1. I never watched or read Harry Potter, Lord of the Rings, Twilight
2. My DS loves doing Elf on the Shelf. But I don't understand the people who have the elf doing creepy things. Ours is normal, like the one in the movie. He takes marshmallow bubble baths and makes sugar snowballs and I don't post pictures of it on Facebook.
3. Moe's is better then Chipotle
4. I hardly wear leggings outside the house but if I do my butt is covers and I'm wear thick leggings
5. I love Fall/Winter and can't wait for it.
6. I didn't read 50 shade but I saw the movie. My MIL had a 50 shades party with the IL's and work people, we used to work together. So I saw the movie with my MIL.
7. GIFs
My UO bubblegum is the best ice cream flavor EVER!
@KaraEpp16 I really don't think that making the personal choice not to lie to my children about Santa at Christmas will deprive them. Santa, after all, is not the main point of Christmas (maybe another U/O topic) and there is plenty of other fun stuff worth celebrating during that time.
@nickicb7 I feel you on hating Facebook. I actually talk to and hang out with my friends way more now that I don't have it.
I hate Elf on a Shelf. All the teachers at my school seem to do it and my kids always ask "Why don't we have an elf?" And I say because they are all so good Santa doesn't need to send a spy(LIES). But seriously, that elf creeps me the f out. And it seems like some sort of competition on Facebook...who can be the most creative with their disturbing elf? No thank you.
I also loathe Elf on a Shelf.
My UO: I don't feel right about lying to my children about Santa, the tooth fairy, the Easter bunny, etc. So, I don't think we are going to do any of that stuff. I was so traumatized when I found out that my parents had lied to me about it all. I'm worried that it teaches children that you will deceive them. Maybe that viewpoint is a little extreme, but I remember that it really broke my heart when I realized that my parents could lie to me.
Please do not deprive your children of Santa - He is a wonderful wonderful Christmas tradition. My parents always said "They believed in the spirit of Santa" never flat out said " I believe in Santa."
They also had Santa bring only the stocking stuffers and maybe one big item - other than that everything said mom and dad.
See, that's how I figured out Santa and the Easter Bunny weren't real. My parents would get a reasonable amount of toys and stocking stuffers for Santa presents, and my Easter basket always just had jelly beans, a chocolate bunny, toiletries, and maybe 5 dollars. My VERY spoiled BFF growing up would get mountains of toys, TVs, and even one year a golf cart from Santa. For Easter she got full outfits, jewelry, and a new bathing suit for spring break(in addition to candy and stuff). When I was in 2nd grade I came over to her house to see her Christmas haul, and left there thinking, "NOOOOOOPE, no way she's been better than me this year, she cheated on that math test and says cuss words on the bus... this is bunk."
@KaraEpp16 I really don't think that making the personal choice not to lie to my children about Santa at Christmas will deprive them. Santa, after all, is not the main point of Christmas (maybe another U/O topic) and there is plenty of other fun stuff worth celebrating during that time.
@nickicb7 I feel you on hating Facebook. I actually talk to and hang out with my friends way more now that I don't have it.
I was just trying to tell you that you don't have to lie and still make Santa a part of the holiday - I will not disagree that Santa is not the MAIN focus at Christmas.
UO: I will not lie and admit that I will feel really bad for your children. Especially, if you plan on sending them to public schools. I hope my kids are not in school with your kids when they're scratching their heads saying "Who is Santa?"
@KaraEpp16 I really don't think that making the personal choice not to lie to my children about Santa at Christmas will deprive them. Santa, after all, is not the main point of Christmas (maybe another U/O topic) and there is plenty of other fun stuff worth celebrating during that time.
@nickicb7 I feel you on hating Facebook. I actually talk to and hang out with my friends way more now that I don't have it.
I was just trying to tell you that you don't have to lie and still make Santa a part of the holiday - I will not disagree that Santa is not the MAIN focus at Christmas.
UO: I will not lie and admit that I will feel really bad for your children. Especially, if you plan on sending them to public schools. I hope my kids are not in school with your kids when they're scratching their heads saying "Who is Santa?"
In my house santa fills the stockings. Im not letting santa get credit for my hard work and awesome gifts lol but he does make some amazing stockings.
@KaraEpp16 I really don't think that making the personal choice not to lie to my children about Santa at Christmas will deprive them. Santa, after all, is not the main point of Christmas (maybe another U/O topic) and there is plenty of other fun stuff worth celebrating during that time.
@nickicb7 I feel you on hating Facebook. I actually talk to and hang out with my friends way more now that I don't have it.
I'm totally curious about your plan for Santa, etc. I'm on the fence here and I can't begin to know how to approach it. Santa is freaking everywhere! Then there are all of the family members and random people asking them about what they're asking for from Santa. The bigger concern is my kid telling all of the other kids, "My mom says that Santa isn't real". I dunno. It all just seems pointless. We lie about Santa and then they continue to go along with it because they're afraid they won't get gifts anymore.
I am totally doing the whole Santa & Easter Bunny thing. They were such a big part of my childhood and it brought my siblings and I so much joy. We caught on early to them not being real, but it was still fun to play along. It never scarred me. Also, my kids will know the real reason for the holiday.
I don't think there is anything wrong with thinking and voicing that you find someone else attractive (outside of your SO). We all would be lying if we said we ONLY found our SO attractive.
@KaraEpp16 I think it's a little extreme for you to say that you will feel really bad for my children. Especially since you and I have never met in real life, and you know virtually nothing about me as a person. But I'm not mad your opinion, nor will I sweat it!
I absolutely hate when people ask questions like "does anyone else feel guilty when they...." I love coffee, tea, sushi, lunch meat... The list goes on if I felt guilty I wouldn't do it.... And I really don't care that you feel guilty either. :-@
My u/o today is when a thread like UO Thurs or WTF Wed become personal conversations that are off topic from the main point. Not to say I don't think it's absolutely fantastic that women find mutual interests and commonalities they want to chat about. But wouldn't it be more advantageous for the newcombers to the thread if the conversation was started in a new thread exclusive to those ladies? Sometimes I get over sifting through these threads because it's just one long conversation between a few people. Maybe I'm wrong....................
@KaraEpp16 I think it's a little extreme for you to say that you will feel really bad for my children. Especially since you and I have never met in real life, and you know virtually nothing about me as a person. But I'm not mad your opinion, nor will I sweat it!
I can't get it up over Santa. I really didn't want to do it with my son but we did and it's fine. Santa in our house brings one small toy - this year it was a $1 matchstick car and a box of fruit loops. Lol.
pregnancy #1 :: daughter lost to chromosomal abnormality at 18 weeks
I hate Elf on a Shelf. All the teachers at my school seem to do it and my kids always ask "Why don't we have an elf?" And I say because they are all so good Santa doesn't need to send a spy(LIES). But seriously, that elf creeps me the f out. And it seems like some sort of competition on Facebook...who can be the most creative with their disturbing elf? No thank you.
I also loathe Elf on a Shelf.
My UO: I don't feel right about lying to my children about Santa, the tooth fairy, the Easter bunny, etc. So, I don't think we are going to do any of that stuff. I was so traumatized when I found out that my parents had lied to me about it all. I'm worried that it teaches children that you will deceive them. Maybe that viewpoint is a little extreme, but I remember that it really broke my heart when I realized that my parents could lie to me.
Same. My parents didn't do the Santa or Easter bunny thing, and I don't think I was deprived. It was special knowing that my parents who loved me bought my gifts. But they did explain that Santa was make believe and that we shouldn't spoil it for any of our friends who believed in it. I don't really remember any of my friends actually believing in the Easter bunny or the tooth fairy though.
Me: 30 DH: 35
TTC #1 - Jan 2015
BFP on 5/13/15 DD born 1/24/16 TTC #2 - Jun 2017 BFP on 8/24/17
I absolutely hate when people ask questions like "does anyone else feel guilty when they...." I love coffee, tea, sushi, lunch meat... The list goes on if I felt guilty I wouldn't do it.... And I really don't care that you feel guilty either. :-@
Feta freakin' cheese is all I have to say about this. I have eaten an entire block in one sitting with no guilt or shame! Rock on, and keep eating what you want!
When my parents told me they said that Santa was more an idea and that Santa is about giving to others without getting the credit. It is just about seeing the joy on someones face without expecting a thank you or gift in return. It worked for me I didn't feel deceived.
@KaraEpp16 I really don't think that making the personal choice not to lie to my children about Santa at Christmas will deprive them. Santa, after all, is not the main point of Christmas (maybe another U/O topic) and there is plenty of other fun stuff worth celebrating during that time.
@nickicb7 I feel you on hating Facebook. I actually talk to and hang out with my friends way more now that I don't have it.
I'm totally curious about your plan for Santa, etc. I'm on the fence here and I can't begin to know how to approach it. Santa is freaking everywhere! Then there are all of the family members and random people asking them about what they're asking for from Santa. The bigger concern is my kid telling all of the other kids, "My mom says that Santa isn't real". I dunno. It all just seems pointless. We lie about Santa and then they continue to go along with it because they're afraid they won't get gifts anymore.
See that's the thing though, Christmas isn't about presents. Whether or not you include Santa.
I absolutely hate when people ask questions like "does anyone else feel guilty when they...." I love coffee, tea, sushi, lunch meat... The list goes on if I felt guilty I wouldn't do it.... And I really don't care that you feel guilty either. :-@
Feta freakin' cheese is all I have to say about this. I have eaten an entire block in one sitting with no guilt or shame! Rock on, and keep eating what you want!
I can't get it up over Santa. I really didn't want to do it with my son but we did and it's fine. Santa in our house brings one small toy - this year it was a $1 matchstick car and a box of fruit loops. Lol.
pregnancy #1 :: daughter lost to chromosomal abnormality at 18 weeks
@KaraEpp16 I really don't think that making the personal choice not to lie to my children about Santa at Christmas will deprive them. Santa, after all, is not the main point of Christmas (maybe another U/O topic) and there is plenty of other fun stuff worth celebrating during that time.
@nickicb7 I feel you on hating Facebook. I actually talk to and hang out with my friends way more now that I don't have it.
I'm totally curious about your plan for Santa, etc. I'm on the fence here and I can't begin to know how to approach it. Santa is freaking everywhere! Then there are all of the family members and random people asking them about what they're asking for from Santa. The bigger concern is my kid telling all of the other kids, "My mom says that Santa isn't real". I dunno. It all just seems pointless. We lie about Santa and then they continue to go along with it because they're afraid they won't get gifts anymore.
See that's the thing though, Christmas isn't about presents. Whether or not you include Santa.
Agree - Santa has become a big part of the holiday, though. Plus, I don't know about you but I really loved watching all of the Christmas cartoons/clay-mations and they are pretty Santa focused. The idea of Santa is magical to a child. That's all I'm saying. It doesn't have to be a huge lie. It can be a great story to share.
Christmas is not about getting gifts - but boy do I enjoy giving them. Christmas is my favorite.
Edit to add: My UO still stands. Regardless of whether or not I know you or your children IRL I will be sad for them.
As someone that didn't even get the chance to decide on Santa or not with my kids. I wish I could have. I love the holidays but my son (who is 9) has never been allowed to have the fantasy of Santa because his bio-Mom always let him know that she bought his gifts because she has always tried to make the holidays an, "I love you more because I got you all this" kind of competition. Our son has come to us upset because kids picked on him for "being mean" because he said Santa wasn't real. I feel terrible. I dont want to lie to him either but there is some fun in the idea of Santa.
With DD we do a mix a both but it is hard since our son knows Santa isn't real, we try and make a balance. We do cookies and like PP said Santa does the stockings and maybe a gift or two but Mom & Dad do the rest. I love the Holidays. I love making cookies and singing carols and decorating and the togetherness. It could be because I didn't have that growing up so I love to do it with my kids. We approach Santa like an old tale. We tell DD that long ago Santa came to teach the children the importance of giving and being kind and gave them gifts for learning and that now we dont know if he still does, but that it is fun to think so.
@StephPegasus I totally agree. I really don't want my kids to be greedy. Which leads to my UO I guess. I have a friend who makes his 3 kids donate one of their old toys for every new one they get. DH and Iove it and will be doing the same.
As someone that didn't even get the chance to decide on Santa or not with my kids. I wish I could have. I love the holidays but my son (who is 9) has never been allowed to have the fantasy of Santa because his bio-Mom always let him know that she bought his gifts because she has always tried to make the holidays an, "I love you more because I got you all this" kind of competition. Our son has come to us upset because kids picked on him for "being mean" because he said Santa wasn't real. I feel terrible. I dont want to lie to him either but there is some fun in the idea of Santa.
With DD we do a mix a both but it is hard since our son knows Santa isn't real, we try and make a balance. We do cookies and like PP said Santa does the stockings and maybe a gift or two but Mom & Dad do the rest. I love the Holidays. I love making cookies and singing carols and decorating and the togetherness. It could be because I didn't have that growing up so I love to do it with my kids. We approach Santa like an old tale. We tell DD that long ago Santa came to teach the children the importance of giving and being kind and gave them gifts for learning and that now we dont know if he still does, but that it is fun to think so.
We tell our kids santa gives to the children whos parents cant give them gifts. Every year we go to stores that do santa for the elderly. Its for people who dont have family and purchase gifts and the kids live it we also do toys for tots. I love seeing them get excited to do for others without expecting anything in return.
I absolutely hate when people ask questions like "does anyone else feel guilty when they...."
I love coffee, tea, sushi, lunch meat... The list goes on if I felt guilty I wouldn't do it.... And I really don't care that you feel guilty either. :-@
THIS!!! Goat cheese...check. Jimmy John sandwiches...check. Sushi...check. Coffee EVERY DAMN MORNING...double check. And if I decide to have a glass of wine or beer later into my pregnancy... check! If I felt I was harming my baby by doing any of these things, I wouldn't do them. Rock on all you "rule" breaking mommies!
@sarah9544 That is awesome and a great thing to do! We do a lot of donating and we take Christmas trees & meals to people that can't get them. I always hope that is our kid's biggest take away from the Holidays.
@StephPegasus I totally agree. I really don't want my kids to be greedy. Which leads to my UO I guess. I have a friend who makes his 3 kids donate one of their old toys for every new one they get. DH and Iove it and will be doing the same.
Completely understand not wanting greedy children! I've been in some playrooms where I'm like....really? this is your life? you let them keep all of these things?
You can have a non-greedy kid who knows they have to behave and give gifts to receive them on the holidays. My parents did really well at focusing on family/Christ rather than gifts. But I mean come one - Sneaking downstairs and the tree is all lit up and your kids say "Santa Came!" I'm going to enjoy every second of being Santa. Santa will probably do stockings and one gift. I think parents deserve credit for getting the awesome toys. AND I do NOT agree with going into debt over Christmas, either. Some people go tooooo far.
Team Santa all the way. Excuse my language but.... SANTA IS THE SHIT. Of course the holiday isn't just about Santa, but Santa made Christmas magical for me as a child and I miss that magical feeling and I CANNOT wait to give my children that magical feeling!!!
All of this Christmas talk is making me want to fast-forward to December! We will all be some big ole whales by then!
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DS1 2010
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DD1 2016
@nickicb7 I feel you on hating Facebook. I actually talk to and hang out with my friends way more now that I don't have it.
UO: I will not lie and admit that I will feel really bad for your children. Especially, if you plan on sending them to public schools. I hope my kids are not in school with your kids when they're scratching their heads saying "Who is Santa?"
UO: I will not lie and admit that I will feel really bad for your children. Especially, if you plan on sending them to public schools. I hope my kids are not in school with your kids when they're scratching their heads saying "Who is Santa?"
In my house santa fills the stockings. Im not letting santa get credit for my hard work and awesome gifts lol but he does make some amazing stockings.
I love all the Gifs. Keep them coming.
I drool over men. I'm ok with that.
If the repeat post don't annoy you, you aren't on here that often.
My UO: Christmas is about Santa!!!
I am totally doing the whole Santa & Easter Bunny thing. They were such a big part of my childhood and it brought my siblings and I so much joy. We caught on early to them not being real, but it was still fun to play along. It never scarred me. Also, my kids will know the real reason for the holiday.
I don't think there is anything wrong with thinking and voicing that you find someone else attractive (outside of your SO). We all would be lying if we said we ONLY found our SO attractive.
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I love coffee, tea, sushi, lunch meat... The list goes on if I felt guilty I wouldn't do it.... And I really don't care that you feel guilty either. :-@
DD born 1/24/16
TTC #2 - Jun 2017
BFP on 8/24/17
DS1 2010
DS2 2013
DD1 2016
Omg feta... On anything :x
Christmas is not about getting gifts - but boy do I enjoy giving them. Christmas is my favorite.
Edit to add: My UO still stands. Regardless of whether or not I know you or your children IRL I will be sad for them.
Married: 7.23.11
DD:10.17.12
EDD #2!:1.17.16
If you do decide to include Santa maybe you can have your kids leave them out with the milk & cookies for Santa to take back to the workshop
ETA: my parents think the idea of making them give up toys is cruel.
Married: 7.23.11
DD:10.17.12
EDD #2!:1.17.16
You can have a non-greedy kid who knows they have to behave and give gifts to receive them on the holidays. My parents did really well at focusing on family/Christ rather than gifts. But I mean come one - Sneaking downstairs and the tree is all lit up and your kids say "Santa Came!" I'm going to enjoy every second of being Santa. Santa will probably do stockings and one gift. I think parents deserve credit for getting the awesome toys. AND I do NOT agree with going into debt over Christmas, either. Some people go tooooo far.
All of this Christmas talk is making me want to fast-forward to December! We will all be some big ole whales by then!