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July 2015 Moms
barbiedoll1192
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Ready to tell my birth story
barbiedoll1192
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Hello ladies, I have always been more of a lurker, never posted or commented much but I want to share a nutshell of my story. For me my daughter's birth was a traumatizing experience which is why it has taken me 3 1/2 weeks to share and why I am sure I am one and done at the age of 22. I apologize for the long post, this is really a nutshell of what I went through.
I never went into labor, I knew something was wrong, I was in pain but not contracting, so at 4am June 29th we went into the hospital just to be safe, not actually expecting to have our daughter 2 hours later. I was in pain, but it was a pressure under my diaphragm, making taking deep breaths impossible, and the pain was gradually getting worse, by time the nurse realized I was not contracting and finally actually took my vitals my blood pressure was 214 over something and I was vomiting. Immediately she began notifying my on-call Dr and midwife at the hospital that there was an emergency and within the next half-hour I was being wheeled away for an emergency C-section, my SO and I only had time to make eye-contact and mouth "I love you" before they wheeled me into surgery. I was in too much pain to sit still for a spinal, they had to fully put me under. I woke up in I.C.U. with a breathing tube down my throat, they almost lost me, I stopped breathing on my own and went down hill very fast from there after they successfully got my daughter out. I lost a lot of blood and was very ill. I had a perfect pregnancy, very smooth, no morning sickness, blood pressure perfect, everything was perfect. That all changed over-night, I had fast-onset Preeclampsia with full HELLP symptoms, my liver enzymes spiked, my HH levels dropped and my blood pressure sky-rocketed. I spent 2 days in I.C.U. before I met my daughter for the first time and had to have 3 blood transfusions. From there I spent an entire week in the hospital, and half-way through they had to put me on blood-pressure meds b/c we couldn't get my blood pressure to stabilize.
My daughter, Kahlyn May was born perfect and healthy, 8lbs 4oz, 20" long at 6:09am, 2 weeks early. I never got that beautiful "WOW moment" of bringing her into the world, or the hour of skin-to-skin the first hour of her life, I sat in ICU heartbroken waiting to meet her, it was a very rough experience, and very painful. I have been struggling with post-partum depression and now we are moving 1300miles back home to Michigan from Florida b/c my SO got a great job offer but we leave in 2 weeks, there has been so much change at once and I'm in a weird place emotionally. I do have a friend back home that went through the same experience in May to have her daughter and am looking forward to re-connecting with her b/c we understand what each other went through. My message to those of you who have not had your little ones yet, pay attention to your body!!! If you feel like something is not right listen to your intuition, never be afraid to go-in, the worse that can happen is your not in in labor and nothing is wrong so they send you home. I listened and it saved my life and my daughter's!
Re: Ready to tell my birth story
I fully understand your not wanting to have another. And honestly it would probably be for the best. I had HELLP syndrome with my first.. Went into seizures full liver failure. Heart/brain distress. But I had weeks of pre eclampsia building up to it. I got pre e again with my second.. And again with my 3rd. I got my tubes tied this time as planned and very thankful I did. I developed over night. If we hadn't been watching it.. It would have been bad. My uterus was weak from it, and I had uterine rupture and bled a good deal on the table.. Never enough to need more blood. I was told I shouldn't have gotten pregnant again after my first.. And my doc demanded I get my tubes tied with my second.. I didn't. I'm very greatful that everything went okay.. But I risked a lot. If you developed that quickly.. That bad.. God was watching out for you. Maybe count your blessings and live life to the fullest... Whatever you decide, I pray God continues to watch out for you and your family.
Congrats on the baby!
I'm so sorry that happened to you and you are dealing with a move on top of, what I imagine to be, a very difficult recovery. Everything you are feeling must be so overwhelming but it makes sense given what you went through. Take care of yourself as best you can and don't be afraid to ask for help.