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March 2015 Moms
SMac2013
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New parent peeves
SMac2013
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does anyone else hate it when people ask you those typical new parent questions? Like "how does it feel to be a mom?" And "have you ever loved someone so much?" And any kind of comment about first time things? It's probably just me but I can never find a good answer for the question... "How does it feel to be a mom?"... Well you lose your entire identity, smell like poop and spit up all day, don't get nearly enough sleep to function like a normal person, and ruin your body inside and out. But the baby is adorable." I'm pretty sure if I ever say that I would be shunned in the bad mom corner. I feel like I am the only mom that does not like babies. I love kids.. Talking, walking, eating solids, potty using kids... But babies... Yuck. Again I feel if I said this to anyone I am in the bad mom corner. Again, I love my son, but I still feel like i am an all access all you can eat Buffett to him. Just having a rough day I guess
Re: New parent peeves
Also, totally normal to have a bad day and want a rant! Doesn't make you a bad mum at all... I definitely have "oh my god I'm a cow" moments. I wouldn't change anything for the world though
New mummy questions are the worst: 'How are you finding it?' , 'Are you enjoying it?' Umm ... I'm sure I will in like, a year or two, maybe, but right now I am far too exhausted to 'enjoy' anything but the bit where my son goes to sleep and I can have a bath, or the occasional two or three minutes a day that he stops screaming (as his teeth burst through his gums) long enough to smile at me.
People ask like my maternity leave is one long holiday, like it's all cute smiles and dressing him up in sailor outfits and singing songs all day. Some days I actually feel jealous of my OH going to work. One of my child-less friends said to me recently: 'If it were me, I'd have to make a rule to get dressed everyday, even if I wasn't leaving the house.'
Yeah, good luck with that one.
Some days I just want to go to the toilet without having to listen to him screaming for my attention on the monitor (feeling like he sets an unreasonably short time limit on this activity) or sit down and read a magazine for five minutes. Some days I would like somebody to thank me for growing a tiny human inside me, forcing him, and most of my insides, out of my body and then devoting every second of my life to his existence. I wouldn't change a thing, I guess I just feel resentful that when I found out I was expecting him, there were an abundance of family and friends who expressed their support and promised to be around, and now that he is here, no one is ever available to help. My OH is amazing, but he works long shifts and is always tired, so I feel guilty when he steps through the door and his child is thrust apon him.
But whenever anyone asks those annoying and blissfully ignorant questions, I just smile widely and tell then I'm loving it.
Which of course, deep down, I am, if I could only get a friggin' minute to realise it.
People also asking how are you finding it blah blah but I'd rather lie and be polite about it than be rude like 'yeah I've just pushed a watermelon out of my vag and now I have this child constantly screaming at me and who relies on me for absolutely everything.' People often say 'youve taken to it like a duck to water', we'll to be honest I've sort of had to!
Im 22 years old and I've been with my partner for 3 years. He's great as a dad, but on the other hand he likes a drink and when he drinks, he thinks about nothing but himself 100%. Fair enough he works stupid hours, but he also comes home and just wants to crash when he gets home but I know if he does that every day after work then his daughter wouldn't know who he is! He doesn't understand anything from my point of view. He thinks I just sit on my ass all day and that my job is easy and simple. Boy is he wrong! Unless your a mother, you don't understand what your faced with every day.
I had a visit from a friend, and I was still in my pyjama's after my daughter had been stuck in hospital for over 24 hours.
It's gone 1pm and I'd managed to survive on 4 hours sleep. She showed up at my house and the look on her face was a picture! Nobody fully understands unless they've been in our shoes. Life is far from easy.