Here's the quick run down....my almost 5 month old is a non-napper, like no more than 30 min in one shot, usually 2-3x a day. Never a min. more. Doesn't sleep through night....During day very, very active and he is never cranky (really, just a super happy, super chill little guy). But I am exhausted. I do drink, on average, one mug of coffee (reg size in am) and sometimes a second in PM. It has dawned on me...am I the reason he is not sleeping? Ive heard of irritability in babies that don't tolerate caffeine but he is so happy. My lactation consultant told me 2 cups a day is fine and they even offered it and supported it when I was in hospital when he was born. I tried giving it up for like 2 days and saw no difference in him and just had a massive headache myself. Do I need to give it up for longer to really see if that's the culprit for why my son never sleeps during the day????? He is so active, like I said, arms flapping, legs kicking like crazy. Anyone else breastfeeding that can shed some light on the coffee/caffiene debate? I am so tired that I need it to function but what if its me that is causing the chaos!?
Re: Do I need to give up my coffee????
https://kellymom.com/bf/can-i-breastfeed/lifestyle/caffeine/
Assuming your LO is a slow metabolizer, you could be dosing him with more caffeine before he has gotten rid of most of the last round, causing a caffeine build up in his body. To be sure he's not sensitive, you would have to eliminate it for a week or so (see previous link).
I hear you on the exhaustion. I have half a cup of french-press coffee (not as strong as filter) in the morning to keep my sanity. My LO is also hyperactive. I think his is just personality. He does the flapping/kicking thing all the time too, but gets 14-15 hrs of sleep per day at 4.5 months. I'm a FTM, but you can see from other boards that napping 30 mins is quite common.
Good luck getting to the bottom of this. If you go the elimination route, maybe do it gradually so that you don't get the withdrawal headache?