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Lonely !!:(

irsamirsam member
in July 2015 Moms
so I am on my second marriage and u came into
This one with 4 he had 1 and so 5 together for over a year. We then now have 2 together so we all life in a huge house together and it's normally really happy minus when his ex had now been trying to be back in his sons life and tries to be rude and say she wants to sleep with my husband and when his son is mean to my kids. I'm all for her expressing how she feels but I think of my husband really was turned off he would have ripped her explaining he's happily married etc if he really felt that way. When I attempt to talk to him about she's disrespectful he takes it out on me and when I ask him nicely to correct his son to be nice and share he's mad at me. I can't win. I feel soooo lonely and we just had our second child two weeks ago I moved hours away from any family which I have always kept to myself anyways I haven't ever asked him o change or feed either one of our 2 babies who are 1 and 2 weeks. I truly enjoy doing all the house hold things and kiddie things I just want to
Talk to fix things and he's ignoring me walking away and much more. I'm alone. I have not one person to chat with and I have no idea what more to do. Sorry I'm desperate
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Re: Lonely !!:(

  • irsamirsam member
    Sorry about the typos... Typing so fast :(
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  • beccer123beccer123 member
    I'm so sry you are dealing with all that. I would tell him that we need to talk abt it and for him to let you know when he's ready. Or maybe a date night with just the 2 of you and yall could talk at dinner abt everything. Just tell him how you are feeling and how it's disrespectful for her to speak the way she is and for him not to speak up for you as well. 
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  • mahlissahmahlissah member
    My heart breaks for the situation you're in - I wish I had better words of encouragement for you but you are not alone, as lonely as you feel. It's great that you have the courage to write the post you did. Stay strong!!
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  • CkorinesCkorines member
    I'm sorry you are going through this. I wish I could give better advice other than you need to tell him how you feel. I think you're very brave to speak your mind, even if it's on here. Good luck momma!
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  • irsamirsam member
    Thanks ladies but he refuses to talk to me and I said then we shouldn't be married even if I love him. I need respect and so do my children. Between his ex and his son things are rough and it's overly lonely. He isn't the same or who I thought he was. I really believed he was my soul mate and was about being fair but it's not like that at all
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  • MaddyZ15MaddyZ15 member
    Relationships are so complicated and more so when there are so many dynamic involved, like in yours.

    There needs to be a level of respect and understanding from both parties. And no one person should feel less then. Couples counseling can help to have a middle ground to talk.

    But at the end you need to sit and think really hard what you want and where you want this to go. Is he on the same page. If he is not then, there are things to think about. But be calm and plan. There are a lot of people who will get affected.
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  • irsamirsam member
    He sees I'm wrong in feeling this way but never talks to me. He thinks I should just let his don keep being the way he is to my kids and his ex mind you had become a crack head and selling her body has never been yelled at but me the nice one gets to short end of the stick. I feel like I don't know what to
    Do. I'd really like others opinions since I truly can't talk to him at all. I've tried asking practically begging but I'm truly getting depressed about it all. There have been many other things involving his son and the Ex but too much to write
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  • AjhaneyAjhaney member
    It sounds like this is an unhealthy relationship but to be honest it will probably make you more happy to calmly tell him that if it doesn't change, you're leaving. That gives him the choice, if he wants it to wok, he'll make it work. If not then you'll be happy in the long run because you and your newest deserve so much better.
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  • Knottie67744546Knottie67744546 member
    If someone wants to walk out of your life, LET THEM WALK. IF THEY WERE FOR YOU, THEY WOULD OF CONTINUED WITH YOU. Im not yelling, just emphasizing
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  • irsamirsam member
    Thanks ladies I really appreciate it
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