baby wants only mama all the time

Re: baby wants only mama all the time

• justkeeptrying member

  July 2015

  How old is he? If he's still in the 3-8 week window then he might just be in his super fussy stage so hopefully it will get better with time. My DS was super fussy and then BAM he hit 8 weeks and fussiness has diminished like crazy!!!!
  
  I don't have many suggestions other than trying to get DH to spend as much time with him as possible when he's around. Hopefully he will start to adjust and at least accept him to give you a break.

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• Hawk&Eye member

  July 2015

  Sorry he's 10 weeks born 2 weeks early. Maybe it is the peak fussy week. Like I said he's awesome if I'm holding him but 5 minutes after putting him in a swing or handing him off, he's crying. With me he is so smiley and coos like crazy. Just wish I could get him that way beside me or with daddy! He also sleeps pretty well in his rock n play at night and will take decent naps (except today apparently).

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• odawg member

  July 2015

  My LO is almost 11 weeks and she was like that but sadly needed to be breastfeeding all the time. She started to grow out of it at 10 weeks when you could tell she could really see and focus on faces. But make sure that she gets chances every day with her dad, and others, otherwise they may seem like strangers. My husband does bathtime (good skin to skin bonding) and goes outside since those are 2 favorite activities of hers. Not saying you do this...but make sure you dont run to the aide when he cries. Let husband try different positions and areas and activites with him prior to you stepping in. You maybe should go to the otherside of the house and see if it helps or maybe he needs you both to play with her at the same time so he has your comfort while getting to know dad. It will pass as long as you work at it and dad does not let it get to him and sometimes try a few things out! Goodluck! It wont change instantly I dont think but it will eventually

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• mars8k member

  July 2015

  You don't sound horrible, we know you love your LO but need to live your own life as well !
  
  I'm sorry i don't have any advise although i'm a little jealous that your LO recognizes you already, my LO doesn't show any signs that she does, she smiles more for me but that's mostly because i know what she likes not because she likes me best.
  
  Of course I wouldn't want her as attached as your LO is, i hope it gets better with time, has it always been like this? Because it might be a wonder week, google it, my LO is 11 weeks and has been super fussy then i read about that and it makes sense

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• danibonello member

  July 2015

  I suppose the grass is always greener, because I wish my LO was that attached to me. I especially wish that by just holding her I could magically make her happy. But I know that if she was like that then I would have similar feelings to you.

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• HeatherC21 member

  July 2015

  DH watched the baby for the first time by himself last night and he text me all night long saying she was super fussy and wouldn't take her bottle and wouldn't go to sleep. This is not like her at all, my MIL, my mom and my sis have all watched her and they haven't had problems. Is my DH just being a wuss or does she sense that he is uncomfortable and actually is more fussy than normal? Before last night his interactions with her are usually hold her while I eat or shower and sometimes play with her on the floor.

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• lilsunflowermomma member

  July 2015

  My guy is the same way! Only wants mommy and only mommy can soothe him. My back hurts from carrying him all day long, he's 10 weeks and 16lbs! I can use his mamaroo and his playmat for only 10 min each - but once he's done, he wants mommy now! It makes it impossible to get anything done. I just try to stay patient and remind myself it is temporary. I try to play with him as much as I can and ware him out so I can get him to take a nap. I'm trying to find ways to build his independence, but it's really hard. Most of his cries are just loud whines for mommy. Sometimes I'll put him on his playmat and sit beside him. He starts getting fussy only because I put him down. I just talk to him and tell him I'm right there and not going anywhere. Then I'll try to play with his toys on the playmat with him. Anything I can do to distract him from the fact that I'm not actually holding him.

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• Hawk&Eye member

  July 2015

  Thanks everyone for your responses. In the heat to frustration and feeling sorry for myself, I forgot that I could always look on the bright side. Ugh I feel bad for complaining that my LO feels I'm the center or his universe. I really need to slow down and enjoy it more. I should know first hand how quickly it goes...I'll have a 4 year old next week...what??
  
  And @lilsunflowermomma we are both packing around 10 week 16 pounders! I feel your pain...right between the shoulder blades and lower back most of the time!

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• pepperpup member

  July 2015

  I'm hoping for more ideas. My 11 week old lo only wants me all the time. I'm exhausted. She screams with anyone but me. She even screams with her dad. She won't nap without being held. It's wonderful that she recognizes me and needs me but I really need a little break. I can't stand to hear her cry. I tried to leave for two hours to get my hair cut and she screamed the whole time and refused to eat. Has anyone experienced this before? How do I help her get comfortable with others? FTM and I feel like I'm messing up.

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• chicago1985 member

  July 2015

  Do the dads try the five S's?

  

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• rae430 member

  July 2015

  chicago1985 said:

  Do the dads try the five S's?

  This really helps my DH. My DS almost never cries when I'm around, but he's definitely fussier when I'm at work. The only thing that soothes him when I'm gone is the 5 S's. DH is off work this summer so he's been doing a lot of swaddling and swinging, lol. Now that we're almost out of the "fourth trimester", I hope those strategies keep working!!

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• kspinks7 member

  July 2015

  I am having the same problem right now. I just went back to work and actually work from home. Family has been watching my LO and there are times she won't stop screaming. If I come down she is fine in seconds so I know it is about me. I keep hoping over the next few weeks she grows out of it before I have to take her to daycare.
  
  I have no advice at all, I just hope she slowly gets more comfortable with other people.

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• flutterby120 member

  July 2015

  What are the 5 S's?

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