Give me a sec to talk shit about how rude my Facebook friends are...

laurenmichaels · July 2015

This afternoon we found out we are having a boy!!! Yay, right?!?! I'm super excited because we already have a 14 month old boy and he's going to have an awesome best buddy.

I post that we are having a boy on Facebook and there are actually people who commented that they are bummed for me and wish I was having a girl. Like, who the F says that?

Thanks for giving my unborn son issues so early on. People are so rude I don't even understand it.

Team BLUE!!!!

laurenmichaels · July 2015

And seriously, who wouldn't want two of this?!

fragglemom · July 2015

Yeah. When we announced my pregnancy, my brother asked his kids whether they want me to have a boy or a girl. They don't get a "say"!! They're already not the nicest kids so I can only imagine the reaction if my baby isn't the sex they wanted.
I'm sorry your FB folks were rude. I hope you set them straight.

sck601 · July 2015

We keep getting "FX for s boy" and "I bet you want a boy!" Comments. Especially from MIL. It's frustrating

Snoopylovesbelle · July 2015

Everyone keeps saying this baby is a boy because we already have a girl...I don't care either way but 2 girls is just fine in my book.
Sorry your friends were mean

steph_pegasus · July 2015

Lol people are so tactless. I hope you do respond to them and in no uncertain terms.

Congrats on your 2nd boy!

laurenmichaels · July 2015

Unfortunately because I'm in the media it's people I don't really know commenting among my real friends and family. Random people who have been following the past 10 years.
I would hope that no "real friend" who say such a ridiculous statement.

Who else is having a little man???

steph_pegasus · July 2015

Hmmmm... Unfriended!!
We haven't found out the sex of this one yet. Don't have a preference, already have a DD.

apinkpelican · July 2015

Supper annoying. I get the same thing but opposite (I have a DD). I would LOVE for her to have a sister :x

UptownPearl · July 2015

Whoah. Rude. I would be irritated too

TinyDancer51510 · July 2015

Congrats on your little boy! :-) People just do not think before they speak/type. I'm glad your actual friends and family sound supportive.

arose3eb · July 2015

What a bag of dicks. Congrats on your second boy! Facebook can suck it.

OrangeFox · July 2015

My first was a boy. I'm always surprised (and taken aback) when people ask, are you hoping to have a girl? Or even, I hope you have a girl. I'm hoping for a healthy baby. And I feel so blessed to be expecting.

But really, hope away... It won't make a difference.

marielaa26 · July 2015

Well at least your mil is not being rude. When we first announced we were expecting she was telling me I was having a girl, then out of no where, she keeps telling me Im having a boy. And that she wants me to have a boy because she wants my little niece to be the only spoiled girl! I mean, how rude is that?

JandJ62914 · July 2015

OMG those eyes...what a cutie he is!!!

People are ridiculous and so rude though. I would be so sad if any of my friends or family said they wished I was having the other sex. Does it even matter? Shouldn't everyone just be thrilled that you're bringing another precious baby into this world? I don't get it! So sorry that you had people react that way.

SisterSunshine · July 2015

I feel ya! I have 2 awesome (grown lol) boys, and everyone is TELLING me I'm having a girl. Not even ASKING if that's what I want! It has gotten downright IRRITATING.

I truly do not care which flavor of baby we.get, but I know I raise incredible men so WHY would I mind having another?

willashbaby · July 2015

Delete their comments. Done. If they continue to be asshats delete them.

jezygal · July 2015

We're having another girl, which is what we wanted only so our daughter could have a little sister. She already has 2 boy cousins so we even the scale out. We haven't told anyone besides my parents which are happy that they get another granddaughter, but if anyone has anything negative to say I would set them straight in a second.

mommaSimpkin · July 2015

When we told my siblings I was pregnant my sister was happy for us. She joked about how it'll be twins with my luck. (It's not.)
My brother on the other hand. Just had his son in February, and I've been super supportive, I've even sent care packages to them since I live 1300 miles away.
He said "congrats but you can't have a girl. I want to be the one to give mom her first grand daughter, since you gave her, her first grandson."
My sons 3. His son is 5 months.
Like what am I supposed to do. Wait to have babies until he's done because he 'might' have a girl some day. When asked they say they're not even sure if they'll have more. Wtf?!

I feel your pain. I'm sorry FB people are so rude. Just delete their comments.

SisterSunshine · July 2015

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mommaSimpkin said:
When we told my siblings I was pregnant my sister was happy for us. She joked about how it'll be twins with my luck. (It's not.)
My brother on the other hand. Just had his son in February, and I've been super supportive, I've even sent care packages to them since I live 1300 miles away.
He said "congrats but you can't have a girl. I want to be the one to give mom her first grand daughter, since you gave her, her first grandson."
My sons 3. His son is 5 months.
Like what am I supposed to do. Wait to have babies until he's done because he 'might' have a girl some day. When asked they say they're not even sure if they'll have more. Wtf?!

I feel your pain. I'm sorry FB people are so rude. Just delete their comments.

I'm hoping your bro was joking. Cuz, dude.

mommaSimpkin · July 2015

@SisterSunshine I wish he was kidding. Sadly he wasn't... He's barley been active or vocal about this pregnancy since then.
Which is hurtful because he's my big brother and we've always been close growing up.

Knottie1452445632 · July 2015

@MommaSimpkin Oh well no point stressing about it - if he wants to be an arse let him. You be civil and they he'll be the one looking silly in front of everyone. Also you don't need stress. Surround your self with positivity and try to ignore the negativity - it's not worth it. Good luck and I'm sure he'll come round once he meets your little one, if not it's his loss (don't forget that) xxx

msrere1985 · July 2015

I think people just get overly excited and don't mean to be rude, my mother clearly wants a granddaughter and told me if it's a girl I will buy her going home outfit but if it's a boy I may buy his too. I just ignore it it doesn't matter to me and DH we just want a baby.

nickicb7 · July 2015

Hey lady, I'm sorry to hear about your unfortunate "friends." People do get so opinionated about other peoples babies. It drives me nuts.

Also I don't know what kind of "media" you are in but I find anyone who is a follower of "celebrity" or well known people are so weird. They think they know you and become a part of your life. It keeps me out. On Instagram I follow this one girl in Canada who was on the Bachelorette, I follow her because of her fitness stuff, I find it motivating. But because she is well known from the show she has like a bazillion fan followers. They ask her the most ridiculous personal questions, like they are real friends, she never responds but still. It must be so frustrating.

Can you create a private personal page for just you and your family, that creepers don't have to be a part of? It may not stop your actual friends odd comments but at least you could keep baby and intimate stuff from the unknowns.

Best of luck!

khf221979 · July 2015

I'm a FTM and let me say I am happy with boy or girl. We did find out we are having a boy and I'm super excited. Everyone we told we're excited mainly bc it's our first baby and my parents first grand child so they were happy with boy or girl. But my sister on the other hand made a comment I thought was kinda rude. She said " I hope your happy with a boy". Like what is that supposed to mean. She will be a first time aunt and I would think she would be happy with ether one but almost sounded disappointed bc my baby is a boy. We were never close growing up and hardly talk now so maybe it's just her way of saying she doesn't care. I dunno but I'm not gonna worry about it. I don't know why people feel like they have to say sorry that or not having a certain sex over the other. I feel that a happy and healthy baby is all that matters.

MommaB16 · July 2015

I think some ppl on social media can type faster than they can think! That's so dumb that anyone would say that, and if their excuse is that they were joking.... Still dumb. Re: a PP talking about kids and what 'they' want. Before we were pregnant my step kids both would always say if they wanted a brother or a sister. Now that I'm actually pregnant they've both said they're excited for either and understand we don't choose what we're having.

ariasbabyblog · July 2015

This is partially why we don't share the sex of the baby. We didn't with our first because we didn't want gendered clothing or toys, but also to avoid "what will you name him? Why not name him ____ ", and to avoid "I bet you wanted a girl". There are so many good reasons not to share the sex with friends and family, and since I am personally kind of a bad person, I get a kick out of how MAD people get when you won't share the sex. I had an aunt buy a girl's outfit and a boy's outfit for our first that she threw at me and told me to give her back the one we didn't have. I find this hilarious. I haven't heard any "I bet you want a girl" this time around, but I imagine it will happen before too long.

Honestly, wanting healthy baby aside, I like having a little boy. Girls scare me. I'm a terrible girl. I know next to nothing about hair or makeup so if she is a "girly girl" we're kinda screwed.

claireloSC · July 2015

ariasbabyblog Don't worry about the girly girl stuff. If you have a daughter she can learn from her friends in high school or college if she's interested. My dad raised me by himself so I didn't get any of the girly girl stuff but I'm all about it now as an adult. I figured it out.

AdventureMama · July 2015

Ugh, I totally agree with deleting their comments. Might send the right message.

I'm getting this a ton, too. DS is 21 months and I've had 3 "I'm putting in my vote for a girl!" and one "Oooh pleeease let it be a girl!" and countless "I bet you're hoping for pink?" NO. I want a healthy baby and I truly don't have a preference at this point. I am enjoying my first boy SO much that it actually really tickles me to think of two of them running around. Ugh. My mom is the worst. She literally mentions my baby's sex (which we aren't finding out until he/she is born) every time I see her. Which is at least once a week, if not more.

Jamilla9 · July 2015

I have an almost 2 year old son and so many people have said, "I hope this ones a girl for you guys" "I bet you want a girl this time" "praying it's a girl this time" I'm like NO. After my miscarriage in March I just want a healthy baby. Goodness.

sbeara25 · July 2015

I've been pretty lucky. BFs sister has one of each and with this as my parents first they don't really care either way. I know that deep down my sister wants it to be a girl (she would love to do girly days with a toddler) but she's been good about it.

My cousin had to deal with it though. She didn't reveal gender but already had a boy... Some very opinionated people out there

Hope for health

everything else is bonus

anightintunisia · July 2015

F Facebook. Congrats on your new baby BOY! The brother is a handsome looker so I am super excited for you!

jphilbeck0509 · July 2015

My in laws have been demanding to know once we find the gender out, when we have told them who all will find out before we make a public announcement. Messaging me every week and always asking. We've told them a million times only our parents will find out before our big announcement because we found it rude how people were telling our news before we could get to everyone. Social media is just so annoying. Everyone seems to want to know your business when you're pregnant or getting married.

SisterSunshine · July 2015

@jphilbeck0509 I admire that you're sticking to your guns on this. Too many woman allow themselves to get railroaded and smile like it's ok and doesn't matter. You are in charge of your information and household. People don't have to like it, but they do have to abide by it.

TVL25 · July 2015

This is why I am not looking forward to announcing on FB! I thought we could just wait until the baby was born to say anything, but my husband has other plans, hence my picture! We have 3 boys and already from telling family and friends in person, we have gotten more than our fair share of "trying for your girl?", "Bet you're hoping for a little sister this time" and even a few "going for Duggar status?" or like comments since this is our 4th. I am honest when I say NO, we're looking for 10 fingers and 10 toes with no complications! The looks are priceless but seriously, STFU. I say ignore the comments, because all that matters is what you think and feel!

juneandboo · July 2015

Oh the gender bias......My MIL has made it very clear for literally YEARS that she wants us to have a girl. She had 3 boys, so spending time with little baby girls is a dream of hers, and I get that. But it's not like this is something we can press a button and order, and her drilling it into our heads that she needed a granddaughter got very old (and awkward) very quickly.

So flash forward to now, and of course, we're having a boy. We call her to share the news and her response was "oh..." Then DH says that he knows she wanted a girl, and she says "well, I know you guys are going to try for another kid..."

REALLY, dude?! I shouldn't' feel the need to apologize for having a boy. All the opinions on gender are ridiculous to me. If it's a healthy child, that really is all that matters.

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