Am I the only one who isn't feeling excited?

Re: Am I the only one who isn't feeling excited?

• audi681 member

  July 2015

  Did you choose to get pregnant? I understand nerves and anxiety, but it seems like this is setting up to be a negative experience for you, and I really hope that changes in a few days! If you are already feeling this way, please let the nurses in the hospital know. They can set you up with a therapist in the hospital to work through any depression you may feel after. I've been a mom for 2 weeks now and realize there is no time for selfishness... It's literally all about the baby 24/7. Make sure you are prepared for that! Please talk to someone professional if you are feeling like this was a mistake!

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• leannef88 member

  July 2015

  I think it is totally normal to feel a certain amount of anxiety about the fear of the unknown but if you are feeling like these emotions are getting the better of you it may be worth talking to someone about it. Hope you feel better and more positive soon hun xxx

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• LibbyC730 member

  July 2015

  Borrowing from the childbirth class I took--Don't worry too much about the hospital experience and delivery. The pain is predictable and expected with a wonderful outcome. Your body has been working hard for 40 weeks, so what's one more tough day?
  I can very much relate to what you're feeling and can tell you from my experience that those elated mommy feelings come, it just took me a little longer than most women! I'll be thinking of you on Wednesday!

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• ecloho member

  July 2015

  Yes I agree with @audi681 let someone know... Hang in there sister!! @Mudhappy Are you a FTM?

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• jtenkorang member

  July 2015

  I was very nervous but excited when I had my first. I got very nervous when I was on the operating table for my c section but it passed as soon as they gave me my baby.

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• Melis222 member

  July 2015

  @Mudhappy are you a FTM? I felt that way with my first...I went into labor 5 days early and was like no no no I'm not ready! Lol but when I met him I fell in love. It's hard having a newborn and life changes a ton but the love you feel makes it all worth it.

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• AziaNick member

  July 2015

  I understand the feeling I was nervous and scared too and now that she's here I still am! Haha it's a day by day process and there's times where I still can't believe she is here. Don't worry you'll be fine, just remember to breathe

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• Natjune member

  July 2015

  I was terrified and not looking forward to labor at all! I felt the same thing you are feeling, wondering how can all these other ladies be so excited. But, when things are actually happening and you are in the moment, something else takes over your body, that allows you to handle all that is going on like s champ!

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• eevans5 member

  July 2015

  I feel the same way. I got pregnant on accident and married my boyfriend before we were ready and now it's just one big mess and I'm nervous and scared. Not the feeling I wanted for my first child. I thought I would be happy and excited. Everyone around me is but me. Having in law issues and marriage issues. It's hard when you have to come together for something you didn't plan or really want. I'm hoping when I see her I will become over joyed with love but I'm worried I won't bond at all just because of everything else going on.

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• Mudhappy member

  July 2015

  I am a FTM, and my pregnancy was totally planned. I didn't start feeling like this until like, last week! I think it's just my nerves getting the best of me. I'm just scared is all, but trying to focus on the end result. Thanks everyone.
  

  

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• pandd10513 member

  July 2015

  FTM, planned pregnancy. I was initially scared about L&D. Then I thought, you're pregnant for 9 months, L&D is 1 day, and then you have a beautiful baby forever. If I can make it through 9 months of pregnancy, I can do 1 terrible day in a hospital. Even though I've never had a baby before, I'll be surrounded by doctors and nurses who have delivered hundreds if not thousands of babies, so I'll be in good hands.
  
  I'm more not looking forward to coming home, bleeding like a stuck pig while trying to breastfeed while DH goes back to work.

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• travelmama member

  July 2015

  I am not excited and its not a phase :-/ I have never gotten passed my intial upset at this unplanned baby. I know I will love him and care for him and that eventually I will be passed the dismay I still feel but I think that may not happen for awhile still.
  
  I know that I am primed for PPD, I had it very very badly with my first which was a huge piece of not wanting a second one. I also know I have a good support system in place of things get as bad.
  
  So while I don't wish this ambivalence on anyone, I can you that it will all be okay, even if it takes some of us more time than it takes others.
  
  Good luck mama!

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• Savanna111911 member

  July 2015

  I am a first time mom and my pregnancy was planned, yet I still have some of these feelings. It's not that I'm not excited necessarily, it's just that I think some of my anxieties sometimes overshadow my excitement.
  
  Like you, I am not necessarily just dying for her to come out. It's not that I don't want to meet her, I think for me it's just more the fear of the unknown. My pregnancy has so far been fairly textbook, so while I'm starting to get a little uncomfortable now, pregnancy is sort of the devil I know, where the delivery and actually having a baby to be responsible for are totally new and unknown territories and I am scared.
  
  I don't think it is unusual to have these feelings and I'm sure when you meet your baby you will be just as in love and excited as any other mother. I think it's just harder for some of us to get to that point beforehand.

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