Story- mini freak out no babe experience

Taylovesbrad · July 2015

So I met my cousins newborn yesterday. I was so uncomfortable and nervous holding her. I have little to no experience with kids especially tiny little ones. Did too much yesterday so by the time I went to bed I had a hormonal melt down. I have alot of fear with my lack of experience. There was something wierd about holding a bitty baby nervously and having one in my belly that freaked me out. Birth itself scares me too and pregnancy itself is overwhelming and uncomfortable. Anyone else feel like their organs are out of space?

Sorry so long and rambly.

stephaniearthurs · July 2015

I think this is a perfectly normal first time mom thought! It will take some getting used to, but when it's your own baby, it will be much easier!

cedixon2 · July 2015

Get yourself a book like what to expect in babies first year.... The more prepared you are, the more comfortable you will be.

Rratledge · July 2015

I had no experience with babies before my son was born, and I was really scared too. I took a childbirth class with my husband and in addition to covering labor and delivery, they also demonstrated things like changing diapers and giving baths. That calmed me a bit. Also, once it was time to change my son's first diaper, we called a nurse to give us a lesson. It will be easier when it is your baby, and if you need to, ask a lot of questions to your nurses and your baby's pediatrician. You'll get the hang of it very quickly.

fiorip · July 2015

Babies are parent proof, they might seem fragile and weak but they're not. Once you have your own child you'll get the hang of it and the fear will go away. As for birth itself, it's one of those things that you have to experience yourself in order not to fear it. I've seen hundreds of births, I delivered about 20 babies as an intern and giving birth scares the crap out of me. I saw this one case that marked me forever, the woman had a condition called placenta accreta, in which the placenta's blood vessels grow too deep into the uterine wall and causes mayor blood loss, her placenta was so attached that she had an uterine inversion, she had to be rushed to the OR and had to have a hysterectomy at 26. Scary! This is extremely rare by the way. The way I see it, baby has to come out, whatever happens will happen.

vera1127 · July 2015

I had never changed a diaper until I had my son. Trust me, YOU WILL BE OKAY!! It all comes to you.

ketobaby · July 2015

I really believe in instinct. Holding your baby when he/she is born will come naturally to you. I feel the same way about pregnancy. Its hard to breath my skin is stretching pains are occurring. I will say I take a LOT of joy in day dreaming about my baby boy. It really gets me through the daily pains and fears of child birth.

daylynj · July 2015

ketobaby said:

I really believe in instinct. Holding your baby when he/she is born will come naturally to you. I feel the same way about pregnancy. Its hard to breath my skin is stretching pains are occurring. I will say I take a LOT of joy in day dreaming about my baby boy. It really gets me through the daily pains and fears of child birth.

Oh yeah...day dreaming about my son gets me through the days where I just feel awful. Glad I'm not the only one! OP, I agree with pp...everyone I talk to has said it's all instinct. I have also picked up a few books about baby's first year, which so far has been helpful.

ChiccoBeanz · July 2015

I think reading some books and going to a class or too may be really beneficial to you. Check and see if babies r us in your area has classes. They often have them for free. Also, your hospital may offer some. Nothing wrong with being nervous

Marchmellow2 · July 2015

I also had never been around babies before I had my son. While I was pregnant I was terrified that I would drop him, break him, or not do anything right! It's so weird how natural it all comes to you when you see your baby for the first time! The fact that you have these feelings also validates how great of a mom you'll be! The fact that you are already worried shows that you care so much and you will be an amazing mom!!!

My fear this time is that maybe it was easier on me last time since my son was in the NICU for 3 weeks. I was taught everything in the NICU and I was always monitored. I didn't have him all to myself for 3 weeks so my fear is that this time LO will go full term and I'll have to handle the newborn stage alone at home! And even though I've done it before I'm still nervous! I think your our feelings are completely normal and the fact that we are so worried and nervous just shows how amazing we will really be!

*autocorrect fail

Taylovesbrad · July 2015

Ok ladies I'm crying. Hormones are Def raging. Thank you for the encouragement. We have classes scheduled so that should help. Thanks for sharing your stories and for the advice. Thankful for this forum.

*deep breathe* (well as deep as I can right now since it feels like there's no more room left in there

)

draesunshine4 · July 2015

I have two kids and I still feel incredibly awkward holding other people's tiny babies.

maiatene · July 2015

I'll do you one better - not only did I have zero experience with babies I actually didn't like them lol! My best friend gave me her son to diaper and put on his pj's after a bath. Apparently you need a gentle touch when you rub A&D on their good bits because this kids screamed... and to add insult to injury I couldn't figure out how to get the onsie over his head so he was beyond over it. To this day he gives me a side eye whenever I come around and he's almost 5!!!

All that to say you do better with your own because they're yours. Once I had my son that gentle touch was present and somehow I knew what to do to keep him calm and happy. It'll come to you too :-)

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