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neludelu · July 2015

Hey ladies! So this post is going to painfully point out that I am a FTM with zero clue of what the heck I'm getting myself into. So without further adieu... How did you ladies stay pretty while in labor? I see a lot of pics of ladies in labor and right afterwards and they look stunning. They are always so pretty. I always look like a hot mess and never wear make up but for some reason I am obsessed with looking good the day I am in labor. So how did you ladies do it? I'm planning to get my nails done the day or so before my DD and my sister is a hair stylist she is going to give me a blow out on my DD and then my BF is really good with makeup so she is going to give me fake lashes. Everyone I talk to about the glam squad plan laughs but I want so bad to look pretty in my pics! does anyone else feel that way and for those BTDT moms how did you stay pretty? Also I realize how silly this is so again I welcome the flames. :-)

hclzmm14 · July 2015

I will just let you know you'll probably sweat through all your make up and your hair will get smashed into the hospital bed and get all sweaty and gross. I had my hair in a neat pony tail and by the time she came out just 8 hours later I had a lovely rats nest. Maybe if you're doing an epidural you can maintain the pretty but I got mine pretty late and that's probably why I looked a hot mess.

emmacake08 · July 2015

I've never labored but I looked like crap after my csection and I have a feeling this will be the case again too. I was splotchy and bloated but LOs were the focus of pictures so I just try/tried to get over it. I understand wanting to look nice, I've just always assumed it wouldn't be possible or in your power. Maybe I'm wrong? I just figure either you're Kate Middleton naturally or you're mortal :P

CaliforniaDream87 · July 2015

I'm all about looking good and keeping myself up. However, it dawned on me how many fucks I didn't give after having my son. I was so tired I didn't care. Of course once I'm able to shower I can clean myself up. But in labor? Nope.

Everyone is different but my fab lashes really the last thing on my brain while delivering....

Also, just because you have an epi doesn't mean you look pretty. Epi or not I don't care. Labor is hard.

vtgoodspeed · July 2015

I looked horrendous after my first. I can't even handle looking at the photos so I get it. Some people just look incredible. I bought some dry shampoo for my hospital bag. I'm hoping that will help my hair not look greasy. I'm not gonna worry about eye makeup but do plan to use a good base and concealer to try not to look too blotchy. I had a horrible double chin since I was lying down. I want to be sitting up before any pictures this time. Honestly, we probably won't give a crap by then from being exhausted and completely in love with our new baby.

EmEeGee · July 2015

I guess in theory Id like to look nice all the time, but when I'm in pain or tired I just couldn't care less. I assume after all is said and done, I'll be allowed to shower up and put myself together a little bit. But during delivery? Nope. Just get her out. With any luck I'll go into labor around a day that I attempted to shave my legs, but even that thought will leave me as soon as the pain hits.

Boslove · July 2015

I did not care at the moment but like PP said looking at the pictures now

( .. The most ill do this time is try to get my hair braided, i feel like if my hair is presentable everything else will fall in line. It's hard to look too sexy after/during labor especially if you gain alot of weight in your face, like I did.

jlsweets · July 2015

hazeldagarr said:
I will just let you know you'll probably sweat through all your make up and your hair will get smashed into the hospital bed and get all sweaty and gross. I had my hair in a neat pony tail and by the time she came out just 8 hours later I had a lovely rats nest. Maybe if you're doing an epidural you can maintain the pretty but I got mine pretty late and that's probably why I looked a hot mess.

So very true- I went in with perfectly straight hair pulled into a cute ponytail but once the war was over totally had a sweaty , masked to my face rats nest haha so not glamorous

Op I get wanting to look pretty but I'd save it for after birth. The last thing you'll want to worry about or even be thinking about is messing up your blown out hair and fresh makeup. After birth , go for it!

archetypeblonde · July 2015

OP I get it 1000%! I may be a little too sentimentalist when it comes to photos taken (I want perfect photos or it will spoil the event damn it), so I went ahead and booked a fantastic birth photographer who knows how to work those angles in the delivery room. It will take a lot of pressure off of me to apply mascara or run hot tools through my hair when I should be focused on relaxation and breathing (and last minute packing). I'm also a FTM, but I think my plan is solid!

1. Birth photographer (don't leave it to your SO or mother to find your angles)

2. Practice low maintenance, easy hairstyles. Bring a brush.

3. Practice low key, very light coverage makeup.

4. You look glamorous anyway because LO will be in your arms

etoom09 · July 2015

I was in labor for 26 hours with my son, I was so exhausted when he was born and I definitely looked it in the photos after. I understand wanting to look your best for photos but honestly it's called labor for a reason! I'd never expect to be looking my best for the first photos or really care for that matter. Holding my child for the first time, my looks won't be on my mind.

carleym93 · July 2015

I went into labor with make up on because I was out and about and wasn't expecting to be admitted. 10 hours later I looked like I had been hit by a bus. I was sweaty, my hair was dirty, and my make up was everywhere. It won't matter to you one bit. Labor takes so much energy. The last thing you're going to care about is what you look like. Seriously. My grandma took a photo of me with bags under my eyes and my hair a disaster and I'm smiling ear to ear because I'm holding my baby.

hclzmm14 · July 2015

Also a good trick is putting your photos in black and white. Everyone looks good that way

kelseyrayay · July 2015

I don't even care how I look. I know I'm going to look crazy. It's not about me anyways. It's about my little one getting here safely as possible. I feel like I'm going to be to obsessed with my child to even acknowledge how I look.

Miz_Liz · July 2015

I guess I am in the minority because my one rule to my husband and visitors was NO PICTURES OF ME! Take them of the cute baby but keep me the hell out of them! Three years later, do I regret not having any of me? Nope, not even one little teeny tiny iota. But that's me and I wanted to remember what he looked like every step of the way, not how I looked. There was nothing cute going on here, trust me. That being said, I wear my hair up 99.99% of the time because it is insanely thick and curly and I just do not have the patience for that shit, so when it is wet, it goes up, and I put a lot of hairspray in to keep it from turning into a big fluff ball. I do remember one of my nurses commenting about how awesome my hair looked even after he was born, so I guess the secret is wet hair - shitload of hairspray and up, not down

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cseley321 · July 2015

When I toured the hospital I will be giving birth in, they said no cameras allowed... fine by me!

Starynightsky24 · July 2015

I personally don't care how I look during labor. The goal is to be done with it lol. Then I take a shower and get some better family pictures at the hospital after.

I think for you your best bet is to hire a birth photographer. Someone who is trained to get good angles and edit them accordingly. If you are like me...You won't regret having the pictures

. Even though they are expensive.

schup156 · July 2015

The pictures immediately after delivery were all of baby...not me. The first pictures of me with baby were after I had showered, and even then I wasn't concerned about makeup or making sure my hair was perfect. I didn't really plan it that way, but I think my husband and I were so focused on our little girl it didn't occur to us to be in any pictures. The nurse was the one who suggested taking our first family photo actually.

I am definitely the type that likes to have at least minimal makeup and my hair decent even when just running to the store quick. But honestly after labor....I was not concerned about how I looked in the least!

bpwife&mama · July 2015

You probably won't care how you look once you're in labor. The pretty blow out you're going to get is going to be plastered to your neck and forehead with sweat. I was covered in sweat and my own throw up during labor.

babyyyy3 · July 2015

Going in my entire desire is please don't bring your family and friends in 5 minutes after he is out let me recoup wash my face and at least repony my hair and then bam princess kate ready I will be!
In the real world I can't even imagine eyelashes on when I don't even know as a ftm if I'll cry when I see him, or from how bad it hurts, the rush I'll get from it all being over.. I can't imagine mascara, lashes, hair, makeup... oh my no no no.

Edit: one autocorrected word incorrectly

candicejeff2013 · July 2015

Never been in labor but I'd say waterproof mascara, a brush and a good photo editing tool haha! 8->

gmd88 · July 2015

Man I haven't had the will power to care how I look for a while now. Good for you! I don't have any tips tho... my main goal is getting through it and holding my little one. The beauty of the moment will be evident in the photographs capturing a real moment and the struggle of labor. I wouldn't worry

bhargrave88 · July 2015

Lol! Sorry, but this has me giggling!! I don't even remember those few hours right after I had DD1. There are pictures and I don't even remember. Since my water broke at 1am, I took a shower and threw my hair on my head. Lol.

I'm gonna have to share a few of those pictures.. Because once the adrenaline rush of pushing her out was done, I like shut down

bhargrave88 · July 2015

No idea what was happening in the first pic, I vaguely remember asking for lemonade lol. I could barely hold my head up or eyes open!

The second one, according to my husband and DDs godmom, I was passing in and out of consciousness lol. Nothing fancy done there but I feel like I still looked halfway presentable.. Right? I want to do my hair and maybe makeup this time, but I have a feeling nature won't allow. Don't beat yourself up if you end up with a messy bun on your head, you did the most important job in this world.. No one says you gotta look like a super model when you finish

I know my only thoughts were "can everyone go away so I can sleep for 2 hours?" After being up for over 24

MamaMandy2015 · July 2015

I'm vain, when I was induced with my first I went in no makeup etc, but ended up having a csec with her and my son and both times I wore a full face of makeup and had my hair curled. Why you ask? Because I wanted to look,good for any pictures and when I looked in the mirror it made me feel a little better knowing I still looked presentable lol. I'll be doing the same with this one, I remember being in the recovery room coming down off the spinal block and the room was spinning and the nurse tells me it's ok to throw up and I exclaimed "no I'll ruin my makeup and my hair, my makeup is too expensive!" haha she just chuckled. If you want to,glam up then do it, just don't be bummed when you end up looking a hot mess, because no matter what you birthed a beautiful soul and that is what makes you beautiful too.

kat+1 · July 2015

I say stage it... Have you baby be a hot mess get cleaned up, make up on and then take the pictures you want of you looking fabulous. But also take the pictures of you in labour lookin like a hot mess cause for me when it boiled down to it (shhh....) they are the ones I like the most. My husband called me a warrior and was in awe of his son being born. Seeing him support me looking like a rag doll while I was birthing our child made Thises pictures worth millions to me. I don't remember all of my labour but the pictures were a perfect reminder that together we ( hubby and I) can do anything together
( picture) This is my first nap with baby on me skin to skin while hubby made sure we stayed close and safe.

kettlekitten · July 2015

I don't think I even had a photo taken until my parents turned up several hours later and thought to take one. I really didn't care, in fact I look like shit in most of the photos taken of me for the first six months.

IF I did care, I would take some makeup to put on AFTER the birth and run a brush through my hair. Why do you need to look good while in labour? Can you not have a few moments off looking perfect? Are people really going to be photographing you while you're pushing out a baby?? This all confuses me.

Huler · July 2015

Ok, I am all about wanting to not look like death during/after labor... I def had normal makeup on and had just washed my hair before DS#2 (it was bc I thought it was just a false alarm and we'd go to triage and then breakfast afterwards... until the drive to the hospital when sh!t got real) and I was happy I looked semi-normal. But I TOTALLY judge all these people I see on FB that have full-out makeup and hair done. I'm talking heavy eye makeup, blush, lipstick, the works. It just looks so... fake to me, and that they are trying WAY too hard. We all know that having a baby isn't glamorous! I guess I'm more of a middle ground kind of vain.

archetypeblonde · July 2015

@Huler I have never seen anyone post a halfway decent picture from delivery on facebook! Wishing I had fb friends like yours to marvel at haha! LIPSTICK THOUGH?

pabeybaby · July 2015

Miz_Liz said:
I guess I am in the minority because my one rule to my husband and visitors was NO PICTURES OF ME! Take them of the cute baby but keep me the hell out of them! Three years later, do I regret not having any of me? Nope, not even one little teeny tiny iota. But that's me and I wanted to remember what he looked like every step of the way, not how I looked. There was nothing cute going on here, trust me. That being said, I wear my hair up 99.99% of the time because it is insanely thick and curly and I just do not have the patience for that shit, so when it is wet, it goes up, and I put a lot of hairspray in to keep it from turning into a big fluff ball. I do remember one of my nurses commenting about how awesome my hair looked even after he was born, so I guess the secret is wet hair - shitload of hairspray and up, not down .

This! Curly hair is a nightmare! I wear mine up all the time too and usually have a ton of leave in conditioner or hair gel in it. When I get up in the morning I always look like the living dead lol. Definitely bringing some hair ties for labor.

JNOVA2015 · July 2015

I also have the curly hair problem!!

The idea that you'd have perfect makeup and false eyelashes on during labor makes me laugh. Think of it like putting in false eyelashes before the hardest workout of your life - your blowout is not going to last and you're going to end up with makeup and eyelashes all over your face. And you're not going to care. Personally I think you have a better shot at those pictures looking good if you're not wearing any makeup then if you have a ton on - it just isn't going to stay pretty through labor!! But as PP's have said, those "pretty"photos you see are most likely taken after the mother has had a chance to shower and clean up, not immediately after the birth.

Thrashn · July 2015

Put on makeup like you're going to the beach/lake/pool and might actually swim. Waterproof mascara. Maybe under eye concealer, maybe not. Maybe blush, maybe not. Foundation will smear. Lashes will sweat off. Try a French braid or a top of head bun just so it's easier to brush tangles out after if you want pics with your hair down.

emmacake08 · July 2015

I forgot to add that once you have an IV in your hand, two handed hair styles are hard/ next to impossible to do. I didn't think about that before they put mine in last time and then I was desperate to braid my hair but couldn't. I only had DH and my CS was quicker than my family could get there.

Huler · July 2015

@archetypeblonde oh, I have about three or four in the past several months that I could post!! I so wish I could post a pic of them but I'm paranoid. It's ridiculous though. And even though they are all gussied up something just looks "off"... rightly so, they just pushed out a human!! But it just looks like they are trying way too hard and fishing for those "I can't believe you just had a baby!" comments.

Again, I can be just as vain as the next girl, so this is not intended as a dig at the OP. It's just some of what I've seen is too much for me. And I guarantee any BTDT mom is thinking the same thing!

msmolecule · July 2015

I'm a natural kind of girl. I don't wear makeup and don't use a lot of products. This is not something I would ever think or worry about. Especially not during labor, etc.

ann_jeremiah · July 2015

I always look like hell afterwards.. The glam squad you're planning does seem ridiculous. Baby can come any day and anytime..

neludelu · July 2015

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msmolecule said:
I'm a natural kind of girl. I don't wear makeup and don't use a lot of products. This is not something I would ever think or worry about. Especially not during labor, etc.

i hate wearing make up. Even on my wedding day I didn't want to be dolled up. I can't pinpoint why I feel the need to attempt to look pretty. As I stated at first I always look like a hot mess!

breezymeema7 · July 2015

Honestly, it will probably be the last thing you are thinking about as your are staring at your beautiful little baby. And...even if you are a sweaty mess, think of it as "new mom glow." I just pushed out a baby, hadn't showered, or put on any make-up but I treasure these pictures.

jakesjess · July 2015

I think if I survive it and smile I'll be looking great!!! I mean, yes I'll look like I gave birth but that's the most beautiful thing I can do!

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