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Pushin' present

laurena612laurena612 member
edited July 2015 in August 2015 Moms
so does anyone else have this tradition where their SO gets them a 'pushing present' as me and my husband call it?! After I had my preemie son he was in nicu for 5 weeks my hubs bought me a new camera so we could take pictures of how he was developing to show family and friends. We called it my pushin present just for a bit of fun! I've reminded him that the baby is due in a couple of weeks so to get looking at gifts haha! My friend thought it was weird that he rewarded me with a present but it's just a bit of fun and a way for my husband to show his appreciation (as he should haha!) Anyone else do anything similar?

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  • heatherxbergeronheatherxbergeron member
    No I've never heard of that but I think it's the sweetest idea!! My boyfriend would never do that but I think it's sooooo cute! :P
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  • EmJ628EmJ628 member
    There was just a thread on this, but I think you will find a lot of strong opinions on this. Personally I don't think there's anything wrong with a gift to commemorate something as important as the birth of your child! DH gave me a gorgeous infinity ring and we are going to have the band ingraved with the boys' birthday when my swelling goes down :). Love the camera idea!
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  • laurena612laurena612 member
    Oh really I must of missed that post!
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  • JNOVA2015JNOVA2015 member
    As PP said, there was a whole thread on this. Some women find it tacky to get a present for doing something your body is made to do. Others think it's a sweet gesture. Some think it's fine to get one, but not to ask for or expect one. I personally don't care what people decide to spend their money on as long as they're living within their means.

    It's mostly interesting to me that you seem to be suggesting that this is a unique thing your husband did for you. Push presents (as the rest of the world calls them) are not uncommon.
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  • laurena612laurena612 member
    Yeah like I said I must of missed that post. Each to there own and all that! I actually didn't know it was a thing believe it or not. Here in the UK none of my friends did anything similar or had heard of a 'push present' that's why I posted to see if anyone else did! I think it's cool that it's a thing - although I'm now teasing my husband that he lead me to believe he was super original but secretly stole the idea haha!! How interesting that people can find it tacky although I can kinda see where some could see it as that - I'm personally sticking to thinking its a nice idea!
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  • hclzmm14hclzmm14 member
    laurena612 said:

    Yeah like I said I must of missed that post. Each to there own and all that! I actually didn't know it was a thing believe it or not. Here in the UK none of my friends did anything similar or had heard of a 'push present' that's why I posted to see if anyone else did! I think it's cool that it's a thing - although I'm now teasing my husband that he lead me to believe he was super original but secretly stole the idea haha!! How interesting that people can find it tacky although I can kinda see where some could see it as that - I'm personally sticking to thinking its a nice idea!

    Some people are given designer handbags and shit like that so I think that's when people see it as tacky. Sentimental jewelry or a camera is a little different.
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  • kcollins78kcollins78 member
    A "friend" of mine asked for diamond earrings. I think that's when it gets tacky. My husband got me a stacking birthstone ring for each baby and will with this one too. They're like $40 so not expensive or obnoxious, it's just a sweet gesture to show he appreciates the process and me and also to commemorate the newest Little. I think push presents are nice so long as people don't go asking for things and making ridiculous requests. *cough* diamonds. Lol.
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  • holli0801holli0801 member
    I love the idea of doing something to commemorate the moment. The camera is a fantastic idea and makes so much sense to document baby!

    Like any occasion, one shouldn't "expect" a gift. But I don't think there is anything wrong with receiving one.. Obviously we would all be more than happy with the gift of a healthy baby! I'm positive my SO has no clue what a push present is. But we have talked about tattoos with babies name... I'm sure he will somehow get me flowers or my favorite ice cream or something while we hang in the hospital.
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  • PixelPosyPixelPosy member
    Gift giving causes my DH a lot of anxiety. So if on his own he decides to gift me with something, awesome. But I won't be dropping any hints or expecting anything. I'm almost 100% sure he doesn't have any idea what a push present is, and I'm okay with that. He was an awesome support person during the labor and delivery process and that's what I expect and want most from him again this round. 

    For DD1 I bought my own push present, earrings that I wear nearly daily. I have been wanting a mother's ring since she was born as well, and I will probably have that finally made up once DD2 arrives and we know for sure what her birth stone is.  
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  • laurena612laurena612 member
    Oh god yeah there is definitely a limit! I get the diamonds or designer bag thing is just ridiculous in my opinion I would be mad if my hubs spent a silly amount of money on something like that when we just had a baby! But I think a little something to celebrate is a nice thought. Also asking for it is also pretty tacky, I hinted to him as a joke as we did it the first time round but he knows I am not the sort of person to expect expensive gifts at all. He knows that if he didn't buy a gift I wouldn't care at all as long as we had a healthy baby and he was there for support id be more than happy. I read about a lady who had a necklace for her birthday and when she had her daughter her partner added a rose gem to it to signify their daughter which is so sweet! Either way I suppose it's not everyone's thing.
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  • BeautifulBedlamBeautifulBedlam member
    I just gave my hubby HIS "push present" last night: the new 2015 Amazon Kindle. On top of our pregnancy (which hasn't been the smoothest) we're dealing with a death in the family, a cross-country move and stressors with his work. Yet, he still everyday walks our dogs, rubs the swelling from my feet and is always loving and joyful.
    He definitely deserved something for being so amazing, and he's been wanting that eReader.
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  • msmoleculemsmolecule member
    So, I guess the down payment on a new car was a bit much then?

    It wasn't exactly a "push present," but an investment in the future. I needed something under warranty so we wouldn't have to worry about paying for repairs for a few years. My old car was starting to develop some expensive issues.
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