My toddler hurt my feelings

RNmommy13 · August 2015

DS has always preferred DH. He's fun, doesn't correct DS unless he's really bad. But it really hurts my feelings when DS gets hurt and wants nothing to do with me. I just want DS to run past DH to me for once.

MadBloom · August 2015

Don't take it personally! My daughter is 15 months and I find that if my parents are around then I'm dead to her lol. She sees me all day every day so when her other big people are around then she basically ignores me and goes right to them.

I'm sure he love you and your husband equally and he doesn't mean to upset you.

megandchase · August 2015

Don't take it personal he still loves you! Tonight we went to dinner with my sister and BIL and when it was time to go my sister asked my son if he wanted to go home with her and he said "yeah! Bye mommy" and started walking off toward their car. Broke my heart but then he hugs me and kisses me goodnight and all is forgotten

kmkrushi · August 2015

I got my first "I dont love you" from DD the other night. She's 2 1/2.

BowWowBowie · August 2015

They're going to break your heart over & over again. I'm not my DD's favorite because I'm more strict than my DH. But there are days and times when she needs/wants her mom. You're going to be told they hate you, that they don't love you and they want you to go away and it's going to hurt, every single time. I remind myself that she doesn't mean it, she's trying to still find ways to convey her emotions. It's hard, but know they love you no matter what.

katiedhunter · August 2015

Honestly my second son is kinda a momma suck and I find it hard to deal with sometimes. Like please just let your dad do it for you!! But nope it's gotta be mommy. lol

urby87 · August 2015

SS is a major daddy's boy for the same reasons you mentioned (Husband loves to horse around and is not much of an enforcer). It hurt my feelings for a long time, and for a long time I kept it mostly to myself. One day, I finally broke down (literally in tears) and had to explain that I felt left out, like he didn't like me as much as Daddy. I felt awful about it, but I've got to say that our family dynamic has much improved since then. Maybe it's totally unrelated, or maybe he made a conscious effort to start showing me more affection and appreciation. I don't know, but it's much better now than it used to be. Sending creepy internet hugs and hoping you get something worked out soon!

lulamagoo · August 2015

It will happen. I have finally been invited to the bed time routine again, I was kicked out by our son for a good 6 months. (We taught him to politely ask for "boys time please" instead of saying "mama go" to save my feelings)

krae771 · August 2015

My 22 mo DS is exactly the same. He likes me fine enough when it's just us but if my DH is around, he only wants him. He will hug DH and say "mine" and give me a look and say "bye" sometimes combined with a push away, which is his way of saying "go away."

DH is definitely the fun one, so I try not to take it too personally but after awhile it gets bothersome (like all weekend). :-/

aishajohnson3 · August 2015

My son is the same way,but it's ok i know he loves his mother.

JStill0603 · August 2015

I think kids go through phases. My SS was a total daddy freak when I met him. After 6 months I finally told his dad that our relationship would be hard pressed to continue if I kept feeling left out and like I didn't fit in with him and his son... My DHs response was "he doesn't like females, he really hates my mom even." But soon thereafter, things got a little better and now 3 years later, we have been through many phases... Wanting daddy most, wanting mommy most and wanting me most. He goes through it with his grandparents and which ones of them are his favorite too. Wait him out, soon he will only want you to do things for him.

Side note: SS lived with DH, and DH's parents before we got married and moved in together. A couple weeks ago when SS got stung by a bee at the ball park, I thought my FIL was going to cry when SS only wanted me and wouldn't let me go to allow his grandfather to hold him! It happens to us all...

Falchas · August 2015

kmkrushi said:

I got my first "I dont love you" from DD the other night. She's 2 1/2.

Haven't gotten it yet, but overhead my son (3) saying that to my husband the other day. I'm bracing myself 'cause I know it's coming. I always tell sad pals not to take it personally too, but man, it's hard when it happens to you!

Kanne0729 · August 2015

Do not let it get to you. My 5 year old son absolutely adores my husband, he hates when he goes to work or leaves the house for anything he runs out the door begging to go with him, the one day he actually cried and said I don't want to stay here with Mommy, but he doesn't do that with me at all. If they are outside playing and I come out, he will tell me to go inside. When he first starting doing it, I was hurt, but I quickly got over it and realized that he is a little kid, they aren't intentionally trying to hurt us. He spends all day with me so obviously when my husband comes home he gravitates more towards him because he hasn't seen him all day and he missed him. My husband is way more adventurous and fun than I am too so I think that plays a big part in it. Just know that your lo loves you no matter what even if at times it seems like they don't, they do.

kmkrushi · August 2015

Falchas said:

kmkrushi said:

I got my first "I dont love you" from DD the other night. She's 2 1/2.

Haven't gotten it yet, but overhead my son (3) saying that to my husband the other day. I'm bracing myself 'cause I know it's coming. I always tell sad pals not to take it personally too, but man, it's hard when it happens to you!

****edit Quote fail
I knew it would happen eventually but I was not prepared that night. Overly emotional and hormonal I definitely burst into tears when I shut the door.

Want a personalized experience?

My toddler hurt my feelings

Re: My toddler hurt my feelings

Choose Another Board

Search Boards