my first baby and his fourth.

Re: my first baby and his fourth.

• ChrissyD1203 member

  July 2015 edited July 2015

  My husband acts that way too and it's both of our first child's. Same thing with wedding planning a few years back. Men are weird. Don't take it personally, I don't think it means anything and I'm sure he will love this baby just as much as he loves the others. Women experience pregnancy different than men (and because it's happening literally too us - I think it is more real for us).

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• sck601 member

  July 2015

  It's different for men than it is for women. Women usually develop instantly, because the baby is in our belly. Men, on the other hand, don't develop the connection until after the baby is born.

  

  

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• l4rk member

  July 2015

  Yeah, I third what PP's have said--it takes more time for it to be "real" for men because they aren't the one growing the little creature. My guy doesn't get nearly as excited about the baby as he does about slurpees, golfing, his hot pepper garden and micro-irrigation hoses, and so forth... He doesn't have much interest in talking about the baby at this point but he'll humour me now and then for brief moments and he's there when it matters. Give your man some time to come around.

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• jessielynn1 member

  July 2015

  Yup it's harder for men to become attached. Or it takes more time I should say. This is our third and DH doesn't really take interest until the belly appears. I guess once he has a visual he's like oh ok yup it's happening.

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• MamaHolland member

  July 2015

  You don't know how he was for the previous pregnancies because you weren't there, imagining that he was more excited about the other pregnancies is just the scenario you are creating in your own mind. Just talk to him about it and explain that you are feeling sensitive and emotional and let him know what you need from him. My husband is very excited but sometimes I need him to be more expressive about it and I tell him. I had no idea in his freetime he'd been researching parenting online and other baby topics. Men don't verbally show it as much but they have their own way.

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• Buehler99 member

  July 2015

  I'm in the same position - this is my first, and my husband's fourth.  It's both a blessing and pisser.  If I have questions, he usually knows the answer to it.  However, everything that is new and exciting for me is old-hat to him.  I will say that he seems excited about things (appointments, getting bigger, etc) just as much as I am.  When I brought this exact thing up to him, he said that while this is his fourth child, it is his first with me, and that makes it exciting.  Give your guy some time - he probably is dealing with things in his own way.

  

  
  
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