Vent About Timed Intercourse

jennamarie05 · July 2015

First, I apologize for my vent, but I just want to get this off my chest!

After letrozole and an Ovidrel injection, we've been following doctor's orders for timed intercourse, at 12 & 36 hrs post injection. I had the injection Saturday morning, and we were able to successfully complete our 12 hour mission Saturday night, so were looking forward to our 36 hour mission Sunday night, as well! Yesterday (Sunday) morning, I also used an OPK and received the "peak fertility" symbol, which was also roughly 36 hours post-injection, so I was ecstatic that it was working and feeling super hopeful this round!

My husband usually wants sex all the time, and will be ready to go without even trying. Last night, though, he could not get and/or keep an erection, so we weren't able to have sex like we were supposed to. We know its because he's stressed and knew that he needed to perform, but even still, its definitely a bummer knowing that we could have missed our chance last night. We're going to try again later today, just to see what happens, even though I'm worried that this month's ovulation may be over.

He's had a semen analysis done, and there were no issues, and he's never really had any ED problems, before, thankfully. I'm sure its because of the added stress of TTC!

This is round 2 of 3 using the letrozole/ovidrel combo before moving to IUI, so we're both just feeling the pressure...

bsckgb7 · July 2015

Sorry for the stress!! Fingers crossed the 12 hour will be enough!! I'm pretty sure the trigger will turn an OPK though. The trigger is HCG and HCG mimics LH, so it should turn an OPK. I wouldn't use OPKs since your doc handles everything with the timing.

jdl330 · July 2015

Yes I've heard that OPK's are not accurate why using these medications. Also, my husband has had the same issue happen to him under pressure. It's disappointing but I try to be careful not to make him feel inadequate. After all, I'm the one with the ovulation problems and he doesn't blame me for it.

Good luck and stay positive! Fingers crossed for your BFP!

jennamarie05 · July 2015

Thanks for the encouragement and positive thoughts!

I just keep thinking that maybe Friday night was good enough, and if not, then maybe this cycle is just a rotten egg anyway. Trying to stay positive!!! We're firm believers that everything happens for a reason!

We're going to try later today, just for fun :-)

KidShrink · July 2015

Had the same issue with my DH when we did our 3 TI cycles. We've agreed to go to IUI even though the doc didn't say it was necessary after the surgery I had, just because somehow DH feels like it'll be less pressure to do it that way. I won't lie, I'm a little stressed about him being stressed that morning, but there's nothing I can do about it. It came up with two of his buddies who ended up in a similar situation (not performing when it's time to). So it's definitely common, and I think we forget how though that is on our boys too.

AMT&THC · July 2015

We decided on IUI exactly because this was an issue. I felt terrible when the timed intercourse didn't work out and I know he felt even worse. I am a horrible actress and it seriously is the most unromantic thing in the world to have to sex at a specific time. So, we just gave up on it and went the IUI route. I am very stressed on the morning that he has to make it happen. I try my very best to act like it is all okay no matter what, but man it's hard!!! We usually can laugh about it afterwards, but before it's like a tomb around here. Good luck this month!! I don't know much about 12 hours versus 36, but I think once is better than 0. Hopefully today the pressure will be off and everything will go as planned for another try. FX!!!

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