Stupid idea from the husband?

dawall12 · July 2015

Just saw the doctor this afternoon and if I don't start labour by Wednesday, I will be induced at 8 am. Looking forward to it!

So I told my husband what the plan was and he is ACTUALLY suggesting he goes to work for half the day since it's kind of pointless for him to be there and I quote "stare at white walls all day"... I am so pissed off at the moment. I know I can't predict how long it will take but seriously...Am I overreacting?

megmansell · July 2015

Unless this is your 9th child and all just a routine for you guys at this point, I'd be righteously pissed.

LibbyC730 · July 2015

Nothing might be happening baby-wise, but you'll be going through a lot! Hope he decides to be there with you! DH missed our LO's delivery due to work--totally not his fault--but if it had been scheduled I would have expected him to be there!

oneblessedmess · July 2015

Oh, what a poor, clueless man.

Just explain that you will need his support even if that's just sitting by your side holding your hand. Hopefully he gets it.

Savanna111911 · July 2015

I don't even know how you are reacting but I am certain that there is no overreaction.

babydu · July 2015

I would have lost it if my husband said that to me!

MCH77 · July 2015

My husband is an idiot too. Sorry.

beccer123 · July 2015

I'm the only one on the other side of the fence, I think. As long as he can leave if things progress quicker than expected, I can see him not being there. My DH isn't going to be in the room either way so maybe that's why it's not as big a thing for me.

dawall12 · July 2015

Thanks ladies. Made me laugh! Let's just say we haven't spoken much this afternoon/evening. I asked him if there's anything wrong and he said he wasn't ready to talk about it. He's seems really ticked off that I think it's a stupid idea.

To make matters worst, apparently he "needs" to bring the chickens he's been raising with a friend to the butcher at 5 am that morning for slaughter AND he informed me that he wanted to do some side jobs while he is off for the week when the baby comes. I don't get it! I swear the man lost is common sense. He is normally not like that.

2babes3angels · July 2015

My hubs said the exact same thing with our first born. Except that was after my water had already broken. I think men can just be seriously clueless. He'll come around I'm sure

mandalynn814 · July 2015

Maybe he is realizing that a new baby will be here shortly and it is freaking him out? Like he feels he needs to work as much as possible to support the growing family? (This is total conjecture on my part but you might ask him why he feels like work needs him more than you that morning).

But if my hubby told me this I would be absolutely furious. We're a team and it's important for him to be there for support.

I'm hoping your husband comes to his senses before you have to strangle him.

shaley29 · July 2015

Scheduled my c section today for Wed. My hubby asked if he had to stay all 3 nights with me. Then he said about coming home to eat and "do stuff" around the house, and go get a haircut on Friday! Umm what? He said well why do I have to be there 24/7 that is what nurses are for! He really is an awesome hubby and father, but like most men can be a complete idiot sometimes!! I feel your pain, and hopefully they both wise up lol

megmansell · July 2015

I would be seeing red. My word!

kmode13 · July 2015

I would not be a happy camper if I was in your shoes. I'm a FTM at 40+5 and I am relying on my DH to be there for support throughout!

Is there another couple you are close with who have kids and could give their perspective? As a FTM, there have been a TON of things I or my DH assumed would be easy or ok, and the honest perspectives of others have been really helpful for us as reality checks about what pregnancy, labor and birth might be like. Just a thought

. Good luck with your labor! Hoping for a smooth induction and delivery!!!

jessicayounghouse · July 2015

Men just don't understand ladies...

jessicayounghouse · July 2015

I remember someone telling me a story about their husband on the way to the hospital while in labor... She was having contractions like 3 or 4 minutes apart and her husband ran back into the house to grab a movie he 'needed' to return to the video store on the way to the hospital. Hahahahahahahaha Poor clueless men.

astraealynn · July 2015

oh goodness I'm seeing red just thinking about it!

mrsrep123 · July 2015

@dawall12 I need some closure to this, lol, what happened? Did you talk it out? Or is it still silent in your house?

zmombie · July 2015

Hell no!!!! I would be so livid!

cpenro01 · July 2015

To be fair, my husband is one of the best people I know and pampers me as much as I'll allow (not much - I hate being taken care of), but when he gets nervous he needs to feel like he is actively helping. I could see him feeling helpless/clueless in a situation like this and want to help in some other way until needed. Is he getting a limited amount of paternity leave and trying to maximize his time with you and baby?

Might be better to explain to him why you need him there, even if it seems boring to him, rather than just write it off as a "stupid idea." Sometimes these poor dudes are just trying to help and don't know how to go about it the proper way.

rainbowBOOM · July 2015

The day after I delivered my husband left and went to work for like 5 hours. And it was 7/3 so a work holiday and nobody but him was there. It didn't bother me at all. I knew that by him doing that dedicated 5 hours away from us it meant he could truly unplug for the next 5 days he planned to have off. And he did. Also the hospital was a quick 10 minutes from the hospital, so if I needed him it'd have been really quick for him to return.

I think the start of an induction is probably not a great time to be heading off to work though, that seems way more risky and unfair to you being there alone.

dawall12 · July 2015

mrsrep123 said:
@dawall12 I need some closure to this, lol, what happened? Did you talk it out? Or is it still silent in your house?

All is good. I asked him what his plan was for tomorrow and he said I had already decided that for him! So he will be there. He still seems a little off today but might be the nerves. I just found it weird that he suggested he go to work. This is baby #2 for us and he knows how important it is for me to have him there. I don't want anybody else there.

I am nervous and excited and can't wait to find out if it a boy or a girl.

mrsrep123 · July 2015

dawall12 said:

mrsrep123 said:
@dawall12 I need some closure to this, lol, what happened? Did you talk it out? Or is it still silent in your house?
All is good. I asked him what his plan was for tomorrow and he said I had already decided that for him! So he will be there. He still seems a little off today but might be the nerves. I just found it weird that he suggested he go to work. This is baby #2 for us and he knows how important it is for me to have him there. I don't want anybody else there.

I am nervous and excited and can't wait to find out if it a boy or a girl.

@dawall12 I'm glad all is good and he'll be with you tomorrow! Good luck and how exciting that you waited to find out the gender!

zmombie · July 2015

Curious... Baby boy or baby girl??

rw3190 · July 2015

Im so sorry

I laughed at this

Mine would totally say the same thing..."being practical" he'd say

katiexxpaige · July 2015

I was induced at 9 pm and told my fiance to go home for the night because I assumed labor would be slow enough we could both get some sleep. I got cyotec (spelling?) At midnight and a Foley cathater at 3 AM. I was having such strong contractions that I ended up calling him at 3:30 demanding he come home! You never know how long you have after getting induced before you need some help and support

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