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Toddler advice

smlowe9311smlowe9311 member
edited July 2015 in October 2015 Moms
dd1 will be 2 in September. She is starting to throw fits when she doesn't get her way. What do other mamas do during these? Do you let them go and sort through them? Try to distract them to end the tantrum? Try to hug them through it (I was doing this but it's becoming more and more difficult with a growing belly). She is normally a super sweet girl (see attached picture of her laying with the dogs and talking with them and kissing on them) and I know this is a part of toddlerhood I'm just struggling with how to handle them.

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  • LiveNLove44LiveNLove44 member
    DD will be two at the end of August, so we are right around that stage. It really depends on the location and the cause. I stay really calm, draw her near me, and talk softly so she has to quiet down to hear me. If she doesn't quiet down, I will ask her if she needs to take a time out. Time outs in my house are breaks to calm down. Mommy might need a quick time out sometimes (not really, but I show her that I am feeling frustrated and then I take a break by sitting down and taking deep breaths). If she says she doesn't need a time out but it is clear to me that she can't settle down, she gets a time out and I explain to her why she needs it as she is going into time out (seated on the floor in a spot in our house). I set the kitchen timer and she can hear it go off. When it goes off, she'll usually look at me and wait for me to come over. I'll ask her if she would like a hug now, and I usually get a big hug and "sorry mommy" to follow. It's a work in progress. If we are at a grocery store, which hasn't happened yet, I'll ditch my stuff and leave if it's bad. I'd explain it in passing to a cashier, but I want DD to know that she doesn't run the show. We talk through everything and it really helps her to calm down. I hope persistence works for you and your sweet little girl!
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  • mmcknightmmcknight member
    I think sometimes it depends on the child. I took care of triplets and each one had a different way that worked for them. I think trial and error is a good way to figure out what works best for you and your little one.
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  • eat111315eat111315 member
    Two kids, two different techniques:
    For my daughter, who was pacifier obsessed (she only got it in her bed), we would ask her if she needed "a minute". She would get to her room, sit in her bed after a few sucks and reset. Then she's come out right as rain. Eventually if she was getting really worked up she'd ask for "a minute".
    My sons technique is deep breathes. We taught him this around 20 months and he's quite proud of himself for doing such good breathes (they really are!). He literally just takes a deep breathe through his nose and out his mouth.
    We also do timeouts, but those are more for rule breaking (snatching toys, etc). My daughter has a spot and my son (turned two in June) needs to be kind of full body hugged. He really enjoyed timeouts by himself so that wasn't working. (One day he was going to time out turned around, smiled, waved and said "good bye, peoples!")
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