Sex life ?!

livvrichard14 · July 2015

Iam 24 weeks with my second boy now and feeling great ! I have barely gained any weight and am loving my baby bump and really embracing the pregnancy in general . My husband is always complimenting me and tubing my belly and making me feel beautiful but when it comes to anything sexual , it is almost non existent now ! It's starting to wear on my confidence and question my connection with my husband ! Am I alone here or am I just being dramatic and hormonal!??

emzcat · July 2015

Have you tried talking with him or, better yet, initiating sex with him? You're not alone.

JLW0504 · July 2015

My sex life is non existent. I'm on pelvic rest. With my last pregnancy, my DH would always tell me I Was beautiful, but he would never have sex with me. It's common with men sometimes. They're either afraid of hurting you or the baby or, like in my case, a pregnant body is not attractive.

Don't get me wrong, my DH loves me unconditionally, but he's just not attracted to a pregnant body, including mine. I would talk with him and find out what he's thinking, Maybe he thinks you're not into it?

thefithuntress · July 2015

Can you try going on a date? Doing something romantic? I know organic moments help for me.

SJFTCA · July 2015

You're definitely not alone. MH says that he feels like the baby is watching him (seriously dude?). But I'm not much better, considering I'm not really initiating bc I'm not feeling too physically attractive and things are just all awkward w the belly. I would definitely talk w him about it though if it's bothering you and/or affecting your self-esteem.

Sereiamber · July 2015

You aren't alone! My husband is super devoted but doesn't like sex when a baby is in the middle of it. It is very frustrating with all of the hormones and insecurities I get, but I know that this is just how he is...

amm0512 · July 2015

I just had this talk with DH yesterday...we hadn't had sex in just under a month. I had not realized how disconnected I had felt from him until we corrected the problem. We only had sex 5 times throughout my whole pregnancy with DS, so at least we've beat that.

livvrichard14 · July 2015

Thanks ladies ! In gonna take another approach on it , to be fair you are right I have not really initiated it ! When we are not pregnant I can't even change in front of him without him grabbing me and wanting sex so it's been a huge adjustment. I've defiantly taken into consideration how strange it is there is a moving baby in the middle of things , i just miss that connection really hoping a talk can help sort things out !

Knottie08098442 · July 2015

I was the same way when i was 16 weeks now that i am in my second trimester i like to have it but not as much as i use to before i got pregnant. So my BD does any for play i want he even watched a flick and i got ready off that. Try new things get spontaneous.

oliarnmom1517 · July 2015

What's sex again??

) that's pretty much been non existent the past few weeks.. I just can't get in the mood.. And plus when it's done I feel nasty afterwords

livvrichard14 · July 2015

Haha I agree, I don't think it's sex on general I miss just the connection! So funny but glad to know Iam not alone ! ☺️

erodgers024 · July 2015

we have still been having sex 5 or 6 times a week and it feels so exhausting to me sometimes !! I thought I was being selfish for wanting to rest, but sounds like I might be okay to slow it down a little bit ! I agree that initiating is a great idea , and especially with something new, or mix it up a little bit , everything about our bodies is changing and new, it's a great time to be adventurous and for me it seems to take some of the attention off of the baby. If we are doing the same old thing, it feels obviously diferent since there is a baby there now. I find if we try new things, I have an easier time forgetting that I am pregnant for a few minutes

questisthebest · July 2015

We haven't been as much lately. I have pelvic congestion (vulvar and pelvic varicose veins) and the 24-48 hours following sex are very painful and I'm almost always swollen regardless. It isn't fun during or after right now and I haven't been in the mood much anyways.

grapesoda1111 · July 2015

Lately I've been having cramping in my lower abdomen so it's not comfortable to have sex. Plus it takes my DH forever to finish and I don't have the energy.

AshenSky · July 2015

We barely have sex. I've always been the one with a bigger libido, but lately it's even worse. We are very intimate. We cuddle and love on each other all the time. He is in love with my belly. But, we only have sex once every couple of weeks. And it's always in the morning from behind haha. He doesn't turn me down when I initiate (but I rarely do anymore) but He says he will be in the mood, and then will think about how uncomfortable I am already and not want to initiate. Which makes sense, because when he actually does in the morning he will ask how I feel first. Hah
It's very frustrating and I get a little hurt. But, I have to remind myself that this is all another change for him too and he is dealing with it his way.

blessingcoming · July 2015

Between feeling exhausted and fat I don't have much energy or desire for sex. :-/. We are down to once or twice a week versus almost everyday before. My husband is understanding though... We talked about it and he doesn't want to hurt me or wear me out so he's content to cut back too.

Another problem I experience with sex right now is nearly every time we do 'it' I get a bladder infection, or at least feel like I have one so I'm always trying to guzzle tons of water and cranberry to ward infections off before they happen. It gets annoying. Does anyone else have this issue?

becklee101 · July 2015

SO seems to not care, he always wants to shower with me and everything else. I'm the one who doesn't want it. I feel bad, but with my body changing and the constipation.. I am almost never in the mood.

doodleoodle · July 2015

blessingcoming said:
Between feeling exhausted and fat I don't have much energy or desire for sex. :-/. We are down to once or twice a week versus almost everyday before. My husband is understanding though... We talked about it and he doesn't want to hurt me or wear me out so he's content to cut back too.

Another problem I experience with sex right now is nearly every time we do 'it' I get a bladder infection, or at least feel like I have one so I'm always trying to guzzle tons of water and cranberry to ward infections off before they happen. It gets annoying. Does anyone else have this issue?

I would try urinating immediately after sex, if you're not doing that already it should really help.

SJFTCA · July 2015

MH and I just had this conversation tonight. He assured me that it's not me or my changing body. He says he just feels weird, like he will be poking the baby or something. Neither one of us is dumb enough to think that would actually be the case, but it's still weird and different. He says he is definitely willing to try (it's been a few weeks now since our last romp), and that the last thing he's thinking about is anyone else (I didn't make an accusation and don't think that's the case, but I did say, "Please don't go sleep with someone else", in jest, sort of). He's still very sweet and affectionate, tells me I'm pretty, and loves to rub my belly and try to feel the baby, but that's about as far as it's going right now.

Elyse1384 · July 2015

What sex life? It's sad to say, but between the pregnancy and my amazing yet energy sucking toddler, I just can't muster the strength to even try and feel sexy. Hopefully the drive returns soon, but even DH has been passing out from sheer exhaustion lately so at least there is not building resentments or feeling of neglect.

oliveoil95 · July 2015

WHAT SEX LIFE?!?

The baby's dad and I aren't together. But he's the only person I sleep with. He's the only person I want. I know he still sleeps with other people, I just try not to think about it.

The last time we had sex was a couple weeks ago and I could see and tell by how he had to keep on stopping that he doesn't find me attractive anymore. He even lied to me and said he finished so we wouldn't keep going. Even he doesn't find me attractive anymore. I'm done with sex.

HopefulMNMom · July 2015

You are definitely not alone! We were having sex like normal up until the middle of June but only if I initiated it. My husband says he doesn't want to put any pressure on me to have sex when he knows that I've been feeling uncomfortable. I also think it weirds him out a bit now that the baby can be felt kicking. We haven't had sex in over a month now (mostly because he's been gone working for 3 weeks) and I do miss the connection with him. He's back this weekend so I'll try even though I am feeling less attractive than normal. My guess is that we will do our best throughout the rest of the pregnancy and that things will get back to normal after we're settled in with the baby. Good luck!

taykerslake · July 2015

My fiancé must not be of the norm because if anything since I got pregnant he's even crazier about wanting sex. Can't stop touching me!

gkfk · July 2015

Apparently im alone, but i dont want to add worrying about sex to the list of pregnancy concerns! I already had 3 ultrasounds by week 10 because of bleeding and cramping from yoga class and since have had a variety of other issues and pains, so it is totally not worth it to me. I just want my baby and myself to make it through this okay. DH is rebelling and growing a nasty-looking beard, though, lol.

ASalton1 · July 2015

My fiancé is attracted to me while I am pregnant and doesn't mind having sex with me but it's my belly that freaks him out. Not the look of it but that after I have my "big O" my stomach gets rock hard and stays that way for about 10 mins. He is afraid that we could cause the baby to come early or I could have a miscarriage so he wants to postpone sex for a while. (However, there are other ways to remain intimate)

erodgers024 · July 2015

My stomach does the same thing after I orgasm, that's normal though, I thought !

BowWowBowie · July 2015

My husband is NUTS about me and my pregnant body, I just don't feel attractive and just, huge. It's caused a lot of friction, and not the good kind.

chelseahall11 · July 2015

Husband and i both still as active as before only difference is my drive goes completely when she starts kicking. So off putting having her kicking away in there

VexedMommy · July 2015

Now that I've finally gotten a belly in the last week or two, my drive is decreasing a bit. Sex has become a bit of a logistical issue and that takes some of the fun out of it.

urby87 · July 2015

I, luckily, haven't had any issues with Baby wiggling while we're having sex. My husband hasn't been seeking it as much, though, and I can go quite a while without it if I don't have something to get me going. I do think he isn't enjoying it as much as he usually does since he has to really concentrate in order to avoid hitting my cervix.

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