TTC after 35

Bad news about our PGS test

My husband and I just got off the phone with the dr and he broke the news - all three of our embryos were abnormal.  So we have to start all over again.  We are both in shock right now.  I know most people have to do more than one cycle of IVF, I just really didn't want to be one of them.  I think we all believe that we're going to beat the odds.  I thought - I'm healthy, I look younger than I am, of course my eggs are better than others my age.  But it's just not true.  

The dr tried to accentuate the positive.  A lot went right in this cycle (we got 11 eggs, most of them fertilized), the quality was just not good.  It's hard not to feel disappointed.

At the same time, I feel weirdly relieved.  The waiting was awful.  Just awful.  I'd rather have bad news than no news.

Thanks for listening, all.  I so appreciate it.

Re: Bad news about our PGS test

  • So sorry for bad news, but I'm glad you feel relieved to be out of the wait and can focus on the positives from this round!
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  • I am so very sorry. I just wish I had magic words. I love that you are keeping positive despite the news.
    Sending you lots of well wishes and support xo
    Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
  • Thanks all, your words of kindness and support mean so much.  The shock is starting to wear off and sadness set in but knowing there are people out there who understand is very comforting.
  • I'm learning about the IVF process and appreciate you sharing your experience. I'm so sorry you didn't get better news today.
  • Sending Internet hugs...
  • So sorry to hear this. Sounds like you are keeping positive and that's all that counts. Good luck going forward!
    Me: 40  
    TTC #1: 3 years
    Me: Type II Diabetic
    Started with RE 11/2014
    Going through IUI with Donor Sperm


  • I'm so sorry you're going through this.

    I can totally relate to looking young and having old eggs. Last week at a dr's office, they were looking around for my mom because they thought I was under 18. In my head, I thought, "I'm 37. If you don't believe me, I'll show you my ovaries."

    And you're so right about believing we'll beat the odds, like bad stuff only happens to other people. My protective bubble of happiness was burst not so long ago.

    I hope you have better luck next month!
    TTC#1 since Jan 2015
    BFP 2/19/15  •  MMC found at 9 wks  •  D&E at 11 wks (age 36)
    BFP 8/29/15
      •  CP (age 37)
    BFP 11/18/15  •  DD born at 41 weeks <3(age 37/38)

    TTC#2 since May 2017
    BFP 10/18/17  •  MMC found at 8 wks  •  Misoprostal at 10.5 wks (age 39)

    BFP 2/16/18
      •  CP (age 39)
    BFP 4/13/18
      •  CP (age 39)
    BFP 5/07/18  •  MMC found at 10.5 wks  •  D&E at 11.5 wks 
    •  Testing showed it was a girl with Trisomy 22. (age 39/40)
    9/5/18 Diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve (4-5 follicles, one ovary had none and was very atrophied)

    RE says the low egg count is likely causing my recurrent pregnancy loss. Less eggs results in more aneuploidy.

    BFP 9/24/18  • 
    CP (age 40)
    BFP 5/11/19  •  Fraternal twins  •  MMC found at 10w5d (Baby A 6w, Baby B 10w)  •  Misoprostal at 11 weeks (age 41)













  • I love your positive attitude in spite of unfavorable news. Im sorry for the poopy news. Good luck to you moving forward.
  • I'm sorry about that. Sending hugs your way.
  • What a let down.  On the bright side, thank goodness they check for these things with IVF.  Sending you hugs and more positivity for the next round :)

    **child mentioned**
    Me(38)PCOS/Hypothyroid   DH(43)Low T/ED
    MMC at 10 weeks 03/2011 DD born 01/2012   TTC #2 since 04/2014
    BFP 8/26/2016


  • So sorry about your news. It's great you can look at the positives. Wishing you the best in the coming months!
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