Family issues

charhk · July 2015

Hi, sorry to post I just don't know where else to ask. Throughout my life my mother has not really been around and if she has its been on her terms. I'm currently staying with her while trying to find a home for me and baby but her and my brother fight all the time. I know stress isn't good for my baby but I don't know how to avoid it when they're constantly around me. They scream and shout at each other 24/7. Please help me guys, I'm at my wits end. FTM, 23 weeks pregnant. Thanks in advance.

Squirtgun · July 2015

I am sorry that you feel stuck in this situation. I am glad you are looking for a home, it sounds like you need to get out for your own sanity!! I know many towns have assistance programs to help moms/pregnant women get housing, is that something you have looked into? I wouldn't worry too much about the stress affecting the baby, every mother experiences stress to some degree, and healthy babies are born all over the world!
Is there anywhere you can go to just get away while the arguing is going on? A little walk? A small cafe or coffee shop where you could go read? Even just going out onto the porch with an iPod or a good book might help.
Hope it gets better for you!!

CarrieOct15 · July 2015

I'm sorry you're in a tough spot. Is there anywhere you can hang out during the day, to stay out of the house? Maybe a library or friend's house? Just focus on yourself & remember that their fights have nothing to do with you. If I'm stressed out, I like to do something for myself. Maybe take a bath, give yourself a pedicure, do some yoga, go out for ice cream, etc.

Good luck! You & your baby will be OK. Just take care of yourself.

maura+c · July 2015

I just wanted to send creepy internet hugs! I can see why you are so stressed out. Living in such a hostile environment can't be fun. Is it possible to go stay with a relative or friend until things smooth out at home? I just know what it's like to be living with screamers and it's a constant stressor. Being pregnant is hard enough; you don't need that! Hope everything works out and feel free to post anytime if you need somewhere to turn! The best to you

charhk · July 2015

Thankyou for your replies. I would go out but since being pregnant my anxiety has got so much worse it makes it difficult to do things. I do have somebody helping me to move but she visits me at home as I feel like I can't talk about my issues in front of my mother because then I get screamed at. I'm going to start trying to do more for myself, it's difficult when I'm made to feel bad for taking time out as my mother thinks I should be the one doing everything around the house etc. But thankyou for your advice!

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