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Miscarriage 1st pregnancy

jrmahlerjrmahler member
in Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
Me and my husband found out we were expecting a few weeks ago and we have been so excited. Friday night (7/31) I began spotting. We went to the ER and they did blood work and said my hcg levels were low. And to go see my OB today. My OB sent me back to the ER because my bleed had gotten worse. My hcg levels only went up 146 points. They want me to go back Wednesday for more blood work but I have started cramping pretty bad. And I don't wanna hear them say it. I know it's happening but to hear them say it out loud will be unbearable. How can I cope with the news? How can I move on? When do we try again? My heart is breaking!
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  • cyntoddcyntodd member
    So sorry that you are going through this. I wish I could tell you ways to cope but I haven't found anything wonderful yet and I'm 4 weeks out from finding out I was having a mmc. The good days are starting finally to out way the bad but I definitely still have days of just being a mess. My only advice is to let yourself grieve. Take plenty of time for yourself the next couple of weeks. I took two weeks off work. Just try not to be too hard on yourself and know that it is not your fault. Prayers ♡
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  • mt1403mt1403 member
    So truly and deeply sorry that you are going through this. I wish there were something we could all say to each other to make this all go away but unfortunately there is just nothing to lessen the pain. Give yourself all the time you need to grieve. I know it's not what you want to hear right now but time does heal. You will never forget but you will get to a point where you have more good days than bad. Seek support from those you love and trust. This site has been an absolute blessing. Talking to people who understand exactly what you are going through is a big help. Best wishes to you and again I am truly sorry.
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  • nram25nram25 member
    My heart goes out to you I'm sorry for your loss..I had a missed mc on Jan.3 after finding out I was pregnant 2 days before it happened so fast and was very heartbreaking and devastating to hear the doc. say there wasn't a sac. I cried like a baby and my feelings were hurt deeply. On April 8, I found out I was 6wks pregnant with twins. Currently 22wks with a boy and girl. So it's ok to grieve and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. God make no mistakes so keep your head up and don't give up. Good luck!!
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  • taraemerald11taraemerald11 member

    Take time to yourself and lean on your husband for support - do things that you love together to take your mind off it. My sister in law gave me a good piece of advice after my miscarriage last year (first pregnancy as well) - go enjoy the things that you can't do when you are pregnant - like eat sushi (if you enjoy sushi) and drink wine. It may sound silly, but little things like that really helped me get through the sad days.

    We didn't start trying again for 5 months after my MC - my period took 3 months to return and I needed to heal a bit emotionally from it. I will be thinking of you during this difficult time.

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