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Needing some encouragement/support...

abir12abir12 member
in July 2015 Moms
When I lost my job back in February, my husband and I agreed that we were financially stable enough for me to stay home until after LO was born. After DS was born (the 8th) I immediately started looking for work. To my surprise I was offered a full time job with decent pay and hours. But it starts on Monday (the 3rd)... I'm excited to start this job but nervous about leaving DS so soon. He will only be 4 weeks. And to top it off i EP and my supply is dropping and I now have to supplement one of his feedings with formula. I'm starting to feel guilty about not breastfeeding and leaving him to go back to work. I feel like we haven't bonded enough for me to leave him... but we really need the money to keep up with all his new expenses... anyone else EP and/or returning to work early? any advice?
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Re: Needing some encouragement/support...

  • 2babes3angels2babes3angels member
    Not in your situation, but I would definitely say not to let that mommy guilt get to you!! We all have to make sacrifices for our families, and that is just part of life as a parent. If you've found a good job you're excited about, good for you!! I'm sure you'll enjoy having something outside of being a mom to take part in. And you will definitely bond with your little one. You're his mommy & no other person or position will take that from you. Also, if you want more time home with baby, maybe ask if they can be more flexible on your start date... good luck!! I'm sure it will work out :)
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  • zmombiezmombie member
    Agree with pp. fully understand what you mean. I also have to go to work. I'm a single mom and have great support from my parents.. But I can't rely on them forever. I don't ever want to leave her side!!
    But we have to do what we have to, to provide for our kids. They say day care is good for them?
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  • mnj05mnj05 member
    I'm going back to work when DS2 is 7 weeks, I got 6 months with DS1 and feel horrible about it. I'm pushing the guilt aside because if I don't go back, we won't be able to afford anything. Do what you need to for your family and don't feel bad about it.

    As far as EP, I tried this go around and it didn't work out for me. My supply was not great to begin with and it really dropped at two weeks to the point I wasn't getting anything. I FF my first due to no supply at all and now I'm FF this one too. I will tell you that for me personally, the added stress of trying to BF/pump the first time really wore on me which in turn wore on DH. This time I went into it thinking I'll try and if it works out great, if not, no big deal and I wouldn't stress. It was much easier to stop this time with that outlook and knowing that my son has to eat something no matter where it comes from.

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  • AziaNickAziaNick member
    Don't feel bad :) i breastfed for the first 3 weeks and my production slowed down. Sometimes things happen that you don't want too haha but don't worry, it will work out :)
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