Bed sharing

maybebaby84 · August 2015

Anyone out there bed sharing with their newborn? My son is 1 week old and just won't sleep in his bassinet. He's done it only a handful of times. What my husband and I started doing was one of us would sleep and the other would watch. I've always been adamantly against bed sharing and have heard about so many reported instances when a baby would die because someone rolled over on the baby. It is just that my husband goes back to work next week and we can't keep doing this sleeping in shifts thing. I'm really thinking about bed sharing so everybody gets some sleep. Any thoughts?

2babes3angels · August 2015

Girl, good luck with this thread!!! You are bound to get plenty of very strong opinions! I will say with our first, we were desperate for a good night's sleep a couple times and definitely tried it, but i just never got to a point where I felt comfortable enough to do it. I'd say if you're going to do it, read up on the recommendations for doing it safely. Plenty of people bed share without issues. We just never felt peace about doing it for our family

Ebunnee87 · August 2015

We do it started because I couldn't hear her breathing and then it just stayed. My husband works at night so it's just me and the LO at night so there's not any major issue for me on the the two nights that my husband is home I use my maternity pillow to divide the baby and my husband. Luckily she sleeps anywhere and I am afraid she'll get used to it and won't transition but it's what works for us right now. She sleeps longer at night when she sleeps with me and it makes the late night early morning breastfeedings much easier. I don't know if it helped but trust that I understand! Good luck! Oh and I know the fear is real when it comes to rolling on the baby and things of that nature but I don't have that issue my only complaint is when she wakes she kicks me until I wake up and I don't know if at 2 weeks she knows what she's doing but I feel like she does!

klirwin82 · August 2015

There is a mini- bassinet sleeper thing I saw yesterday at BRU if you want to try to do this more safely...it's $60 and it has 4 sides, you put it in between you and you cannot roll over onto it. We were thinking of getting one but since Goober *usually* calms down eventually in the bassinet we decided we didn't want to encourage him co-sleeping with us and create a monster later.

crf4 · August 2015

It depends on so many thing honestly. It worked great for my second, I never once even moved when he was in bed with me and it was the only way anyone got any sleep. My husband camped on the couch for a few weeks because with a queen bed there's just not enough room for three. This baby it won't work for some reason I can't seem to relax and sleep when she's in bed with me so to the rock n play she goes (even though I honestly miss how easy it was with my middle child - nurse and then fall asleep!). This will definitely illicit strong responses but my best advice when asked is always just go with your gut.

maybebaby84 · August 2015

I've looked at those sleepers that go in the bed. I'm just worried it will be another thing he won't go for. If he was just fussy in the bassinet I'd probably just try to soothe him to sleep, but it's the moment he's away from our heat in there he wakes up and shows signs of hunger. I fell asleep several times while nursing him last night on the couch, which is apparently one of the worst things you can do!

Leahauc · August 2015

Hubby works nights, so when he's not home, LO sleeps on a changing pad on his side of the bed. It's a harder surface than our memory foam mattress, plus she's a little elevated with raised sides, but she's closer to me for middle of the night feedings and diaper changes. Plus she and I both like it better.

beccer123 · August 2015

I co-slept with my first. I tried not to bc of all the stories you hear. I couldn't get her to sleep anywhere but with me or the floor. By the time she was abt 6 months old, she was sick and I gave in to co-sleeping. I was a single parent at that point. She slept with me until she was abt 4 yrs old. Then she transitioned to her twin bed with no issues. To this day, she still loves to sleep with me but she has no problems sleeping alone as well.

Jmitch8 · August 2015

I also co-slept with my first. He slept better when he was next to me. He is 4 now and he goes between sleeping in my bed and his bed. I haven't tried co-sleeping with baby, he sleeps in a rock and play next to our bed and he does really well in it.

lovehorse77 · August 2015

Nope, I'm way too terrified. I already wake up in the night thinking I'm holding her or she's under my covers when she's safe in her own bed. I would be so insanely worried that I'd get zero sleep. Hubby feels the same. For us having baby in bed is not something we are comfortable with.

Youngwithra · August 2015

Leahauc said:
Hubby works nights, so when he's not home, LO sleeps on a changing pad on his side of the bed. It's a harder surface than our memory foam mattress, plus she's a little elevated with raised sides, but she's closer to me for middle of the night feedings and diaper changes. Plus she and I both like it better.

My hubby works nights also, so I co sleep...

BAYOUWIFE · August 2015

You have to really know your self. I know I sleep way too hard, especially right now with very little sleep, to cosleep. At this age it terrifies me because they are so small and I don't think I would feel him in time.

BAYOUWIFE · August 2015

What about one of those cosleepers that attach to the side of your bed?

arbell615 · August 2015

I use the arms reach bassinet co-sleeper which has been great for us. One of the sides collapses down when you attach it to the side of the bed so it's easy for me to put my hand on LO which calms her a lot! It also makes it easier to pick her up if she really starts fussing than if she was in a separate crib.

Ckorines · August 2015

Guilty of cosleeping. It works for us.

corndogrobot · August 2015

I LOVE co sleeping! It's the only way we got sleep with my son (he will be 4 on Thursday). He still loves to come in our room and snuggle in the mornings.

wheresilenceismusic · August 2015

We co-sleep and it works very well for us.

There are safe and unsafe ways to co-sleep. When OBs, pediatricians, and the media portray co-sleeping as solely 'bad,' parents cannot properly educate themselves about safe ways to do it.

(Remember, cribs were at one time considered unsafe -- SIDS was called "crib death" for a reason!)

If you're looking for information about safe ways to co-sleep, check out this resource:

https://cosleeping.nd.edu/safe-co-sleeping-guidelines/

Youngwithra · August 2015

wheresilenceismusic said:
We co-sleep and it works very well for us.

There are safe and unsafe ways to co-sleep. When OBs, pediatricians, and the media portray co-sleeping as solely 'bad,' parents cannot properly educate themselves about safe ways to do it.
(Remember, cribs were at one time considered unsafe -- SIDS was called "crib death" for a reason!)

If you're looking for information about safe ways to co-sleep, check out this resource:

https://cosleeping.nd.edu/safe-co-sleeping-guidelines/

Is that pic on the article consider safe?

maybebaby84 · August 2015

wheresilenceismusic said:
We co-sleep and it works very well for us.

There are safe and unsafe ways to co-sleep. When OBs, pediatricians, and the media portray co-sleeping as solely 'bad,' parents cannot properly educate themselves about safe ways to do it.
(Remember, cribs were at one time considered unsafe -- SIDS was called "crib death" for a reason!)

If you're looking for information about safe ways to co-sleep, check out this resource:

https://cosleeping.nd.edu/safe-co-sleeping-guidelines/

La Leche League is a good source too with their Safe Sleep 7. I did sleep with my son last night because I was just so exhausted and every time I put him down in that bassinet last night he woke up within a minute distraught. My husband laid with us and stayed awake to watch, but by morning he was so tired. He ended up sleeping on the couch with me and the baby in bed. It scares me but at the same time I know breastfeeding mothers have been doing it for a very long time.

wheresilenceismusic · August 2015

@youngwithra -- Yes, but please read the whole article.

nat11890 · August 2015

my little guy refused to sleep in the cradle or in his bed. I noticed that after breastfeeding he would fall asleep and then as soon as you set him down he would wake up. what we ended up doing is breastfeeding in the side lying position so he falls asleep. luckily, the pack and play we got has a little mini cradle type thing...basically like a little bed. so we put that in our bed between us and once the baby falls asleep we move him to the bed. makes us feel more comfortable because the sides of the mini cradle are raised, and since baby loves sleeping on his side, he won't roll because of our weight next to him.

just like one of the other mommas said, I saw a little bed to put in your bed too. the one I saw was at buy buy baby and I think it was around $60

ashleytiff · August 2015

My son sleeps in his bassinet until it's time to eat...then he falls asleep nursing and I don't want to move him right away and have him wake up...then I eventually fall asleep before I move him. I'm a very light sleeper though and I wake up to every peep he makes

aligmclean · August 2015

My LO is 2 wks and we cosleep, that was not the original plan though. She won't sleep anywhere else. Surprisingly I actually sleep better with her right next to me because I can feel and hear her breathing.
Another surprise bonus was having her gently wake me up to eat with subtle noises or movements. We can go the whole night with no crying because of this. I feel more intune with her needs...

katiexxpaige · August 2015

I cosleep with my LO. He is 3 1/2 weeks old. I planned on him sleeping in his bassinet but it never happened, he refused to sleep at night anywhere but cuddled with me. We haven't had any issues with it. The past week he has started sleeping in his bassinet at night but will sleep twice as long in bed. Our plan is to start transitioning him fully into a crib when he starts sleeping through the night.
My parents slept with my two siblings and I for the first few months.

Thera888 · August 2015

We co-sleep. Actually over here it's completely ok to do so. As long as you follow few guidelines. No smokers in room and baby should have his/her own blanket.

jesicabrennan · August 2015

aligmclean said:
My LO is 2 wks and we cosleep, that was not the original plan though. She won't sleep anywhere else. Surprisingly I actually sleep better with her right next to me because I can feel and hear her breathing.
Another surprise bonus was having her gently wake me up to eat with subtle noises or movements. We can go the whole night with no crying because of this. I feel more intune with her needs...

This. Except I planned to do it for the first 3 months as I did with my DS. They're so tiny at first I can't imagine having him anywhere but right next to me!

maybebaby84 · August 2015

I worry I'll hurt him but I've found I wake to his little noises and I don't even move in my sleep. Still going to try and get one of those cosleepers that can sit between me and my husband.

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