question! I know this has been asked before and some of you long timers are probably going to be rude and tell me to "lurk" but you know what? I wanted to ask for myself and maybe get some new-comer answers! So please, if you're going to be negative, please leave because that is soooo not what this website is used for! So, I'm on my cycle after a very early miscarriage (hoping for the best this time) and had a drink last night and two tonight! I don't plan on drinking anymore till we know seeing I have a short cycle and will probably know sometime next week! My question is how many of you abstain from drinking or actually drink till its pink?! I heard that the first few weeks don't matter since you don't share anything with the baby, yet I still feel this slight regret thinking what if those two drinks tonight will make me miscarry again, or something else not good?!
I'm in my second month TTC. I haven't drinken anything but honestly, I'm not a big drinker. I leave for vacation monday and plan on taking a test in the morning just to have peace of mind in case I do drink something while away. I know drinking until you get a BFP has zero effect on conceiving but I still don't feel completely comfortable with drinking while TTC.
question! I know this has been asked before and some of you long timers are probably going to be rude and tell me to "lurk" but you know what? I wanted to ask for myself and maybe get some new-comer answers! So please, if you're going to be negative, please leave because that is soooo not what this website is used for! So, I'm on my cycle after a very early miscarriage (hoping for the best this time) and had a drink last night and two tonight! I don't plan on drinking anymore till we know seeing I have a short cycle and will probably know sometime next week! My question is how many of you abstain from drinking or actually drink till its pink?! I heard that the first few weeks don't matter since you don't share anything with the baby, yet I still feel this slight regret thinking what if those two drinks tonight will make me miscarry again, or something else not good?!
QFP
This is not the best way to start a discussion. Just sayin'.
I actually made a poll for this recently. Either search or click my screen name and see the discussions I've made. The majority drink til it's pink, but there are many people doing different things.
question! I know this has been asked before and some of you long timers are probably going to be rude and tell me to "lurk" but you know what? I wanted to ask for myself and maybe get some new-comer answers! So please, if you're going to be negative, please leave because that is soooo not what this website is used for! So, I'm on my cycle after a very early miscarriage (hoping for the best this time) and had a drink last night and two tonight! I don't plan on drinking anymore till we know seeing I have a short cycle and will probably know sometime next week! My question is how many of you abstain from drinking or actually drink till its pink?! I heard that the first few weeks don't matter since you don't share anything with the baby, yet I still feel this slight regret thinking what if those two drinks tonight will make me miscarry again, or something else not good?!
I have had some wine here and there. Asked my doctor, and he said "the industry standard is to say no drinking. The reality is research suggests alcohol in moderation is fine."
I stopped drinking all together when we decided to start ttc. I was never a big drinker before that, though. (Maybe 1-2 drinks per month?) I felt it better to err on the side of caution.
Me: 26, DH: 31
Married: August 13, 2011
Due Date: June 15, 2017
Fur Babies: Remi (Labrador, 9) and Brutus (Pug, 4)
The poll was actually made maybe two weeks ago that @lalala2004 was describing so it's not like this was SUCH a long time ago.
And actually the "long timers" LOVE this topic because to TTC for months on end, going through losses and the cray cray of everything LOTS OF WINE IS USUALLY NEEDED TO DEAL.
No need to poke a potentially drunk bumping bear so to speak with your presumptions.
Obviously I did go there! this is an open website, therefore, if I want to ask a question, I'm am more than free to do so! Thanks for your wonderful gif though!
Yeah, I think it was less asking a question (even though the question has been asked a lot, including recently) and more the way you set it up.... saying, in the same breath, that regular contributors are rude but that negativity is "soooo not what this website is used for." Seems a bit hypocritical.
TTC #1 --- BFP #1 5/15, loss at 5 weeks --- BFP #2 12/15, loss at 4+3 --- RE testing 3/16 normal, still trying for our rainbow
Thank you to all you lovely ladies that did reply though!!! I'm done, I just wanted to see if I could ease the guilt!
If this is the case I'm just genuinely confused why you couldn't search for a similar thread. How does it make a difference if a bunch of people today say "drink til it's pink!" vs. a few weeks ago?
TTC #1 --- BFP #1 5/15, loss at 5 weeks --- BFP #2 12/15, loss at 4+3 --- RE testing 3/16 normal, still trying for our rainbow
Honestly, a lot of people on this sight are rude. I think it's pathetic when I go and read threads and see someone attacking another person for asking a simple question. I really couldn't care less how many times a question has been answered. Obviously if you know the question has been answered and still click on the thread to read it, then it's a bit pathetic to even click on it...just sayin'! ;P
Right now you're the only person saying that people are rude and pathetic. I just want to know why having people today tell you that they drink while TTC eases your guilt any more than people a month ago saying the same thing.
TTC #1 --- BFP #1 5/15, loss at 5 weeks --- BFP #2 12/15, loss at 4+3 --- RE testing 3/16 normal, still trying for our rainbow
question! I know this has been asked before and some of you long timers are probably going to be rude and tell me to "lurk" but you know what? I wanted to ask for myself and maybe get some new-comer answers! So please, if you're going to be negative, please leave because that is soooo not what this website is used for! So, I'm on my cycle after a very early miscarriage (hoping for the best this time) and had a drink last night and two tonight! I don't plan on drinking anymore till we know seeing I have a short cycle and will probably know sometime next week! My question is how many of you abstain from drinking or actually drink till its pink?! I heard that the first few weeks don't matter since you don't share anything with the baby, yet I still feel this slight regret thinking what if those two drinks tonight will make me miscarry again, or something else not good?!
So what you are saying is that you don't have to follow established rules or community standards? That you are too much of a special sneauxflake to use the search feature? That is what you are communicating.
To answer your question: I'm 7DPO & I am getting wine drunk currently. Until I test positive give me all the booze.
Honestly, a lot of people on this sight are rude. I think it's pathetic when I go and read threads and see someone attacking another person for asking a simple question. I really couldn't care less how many times a question has been answered. Obviously if you know the question has been answered and still click on the thread to read it, then it's a bit pathetic to even click on it...just sayin'! ;P
If you don't like it, why are you here?
If the answer is to use the regulars on this board as your personal Google, then maybe you can understand why the repeats of questions, particularly ones that are against the rules, would grow tiresome.
If you had asked your question without the clear attitude of your assumptions, you probably wouldn't have gotten a negative response. Now we'll always remember you as a person who thinks we are rude. Why would you want that?
What @lalala2004 said. Your ATTITUDE is pretty annoying. Good luck getting regular responses to any question from here on out by the people who can actually help.
A negative rep? So many of you attack people on here everyday! You think I'm worried about one post giving me a negative rep? Also if I had asked this and not put the first part, I willing to bet money that at least two of you would have replied "pay attention to the rules, go lurk other forums" and any other pathetic response you could come up with!
It's polite to be aware of the guidelines and etiquette of any community you participate in. It's generally not considered polite to come in guns a blazin' ready to rumble.
And I still don't know why today's "drink til it's pink" responses are more valid than last week's "drink til it's pink" responses.
TTC #1 --- BFP #1 5/15, loss at 5 weeks --- BFP #2 12/15, loss at 4+3 --- RE testing 3/16 normal, still trying for our rainbow
A negative rep? So many of you attack people on here everyday! You think I'm worried about one post giving me a negative rep? Also if I had asked this and not put the first part, I willing to bet money that at least two of you would have replied "pay attention to the rules, go lurk other forums" and any other pathetic response you could come up with!
Even as it is, people have answered your question and provided you links to more information.
The only negative response you are getting is because of your negative assumptions.
It must be easy of you to assume what would have happened if you hadn't prefaced your post with how negative you expected it to go. You can bet your money all day long, but it proves nothing, other than the fact that you have a negative opinion of the board, which still begs the question of why you chose to post in the first place if that was your impression.
My point to this thread was to answer my question. I actually stated that if you had a problem with me reasking a question, you could click back to leave. Go look on apples App Store at the reviews for this website. It's horrible because of how rude and nasty people can be!
If people are horrible, rude, and nasty here, why bother with this site? There are tons of other TTC sites that are more rainbows and puppies if that's more your style.
TTC #1 --- BFP #1 5/15, loss at 5 weeks --- BFP #2 12/15, loss at 4+3 --- RE testing 3/16 normal, still trying for our rainbow
Once you get used to the "No BS" type of attitude on this board, you will really enjoy it. I find that it usually weeds out duplicate questions and all the special snowflayke questions that you will find on other boards. I have tried reading posts on other boards that were just bogged down with junk and not helpful posts. I quit and came back here immediately!! The rules make this place what it is and I think after figuring it out and following along it really is great.
Married 2011
TTC #1 since April 2015
Fur child: One awesome Golden Retriever IUI August 2016 : Cancelled due to polyp September 2016: Polyp removal/hysteroscopy October 2016: IUI #1- BFN November 2016: IUI #2- BFN December 2016: IUI #3 - BFN January/February 2017 - IVF + ICSI + PGD March 2017 - FET
A negative rep? So many of you attack people on here everyday! You think I'm worried about one post giving me a negative rep? Also if I had asked this and not put the first part, I willing to bet money that at least two of you would have replied "pay attention to the rules, go lurk other forums" and any other pathetic response you could come up with!
Wow. Just wow.
You know the phrase of "you know what you get when you ASSume"? Pretty sure just the first part in that phrase applies in this case though.
My point to this thread was to answer my question. I actually stated that if you had a problem with me reasking a question, you could click back to leave. Go look on apples App Store at the reviews for this website. It's horrible because of how rude and nasty people can be!
The only one being "rude and nasty" is you. If you don't want to follow board etiquette, then feel free to leave.
My point to this thread was to answer my question. I actually stated that if you had a problem with me reasking a question, you could click back to leave. Go look on apples App Store at the reviews for this website. It's horrible because of how rude and nasty people can be!
It's not very nice to insult people, wouldn't you consider that "rude & nasty"?
So your question has been answered in a very polite & factual way. Im not sure what else you can gain from further insulting us. If anything, the rational & knowledgable answers to this repeat thread proves your original hypothesis (we are mean to repeat questions) invalid.
Oh but @letyourheartbeyourguide your picture is full of rainbows! Such happy vibes coming from you! I post on here because of the people out there that aren't just going to attack you for asking a question!
When you roll in, all "I know the etiquette for this board.... but whatevs", and call people rude in your original post, I don't exactly get "happy vibes" from that.
@keeira sweetie, I am following board rules: 2. Mostly likely, someone has asked your question before. The search function is very helpful. It allows you to quickly find threads about specific topics and find members having similar experiences. But, we all want to hear from you, too! When you want the community’s feedback on your personal experiences or specific concerns, feel free to start a new discussion. Shame on me for asking a question that's already been answered! How dare I! Let's all attack the new comer? But wait?! What if the new comer attacks us for always attacking the new comer?! The. What the hell do we do?!
There are MANY intelligent and helpful women on this board. There is a lot of great information to gain here. But this isn't supposed to be TTC google. If you just want some reassurance that other people do a certain behavior, you can google it. FYI - the search function works just fine for drink til it's pink, this isn't a speshul snowflayke specific concern that requires yet another thread on it.
For people who join this board, who take time to learn the etiquette and yes LURK and use the search function, there's a lot of fun and support here. I don't see you making any effort to do anything other than insult people.
TTC #1 --- BFP #1 5/15, loss at 5 weeks --- BFP #2 12/15, loss at 4+3 --- RE testing 3/16 normal, still trying for our rainbow
@klange15 At this point, the only thing that makes sense is that you came here and intentionally posted inflammatory type statements in order to get a rise out of people to prove that you are somehow correct in thinking they are rude for being agitated by this?
That is like punching someone in the face and calling them violent when they retaliate.
I am starting to doubt that you even wanted to have your question answered as much as you want to yell at people on the Internet.
You have given no logical reason for why you chose to post based on statements you yourself have made.
@keeira sweetie, I am following board rules: 2. Mostly likely, someone has asked your question before. The search function is very helpful. It allows you to quickly find threads about specific topics and find members having similar experiences. But, we all want to hear from you, too! When you want the community’s feedback on your personal experiences or specific concerns, feel free to start a new discussion.
Shame on me for asking a question that's already been answered! How dare I! Let's all attack the new comer? But wait?! What if the new comer attacks us for always attacking the new comer?! The. What the hell do we do?!
So you know the rules but choose not to follow them because of your speshul snowflake concern?
Don't call me sweetie either. Totally condescending reply. I stand by my word, if you don't like it here, leave. Don't keep insulting regular members here. If you want to learn more, use the search function.
Honestly, a lot of people on this sight are rude. I think it's pathetic when I go and read threads and see someone attacking another person for asking a simple question. I really couldn't care less how many times a question has been answered. Obviously if you know the question has been answered and still click on the thread to read it, then it's a bit pathetic to even click on it...just sayin'! ;P
Much like continuing to follow and participate in a forum where you believe many people to be rude makes no sense and could be viewed as 'pathetic' as you so politely you put it - not rude at all.
Married Sept '13 TTC Dec '13 BFP 10/8/2014 MMC 11/20/2014 D&C 11/26/14 BFP 9/20/2015 MMC 10/7/2015 D&C 10/15/15
Re: Drink till its pink?
This is not the best way to start a discussion. Just sayin'.
Personally, I wait until AF.
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12564614/
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/87250376
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/86586006
TTC #1 --- BFP #1 5/15, loss at 5 weeks --- BFP #2 12/15, loss at 4+3 --- RE testing 3/16 normal, still trying for our rainbow
DS: 9/18/12 - 40w5d // DD: 05/17/16 - 40w
DS: Born 5-17-16
Thank you @letyourheartbeyourguide for providing just how much this topic is discussed.
The poll was actually made maybe two weeks ago that @lalala2004 was describing so it's not like this was SUCH a long time ago.
And actually the "long timers" LOVE this topic because to TTC for months on end, going through losses and the cray cray of everything LOTS OF WINE IS USUALLY NEEDED TO DEAL.
No need to poke a potentially drunk bumping bear so to speak with your presumptions.
And in answer to your question
give me all the wine.
TTC #1 --- BFP #1 5/15, loss at 5 weeks --- BFP #2 12/15, loss at 4+3 --- RE testing 3/16 normal, still trying for our rainbow
TTC #1 --- BFP #1 5/15, loss at 5 weeks --- BFP #2 12/15, loss at 4+3 --- RE testing 3/16 normal, still trying for our rainbow
TTC #1 --- BFP #1 5/15, loss at 5 weeks --- BFP #2 12/15, loss at 4+3 --- RE testing 3/16 normal, still trying for our rainbow
So what you are saying is that you don't have to follow established rules or community standards? That you are too much of a special sneauxflake to use the search feature? That is what you are communicating.
To answer your question: I'm 7DPO & I am getting wine drunk currently. Until I test positive give me all the booze.
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If the answer is to use the regulars on this board as your personal Google, then maybe you can understand why the repeats of questions, particularly ones that are against the rules, would grow tiresome.
If you had asked your question without the clear attitude of your assumptions, you probably wouldn't have gotten a negative response. Now we'll always remember you as a person who thinks we are rude. Why would you want that?
*post it*
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TTC #1 --- BFP #1 5/15, loss at 5 weeks --- BFP #2 12/15, loss at 4+3 --- RE testing 3/16 normal, still trying for our rainbow
The only negative response you are getting is because of your negative assumptions.
It must be easy of you to assume what would have happened if you hadn't prefaced your post with how negative you expected it to go. You can bet your money all day long, but it proves nothing, other than the fact that you have a negative opinion of the board, which still begs the question of why you chose to post in the first place if that was your impression.
I truly fail to understand....
TTC #1 --- BFP #1 5/15, loss at 5 weeks --- BFP #2 12/15, loss at 4+3 --- RE testing 3/16 normal, still trying for our rainbow
IUI August 2016 : Cancelled due to polyp
September 2016: Polyp removal/hysteroscopy
October 2016: IUI #1- BFN
November 2016: IUI #2- BFN
December 2016: IUI #3 - BFN
January/February 2017 - IVF + ICSI + PGD
March 2017 - FET
You know the phrase of "you know what you get when you ASSume"? Pretty sure just the first part in that phrase applies in this case though.
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TTC #1 --- BFP #1 5/15, loss at 5 weeks --- BFP #2 12/15, loss at 4+3 --- RE testing 3/16 normal, still trying for our rainbow
See how easy it is to get the TOUs into this argument?
This whole post is one gigantic FAIL
That is like punching someone in the face and calling them violent when they retaliate.
I am starting to doubt that you even wanted to have your question answered as much as you want to yell at people on the Internet.
You have given no logical reason for why you chose to post based on statements you yourself have made.
This is really quite perplexing.
*insert Spock gif I am too lazy to put in myself*
Don't call me sweetie either. Totally condescending reply. I stand by my word, if you don't like it here, leave. Don't keep insulting regular members here. If you want to learn more, use the search function.
Married Sept '13
TTC Dec '13
BFP 10/8/2014 MMC 11/20/2014 D&C 11/26/14
BFP 9/20/2015 MMC 10/7/2015 D&C 10/15/15