Disbanded??

SmilesMcGee · July 2015

Has everyone scattered to Facebook?

bheatz22 · July 2015

No. Lots of people don't want to go to facebook yet because it's too early.

SparkE82 · July 2015

Its WAAAAAY too early to go to facebook.......I would like to wait until I am well into my second trimester before going to facebook......

jy725 · July 2015

Definitely not but we should post more threads and lurkers should come out of hiding and participate too

aeh8810 · July 2015

I would also prefer to wait to go to Facebook. It is probably quiet around here because of the weekend. I found on my last BMB that things tend to slow down in the weekend and pick up during the work week (it's almost like people don't want to work... hmm).

katekat8721 · July 2015

I think the January apocalypse killed off TB before FB did.

KMKaiser07 · July 2015

I'm still here. I don't want to join fb until I know everyone better.

PinkSunglasses16 · July 2015

I'm back! formerly MayBeSomeDay16. March 16 cannot seem to handle my snarky honesty.

mommygrams0730 · July 2015

PinkSunglasses16 said:
I'm back! formerly MayBeSomeDay16. March 16 cannot seem to handle my snarky honesty.

Welcome back @PinkSunglasses16!

I agree that it's a bit quiet because of the weekend. It's also still really early in our pregnancies, I think we'll get a lot more newbies when we hit 2nd tri. Truthfully all those on Facebook or asking to be on Facebook I've never seen post on here anyway.

There used to be daily or weekend check ins. I think there's also Bitchfest Monday, CPT (clicky poll Tuesday), HDBD (also second tri), UO on Thursday, and FFFC on Fridays.

adorebel · July 2015

katekat8721 said:

I think the January apocalypse killed off TB before FB did.

Hey girl.

And yes, this exactly. The strong community of women here was decimated. My old BMB had 10x as many posts per day as this one, and a lot of committed regulars vs drive-bys.

SmilesMcGee · July 2015

Glad I'm not alone! I don't even have a FB anymore DH and I hate the drama

Alyeena · July 2015

I don't even have a Facebook, and never will. So hopefully there will be some people who remain active on here

CCLow87 · July 2015

I'm here! I'm here!

skruhmin · July 2015

katekat8721 said:

I think the January apocalypse killed off TB before FB did.

Can I ask what happened? People keep mentioning it.

And no, it was just the weekend - if anyone else is like me, you just don't go on The Bump during the weekend.

skruhmin · July 2015

PinkSunglasses16 said:

I'm back! formerly MayBeSomeDay16. March 16 cannot seem to handle my snarky honesty.

Snark away, dude

Hullabaloo2016 · July 2015

I'm still here!

Starbuck77 · July 2015

I'm here. I'm definitely NOT going to Facebook this soon. I'm unsure about going to Facebook in general, so much stranger danger.

MrsEtheridge324 · July 2015

I'm here and I don't want to go to fb either. It's just too much lol.

adorebel · July 2015

skruhmin said:

katekat8721 said:

I think the January apocalypse killed off TB before FB did.

Can I ask what happened? People keep mentioning it.

And no, it was just the weekend - if anyone else is like me, you just don't go on The Bump during the weekend.

In January, the site introduced new terms of use, and when many of the longterm volunteer mods disagreed with the strictures of said terms of use, they fired them for trivial offenses, including saying anything against the paid mods or the new TOU. Then they started banning any user who said anything against the site or the new TOU. In all, thousands of users were banned or left of their own volition and started a new site. Because many of those banned were committed regulars, the traffic volume dropped dramatically and the stability of the community was shaken (there used to be volunteer mods on each BMB who were pregnant alongside all the other ladies on the BMBs as well as a lot more regular longtime posters on each board to offer advice, etc.). A lot of those regular users were characterized by more casual drive-by users as "mean girls" because of their snarky and honest posts, but they were really committed to the community and had been for years. Without that culture of regs, it's a very different feel here than it used to be.

mommygrams0730 · July 2015

adorebel said:

skruhmin said:

katekat8721 said:

I think the January apocalypse killed off TB before FB did.

Can I ask what happened? People keep mentioning it.

And no, it was just the weekend - if anyone else is like me, you just don't go on The Bump during the weekend.

In January, the site introduced new terms of use, and when many of the longterm volunteer mods disagreed with the strictures of said terms of use, they fired them for trivial offenses, including saying anything against the paid mods or the new TOU. Then they started banning any user who said anything against the site or the new TOU. In all, thousands of users were banned or left of their own volition and started a new site. Because many of those banned were committed regulars, the traffic volume dropped dramatically and the stability of the community was shaken (there used to be volunteer mods on each BMB who were pregnant alongside all the other ladies on the BMBs as well as a lot more regular longtime posters on each board to offer advice, etc.). A lot of those regular users were characterized by more casual drive-by users as "mean girls" because of their snarky and honest posts, but they were really committed to the community and had been for years. Without that culture of regs, it's a very different feel here than it used to be.

I still get a little sad when I think of how it used to be!

Rabbitheart15 · July 2015

I'm here! I've been just too exhausted to even go online the past few days. I promise I'll be better!

Hullabaloo2016 · July 2015

Where is @ACleanLife24 ? She is normally really active, haven't seen her for a few days. She has a good amount of snark to her, love it!

skruhmin · July 2015

Well ok then. Yeah I was here for October '11 and it was way different. Like no "rules" at all. Took me a little bit to get used to the way of the board.

Stormiewinter · July 2015

I'm here too definitely too early for Facebook.

zephyrlt · July 2015

I'm so confused! I don't quite understand what the appeal of Facebook is. I don't want two apps to check everyday. But I guess if everyone plans on moving over during the 2nd or 3rd trimester, I will too. There wouldn't be much point being the only one left here.

katekat8721 · July 2015

adorebel said:

skruhmin said:

katekat8721 said:

I think the January apocalypse killed off TB before FB did.

Can I ask what happened? People keep mentioning it.

And no, it was just the weekend - if anyone else is like me, you just don't go on The Bump during the weekend.

In January, the site introduced new terms of use, and when many of the longterm volunteer mods disagreed with the strictures of said terms of use, they fired them for trivial offenses, including saying anything against the paid mods or the new TOU. Then they started banning any user who said anything against the site or the new TOU. In all, thousands of users were banned or left of their own volition and started a new site. Because many of those banned were committed regulars, the traffic volume dropped dramatically and the stability of the community was shaken (there used to be volunteer mods on each BMB who were pregnant alongside all the other ladies on the BMBs as well as a lot more regular longtime posters on each board to offer advice, etc.). A lot of those regular users were characterized by more casual drive-by users as "mean girls" because of their snarky and honest posts, but they were really committed to the community and had been for years. Without that culture of regs, it's a very different feel here than it used to be.

Yup. It bums me out. I lived on the infertility board while going through IVF, it was a great resource. I'm sad for all the people who try to go there now, it's a dead town like most the other boards. The spin off board is a little more active. PM me for details.

P.s. hi adorebel! I shortened my sn on TCF but the avatar is the same.

laurabeekmann · July 2015

I'm new to this board. I've only known about my pregnancy for a little over a week. I'd prefer to keep things here for quite a while longer and then start a more official FB group since there are a couple started already. That way we can all go in more at the same time rather than try to join a group where cliques have already started. I was in a FB group for my last pregnancy too. I liked it, but it was definitely clique-y and I ended up leaving it because I felt like I could never keep up or connect with people.

Hernsy · July 2015

My old BMB pre-exodus had a daily spam thread - which I think someone already mentioned, so I tried starting one today, but no takers. That thread was the best thread for great, normal, random discussion. It was usually 4 or 5 pages by 8am.

thiblm · July 2015

I'm also wondering if people are more Larkin until they feel in the safe zone. I've noticed at lot more loss and late term loss than in June 2013.

mommygrams0730 · July 2015

@Hernsy I posted to bump it, maybe more will join in now!

Otherwise I'll just keep gif-ing it with hot guys! lol.

bridge2005 · July 2015

I'm here! Just super tired so I'm spending most of my free time sleeping. I think it'll pick up more in second tri.

bheatz22 · July 2015

I don't have a facebook either. Glad to know I'm not the only one. I won't be moving over so I hope this community stays active for a while.

diablesse · July 2015

adorebel said:

skruhmin said:

katekat8721 said:

I think the January apocalypse killed off TB before FB did.

Can I ask what happened? People keep mentioning it.

And no, it was just the weekend - if anyone else is like me, you just don't go on The Bump during the weekend.

In January, the site introduced new terms of use, and when many of the longterm volunteer mods disagreed with the strictures of said terms of use, they fired them for trivial offenses, including saying anything against the paid mods or the new TOU. Then they started banning any user who said anything against the site or the new TOU. In all, thousands of users were banned or left of their own volition and started a new site. Because many of those banned were committed regulars, the traffic volume dropped dramatically and the stability of the community was shaken (there used to be volunteer mods on each BMB who were pregnant alongside all the other ladies on the BMBs as well as a lot more regular longtime posters on each board to offer advice, etc.). A lot of those regular users were characterized by more casual drive-by users as "mean girls" because of their snarky and honest posts, but they were really committed to the community and had been for years. Without that culture of regs, it's a very different feel here than it used to be.

is that what happened? I was wondering...
I used to post fairly regularly back in the day, but took a hiatus, returned and am now relegated to lurker status because I'm so confused by how different things are around here.

ThisIsQuackers · July 2015

thiblm said:
I'm also wondering if people are more Larkin until they feel in the safe zone. I've noticed at lot more loss and late term loss than in June 2013.

This is me exactly- I'm 6 weeks and am lurking until I'm past the point of my miscarriage (only a few more days!) and until the doctor is no longer worried it might be ectopic cause my HCG while doubling appropriately, is low.

OneRainDrop · July 2015

The boards are crazy different! I was in the June 2013 board under a different name. The board was FULL of sass, and if people were offended, they either left- GBCB, or they figured their ish out and didn't ask stupid questions.

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