Community› The Bump Month Clubs› May 2015 Moms
May 2015 Moms
New Discussion

Crazy stuff strangers say 7/23

borntorun17borntorun17 member
in May 2015 Moms
I know I need this thread this week I thought everybody else could use a place to post ridiculous thing people say to them
Report Reply to Post

Re: Crazy stuff strangers say 7/23

  • borntorun17borntorun17 member
    When bringing my baby to my office to visit yesterday I got some really fantastic questions. First literally everyone wants to know if I'm nursing. I'm talking about secretaries I've spoken to once or twice ever. And having had to stop nursing due to medical issues, I really hate answering this question. And when I explained people know where formula feeding, people want to know why. I'm sorry but that's just rude and none of your business. With all the judgment that goes on in the world about bottle and formula feeding I don't need it from people at work


    Another one is "is he a good baby"? Actually he's colicky and screens for 90% of the day but I'm sure nobody wants to hear that so I just smile and say yup he's great.

    And lastly they all asked me "are you just loving every second?" I know people mean well but the questions just get annoying especially when you're struggling
    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • erin79erin79 member
    dm28 said:
    And lastly they all asked me "are you just loving every second?" I know people mean well but the questions just get annoying especially when you're struggling
    The newborn stage is SO HARD, and I had PPD/PPA with my first, so I was really struggling those first few months.  I really appreciated when people would say, "It's really hard in the beginning, it gets better," or something like that.  It made me feel better, knowing that it wasn't just me.
    Report Reply
  • justkeeptryingjustkeeptrying member
    Agreed with PP. I struggled with the baby blues and for sure with breastfeeding. I was ready to switch to FF pretty much every second day. When I visited work, one girl that I don't know very well asked if I was breastfeeding. I said yes but it was pretty obvious that I wasn't enjoying it. She just said to me "Breastfeeding sucks at the beginning. It SUCKS. But I promise you it gets so much better". I was so encouraged by that. She's pregnant with her 4th so I actually trusted her.

    I went for a walk with DS the other day and passed a woman with 2 toddlers. She just looked at me and said "that age is so great. They're so easy then". I just responded "I guess every age has its challenges. It's never easy". As someone who isn't honestly a huge fan of the newborn stage, I was a bit annoyed. I'm looking forward to when DS is more interactive and not just sleeping most of the day.
    Report Reply
  • borntorun17borntorun17 member
    chambersbaby2015 said:

    Agreed with PP. I struggled with the baby blues and for sure with breastfeeding. I was ready to switch to FF pretty much every second day. When I visited work, one girl that I don't know very well asked if I was breastfeeding. I said yes but it was pretty obvious that I wasn't enjoying it. She just said to me "Breastfeeding sucks at the beginning. It SUCKS. But I promise you it gets so much better". I was so encouraged by that. She's pregnant with her 4th so I actually trusted her.

    I went for a walk with DS the other day and passed a woman with 2 toddlers. She just looked at me and said "that age is so great. They're so easy then". I just responded "I guess every age has its challenges. It's never easy". As someone who isn't honestly a huge fan of the newborn stage, I was a bit annoyed. I'm looking forward to when DS is more interactive and not just sleeping most of the day.

    It's not that I gave up breastfeeding because it was too hard. I saw four different lactation consultants. My child was starving because he wasn't getting enough food due to my IGT and other health issues.

    Almost everyone assumes that if you don't breastfeed, you just didn't try hard enough.....
    Report Reply
  • justkeeptryingjustkeeptrying member
    @dm28 - my apologies! I was definitely not implying that you gave up on breastfeeding in any way. I was saying that was my own feelings at the time due to my own frustrations with LO's difficulty latching. I'm sorry if I offended you - not my intention at all!! I was just using that story as an example of how I appreciate when other moms are actually honest about it. Everyone makes having a newborn sound like rainbows and lollipops all the time, but it's not. There are legitimate struggles. So I appreciated that my co-worker said that as it normalized my feelings.
    Report Reply
  • borntorun17borntorun17 member
    edited July 2015
    chambersbaby2015 said:

    @dm28 - my apologies! I was definitely not implying that you gave up on breastfeeding in any way. I was saying that was my own feelings at the time due to my own frustrations with LO's difficulty latching. I'm sorry if I offended you - not my intention at all!! I was just using that story as an example of how I appreciate when other moms are actually honest about it. Everyone makes having a newborn sound like rainbows and lollipops all the time, but it's not. There are legitimate struggles. So I appreciated that my co-worker said that as it normalized my feelings.

    No worries - I was more implying that strangers assume I just gave up
    Report Reply
  • stark01938209stark01938209 member
    Someone asked if that was her real hair and if it was highlighted. Lol. Yeah lady- I put extensions on her and then a bunch of chemicals.... Because that's what you do with newborns- right?!
    Report Reply
  • prplzprplz member
    jrecine said:

    I'm a little bit on the younger side (20) and when I'm in public I constantly get asked, "is that YOUR baby? You look like you're 16!" Actually it is my baby, yes I know I look younger however it does not make me lesser of a mom. Then of course they get into the super personal questions "is the father in the picture" actually yeah he's my husband, sometimes I'm tempted to say, "I actually have no idea who the father is!" Haha!

    I get you!! Im 22 but look so much younger that i get stares and the same questions. It gets rather annoying
    Report Reply
  • Kae42Kae42 member
    "You don't even look like someone who just had a baby"
    I know people intend this statement to be taken as a positive, but it always rubs me the wrong way. Of course I look like someone who had a baby because: I just had a baby! I was there! And this is what I look like. I experienced physical and emotional issues throughout my pregnancy and I'm pretty damn proud to have made it through that and birth, not to mention every challenge since then.
    Tell every mom: you look good. Then ask how she feels and listen to her. *end rant*
    Report Reply
  • blairdavis99blairdavis99 member
    My twins are boy/girl and look nothing alike. DS is way bigger than DD too. So today I got the usual "are they twins?" question. After I said "yes," the lady poked her head in the stroller for a closer inspection and said "are you sure?". Um yes. I'm sure.
    Report Reply
  • MrsWhiteToBeMrsWhiteToBe member
    I took DD out to lunch today and she (luckily) was quiet and well behaved. So well behaved, in fact, that as people were leaving the restaurant (we were right by the door) several people commented on how beautiful or how sweet she was. Suddenly this big burly biker dude walks up and says in a high pitched voice "She is so adorable! Can I take her home with me?" I laughed and said no, but at the same time I held her just a liiiiiittle bit tighter.
    Report Reply
  • courtneylevesquecourtneylevesque member
    jrecine said:

    I'm a little bit on the younger side (20) and when I'm in public I constantly get asked, "is that YOUR baby? You look like you're 16!" Actually it is my baby, yes I know I look younger however it does not make me lesser of a mom. Then of course they get into the super personal questions "is the father in the picture" actually yeah he's my husband, sometimes I'm tempted to say, "I actually have no idea who the father is!" Haha!

    LOL THIS!!!! My DH and I get so many bad looks from people out in the public. I am 22 and DH is 26 (but he seriously looks like he is 19). People scold us all the time for having a baby out of wedlock. It's like, seriously, for one its not your damn business and two, do you not see the rings on our fingers?!?! We are married!!!! Also we bought our own house when I was 20, which is more than half the people in their 30's can say around here
    Report Reply
  • jrecinejrecine member
    courtneylevesque said:

    jrecine said:

    I'm a little bit on the younger side (20) and when I'm in public I constantly get asked, "is that YOUR baby? You look like you're 16!" Actually it is my baby, yes I know I look younger however it does not make me lesser of a mom. Then of course they get into the super personal questions "is the father in the picture" actually yeah he's my husband, sometimes I'm tempted to say, "I actually have no idea who the father is!" Haha!

    LOL THIS!!!! My DH and I get so many bad looks from people out in the public. I am 22 and DH is 26 (but he seriously looks like he is 19). People scold us all the time for having a baby out of wedlock. It's like, seriously, for one its not your damn business and two, do you not see the rings on our fingers?!?! We are married!!!! Also we bought our own house when I was 20, which is more than half the people in their 30's can say around here
    Agreed! It is totally ridiculous, I love the quizzical stares I get too when people try to guess my age, like oh please lol
    Report Reply
  • canadianmom89canadianmom89 member
    jrecine said:

    courtneylevesque said:

    jrecine said:

    I'm a little bit on the younger side (20) and when I'm in public I constantly get asked, "is that YOUR baby? You look like you're 16!" Actually it is my baby, yes I know I look younger however it does not make me lesser of a mom. Then of course they get into the super personal questions "is the father in the picture" actually yeah he's my husband, sometimes I'm tempted to say, "I actually have no idea who the father is!" Haha!

    LOL THIS!!!! My DH and I get so many bad looks from people out in the public. I am 22 and DH is 26 (but he seriously looks like he is 19). People scold us all the time for having a baby out of wedlock. It's like, seriously, for one its not your damn business and two, do you not see the rings on our fingers?!?! We are married!!!! Also we bought our own house when I was 20, which is more than half the people in their 30's can say around here
    Agreed! It is totally ridiculous, I love the quizzical stares I get too when people try to guess my age, like oh please lol
    Omg this exactly! I'm 26 but get mistaken for a high school student ALL the time! When I was pregnant I had an elderly man say to me how sad it was to have a baby in high school.... I was like I'm married, 26, own a home, work full time and working on my masters .... That shut him up pretty quick!
    And I hate when LO cries in public and people stare and give me pity looks then come over and go is she hungry... No I just fed her... Is she gassy... Probably but I can handle it , thanks!
    Report Reply
  • caseheelacaseheela member
    85 degrees outside under an awning 'he should really be wearing a hat it's chilly for a baby'. Thanks but SHE is just fine.
    Report Reply
  • agilber3agilber3 member
    Kae42 said:

    "You don't even look like someone who just had a baby"
    I know people intend this statement to be taken as a positive, but it always rubs me the wrong way. Of course I look like someone who had a baby because: I just had a baby! I was there! And this is what I look like. I experienced physical and emotional issues throughout my pregnancy and I'm pretty damn proud to have made it through that and birth, not to mention every challenge since then.
    Tell every mom: you look good. Then ask how she feels and listen to her. *end rant*

    Same here. I worked my ass off before getting pregnant to eat better, exercise and drink tons of water. During my pregnancy I did the same and did yoga with a giant belly. I have a petite frame and now my hips are wider and boobs are gigantic. Can't you tell I'm a new mom by the tired bags under my eyes?! I agree that people should just say "you look good". I hated during pregnancy when people said I either looked huge or not big enough. Hey- let's focus on something other than my body image and more on the fact that I have a human inside of me!! It's weird how people looked at my belly when I was pregnant and now they look at it after I tell them how old my baby is. STOP. just stop. Lol. Rant over.
    Report Reply
  • cplove2013txcplove2013tx member
    I met my husbands step great grandmother - she had something to say about everything! "Are you breastfeeding? Caus you know they say it's better." "You don't think that bow hurts her head?" "Sure it's okay for the ceiling fan to be on? I think she's cold." "You took her in the pool! What about the chemicals?" "Oh she has to go to daycare? That's too bad, I stayed home with all mine." Ugh - I was so glad that visit was a short one!
    Report Reply
  • Kye042Kye042 member
    I had a PPD counsellor - while waiting for my appointment - come up to my son while I was bottle feeding him. She then tickled his toes and after a few minutes asked... Have you had his eyes checked? He didn't laugh or even look at me.. I wanted to just punch her! DS is eating and focusing on his bottle and not a strangers he's perfect. Ugh!
    Report Reply
  • Jenny33Jenny33 member
    I still have my little one with me all the time but I know the "when are you due?" Question is coming soon :( I carry all my extra weight in my belly.
    Report Reply
  • harpyogiharpyogi member
    My son was a premie (hence why I switched to the May board vs June) and is now almost double his birth weight, but when people ask how old he is they often follow up with "he's tiny for his age". Then I have to go into why he is (all while annoyed since he's grown so much and we've worked so hard to help him grow) which triggers questions about his time in the NICU (none of their business) and ends with oh 2 weeks in the NICU isn't that bad. Really?? Unless you've gone through the emotional roller coaster of having a babe in the NICU don't ever say that.

    Lastly, the annoying question of how is he sleeping? My DS is still up almost every 2-3hrs, sometimes giving us a stretch of 5hrs if we are lucky. I'm always tempted to say do the circles under my eyes not give it away?
    Report Reply
  • mina6483mina6483 member
    My twins are 11 weeks today my husband and I have four other girls I hate that people keep asking if their all his or not . I'm 32 we have been together for 10 years yes they are his. He gets so mad when people ask if their his. It's so rude .
    Report Reply
  • salovedsaloved member
    Well I have twin girls, and so I get the million twin questions... Are they twins? Identical or fraternal? Did you have them naturally? Do you breastfeed them?(which when I say yes I open the door for a million more BF questions) but the one thing people say that drives me crazy is isn't it impossible to enjoy them bc your always having to DEAL with one... This makes me nuts. I don't ever look at motherhood as something I have to deal with...
    Report Reply
Sign In or Register to comment.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"