A little positivity

jacobsone2 · June 2015

So we are all going through a really hard time right now and I thought we could all use some positivity. I thought it would be fun to share a quote or a saying that you use to help you cope or something that might inspire others. I will start and have attached 2. The first one I believe with all my heart. It helps me cope with the loss. The second one is for all the women of this board. We are all complete strangers, but we all have this in common. Your turn!

rachrobertson · June 2015

Love it! Hope I don't offend anyone, but I just tell myself that God has a reason for this. I know a lot of people say they don't want to hear that, but that is what has got me through this past month. And, as sad as it is, we are not alone. So glad I have this forum to come to for support.

huskerfan246 · June 2015

In the middle of all of this devastation, we found out my mother in law's biopsy came back positive for cancer cells in her liver, she is a breast cancer survivor, but now has this setback to deal with. She was there to comfort me and I was there to comfort her. My quote right now is "Smile even if it hurts to" I like this because you just never know how much it may help someone else.

jacobsone2 · June 2015

I love both of these!

@rachrobertson I feel the same way!

@huskerfan246 Your poor MIL! That's alot to deal with. It's good that you guys have a close relationship and can be there for each other.

MEA0320 · June 2015

@rachrobertson I have been taking the same approach! God or whatever works in the most mysterious ways and we'll never truly know the reason why things happen the way they do.

I think my husband put it the best when I asked him why this happened to us. He said "Because we're strong in our relationship to handle this type of heartache; God knows we're strong by ourselves, but this has made us even stronger together." After he said that, I just knew he was working through this with a positive attitude that made me smile. (I haven't smiled for almost a week)

Good luck to you ladies and thanks for sharing your positive thoughts during this hard time. ((HUGS))

bntfroggie · June 2015

@meg032085 I often had that same thought, I never knew that my husband and I could be any closer than we were before this happened, but now we are just so strong together.

I absolutely loved this quote when I found it.
"I held you for every second of your life, and I will love you for every second of mine"

whit3183 · June 2015

I love this thread, great idea!

I am going to be super lame/cheeseball for a second, but I remember driving in my car last year about a month after my first miscarriage and hearing the Katy Perry song "Firework." This line really stuck with me: "maybe a reason why/all the doors are closed/ so you can open one that leads you to the perfect road." Never thought I would find inspiration in Katy Perry, but hey, whatever works!

Also, with regard to pregnancy after multiple pregnancy losses, I keep going back to this Nelson Mandela quote: "May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears."

valleric · June 2015

jacobsone2 · June 2015

@whit3183 I love that part of that Katy Perry song too! I heard it in the car a few days ago and it made me cry lol

rachrobertson · June 2015

@whit3183 I heard a song the other day that related to a line even though it seems cheesy. It is the song by Gavin degraw perhaps, something about when a heart breaks it don't break even. Anyway, the line was 'they say bad things happen for a reason, but no wise words gonna stop the bleeding'. I believe things do happen for a reason, but my heart will always be broken over this, regardless of what good comes from it. Ok, back to positivity now......

whit3183 · June 2015

@jacobsone2 I'm glad I'm not the only one

@rachrobertson Those are great lyrics as well! It really sums up how I feel when people say "everything happens for a reason." It's like, well, I'm still upset!

letyourheartbeyourguide · June 2015

I love this thread! I'm new to this board but have definitely been searching for positivity so this is much appreciated

One of my favorite writers is Audre Lorde and I've always loved this quote:

"Hope as a living state that propels us, open-eyed and fearful, into all of the battles of our lives. And some of those battles we do not win. But some of them we do."

amyeva1989 · July 2015

If you're brave enough to say goodbye. You'll be rewarded with a new hello

GhanimaAtreides · July 2015

I prefer the secular stuff. These were the ones I was comfortable pinning since only DH & BFF knew I was pregnant and m/c'd

vintagevice · July 2015

Sometimes the most positive thing we can hear comes from the most unlikely places. I had a 15 year old neighbor boy come up to me and say "I heard what happened and that totally sucks, but it happened to my mom before she had me and I'm awesome. So I hope you have an awesome baby soon." For some reason what that kid said made me feel better. It was a little unexpected, but my heart has felt a little lighter since he said that.

GhanimaAtreides · July 2015

@vintagevice That's so true. My mom m/c'd between my kid sister and I, without that m/c, my sister would've never been a part of my life.

theresadell · July 2015

Very sweet

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MWoodside · July 2015

Great thread. I'll have to think of a good one. For now I'll just add that my husband told me "this is just a setback. This is not the end of us building our family." And that clicked with me.

SonyaL9 · July 2015

I love words like these, Pinterest has so many and I do think they really help, my best friend had an ectopic a year or so ago and said she searched for similar pics and that helped her, we now share between each other and it does work! Few of my faves are below x

crob5685 · July 2015

I have a mother who is a recovering alcoholic and discovered the serenity prayer through that journey. It has really changed my life. I'm not a particularly religious person but found then and am finding now a lot of peace in reminding myself not to worry about the things I cannot control.

MWoodside · July 2015

@SonyaL9 that Barbara Kingsolver quote gives me goosebumps. It's so true. I often have the age thought when I see a child the age my 2012 loss baby would have been.

Lchingrn · July 2015

I saw a few of these on Pinterest, one of them was too long and needed to be in 2 photos. Sorry

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