pregnancy. 2nd trimester when I had energy was the only time I felt good. I was able to get out and be motivated. My fatigue is so intense and makes me feel depressed. No one seems to really get it. I take a walk and I'm so exhausted. I can barely grocery shop. I don't feel like crying much anymore but my temper is pretty bad. I've been dealing with my husband's annoying family and that hasn't helped. Not working doesn't help either, im bored with no money. So no fun baby shopping for me. It's all getting very old. I just want to move forward and meet my son.
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  • ElecinElecin member
    I can relate for sure. I'm just as excited as ever to meet my little girl but something has me feeling off this week and very weepy.
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  • jeninaz1221jeninaz1221 member
    I had an epiphany tonight that I feel like it's kind of similar to that depressed, low motivation feeling I get when I've gained some weight. When my body isn't responding the way I want and I feel sluggish and tired all the time, it makes me depressed. And that's pretty much the definition of what's going on right now with my body. I'm sure the hormones don't help either. :/ You are definitely not alone!
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  • str13str13 member
    Just wanted to agree that is mention it to your OB, even if you think it's nothing and managable without help. I have a history of PPD and just let my OB know how I'm doing with my mood. It's better than its been in the past, but definitely had a rough (understatement!!) patch. My OB offered my a prescription which I declined, so he sent it to my pharmacy so that it was there at any point I needed it.
    Like mentioned by pp, if you have someone that you could let know how you're feeling and where you're at emotional, it would be an awesome safety net for you! Also make sure you have it in place after delivery as well!
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