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Toddler Discipline

arwestover3arwestover3 member
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I am seriously about at my wit's end. I know two-year-olds are not meant to sit quietly and behave for long periods of time, but we can't get more than five minutes out of our daughter. She refuses to whisper (in places like church she still talks at the top of her voice), and if anything goes even slightly contrary to the way she wants it to be, her immediate reaction is screaming. I just don't know how to show her that it's completely not okay to act like that. All I can think of doing is just removing her from the situation and distractions into more productive routes, but she still reacts with a yell or scream every single time. No exaggeration, it's every single time. I know things like this are a work in progress with toddlers, but we don't seem to be making any progress. Please help :(
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Re: Toddler Discipline

  • Perfect SonnetPerfect Sonnet member

    Maybe it is because my three year old is the biggest drama queen, but I think this is all par for the course.  At this age, they're stuck in in this baby/big kid limbo.  I feel like one minute my daughter will be communicating really well and behaving herself, but the minute I won't let her have her way or ask her to stop doing something, it is mayhem. 

    I think what you're doing is fine: removing her from the situation or distracting her.  If she is throwing a tantrum at home or somewhere you can ignore it, just let her go.  Good luck!


     

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  • BigboobsmcgeeBigboobsmcgee member

    I hate to say it but 3 is MUCH WORSE than 2 so I'd start disciplining or having a solid game plan now.

    The most important thing with toddlers is consistency. Even if it drives you crazy to say the same things or do the same things, you have to address every negative situation the exact same way and with consistency. No matter where you are (store, church or home) you have to deal with the behavior and count to 3, utilize time out or whatever it is that works for your child.

    We started time out's when my son was 17 months old for hitting or violent behavior only. Redirection, ignoring or distraction works for a lot of crappy behaviors but hitting is something we don't tolerate. We've done time out in Target when it was necessary because DS has to know that he cannot get away with being "bad".

    2 is a really hard age. They are pushing limits for the firs time and seeing what they can get away with. From 2 years old to almost 3 years old my son would scream any time we tried to put him into a shopping cart at the store. We stayed consistent, dealt with the behavior and soon he realized WE as parents are the boss and he has to listen to what we say.

    It's not easy and it just gets harder/more exhausting so try to nip it in the bud now.

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  • kt012885kt012885 member

    When DD screams bc she doesn't get what she wants or won't sit down at the dinner table, she is to go on timeout.  After the first time I told her she was on timeout (I have her sit in the middle of her room for one minute) she walks to her room on her own and sits there until I come in.  She sometimes cries and sometimes doesn't.  Afterward I get down to her level and explain to her why we don't do whatever she did and if she does it again she'll come back on timeout.  She usually hugs me and we move on. I'd try that and see how it goes. Our doctor recommended starting timeout at our 12 month appt- I'd say it was 18 months before I put her on timeout. 

     

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  • patriciahomolpatriciahomol member
    Wait until she turns 3!!!!!!! It's so much worse lol. I always say, anyone who says having a newborn is hard has never had a three year old.
    Every lo is different but for my son we use "quite time", which is kind of like a time out, but I sit with him the whole time and we talk about why he is in quiet time and what he should do differently next time. Most of the time it works. 
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  • BigboobsmcgeeBigboobsmcgee member
    PBorgstede91 said:
    Wait until she turns 3!!!!!!! It's so much worse lol. I always say, anyone who says having a newborn is hard has never had a three year old.
    Every lo is different but for my son we use "quite time", which is kind of like a time out, but I sit with him the whole time and we talk about why he is in quiet time and what he should do differently next time. Most of the time it works. 

    Amen sister. 3 year old's blow.
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  • Ready4thePartyReady4theParty member
    Consistency.  You don't need to be harsh, but making sure you give time outs or discipline when appropriate every.single.time. will improve the behavior.  It doesn't have to be discipline but just a consistent consequence/action for the behavior.
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  • Anne MommyAnne Mommy member
    I agree with what's already been said. Don't forget to praise what you want as well. If she stopped crying when she was removed from the area, praise that. "Wow! I know you were upset and you did a great job of calming down!" DS2 is big on attention like most 2 yr olds. If he gets attention for the good stuff, he's less likely to do the bad stuff. 
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