Partners...amazing or driving you crazy?

emzy86 · July 2015

i'm just wondering if your partners are driving you crazy?
My husband has suprised me and been amazing at times this pregnancy, but this week he is doing my head in!! I've hardly seen him this week, he is unreliable with simple tasks and just generally annoying! Anyone with me?

Brianna0915 · July 2015

Both!! Some days I think the sun shines out his ass and other days I wish he would just go far far away

vvitchhazel · July 2015

Mine is amazing. Here and there little things have ticked me off and then after the fact, I realize that he legitimately thought he was helping, so I feel like a TW. He's also been carrying all of our financial burden, because I've only been working a few hours a week and he doesn't want to stress me out, so he doesn't bring up his worries. I definitely feel bad and I want him to realize that I can still be supportive, even if I'm uncomfortable and whiney most of the time.

emzy86 · July 2015

vvitchhazel said:
Mine is amazing. Here and there little things have ticked me off and then after the fact, I realize that he legitimately thought he was helping, so I feel like a TW. He's also been carrying all of our financial burden, because I've only been working a few hours a week and he doesn't want to stress me out, so he doesn't bring up his worries. I definitely feel bad and I want him to realize that I can still be supportive, even if I'm uncomfortable and whiney most of the time.

That's amazing! I'm the main breadwinner here and so I pretty much pay most things, which doesn't bother me if he's helping out in other areas. This week I might as well be a single parent! It's hunting season here (not mine thing) and hubby apparently can't miss a moment of it.

TVL25 · July 2015

My husband has been great this time around! I'm not sure what has gotten in to him. While I am excited for this baby, he really was the one who wanted "1 more" while I was so happy with our 3 boys. I think he feels guilty that he (thinks) he got his "way", when in actuality, it was clearly a mutual decision :P I'll take the sucking up if that's the case because he works constantly and everything with the house/kids/family falls on me. I am lucky to have him!

Sully314 · July 2015

This is my first pregnancy and so far my husband has been great...for the most part. He definitely irritates me sometimes and says some pretty insensitive stuff but I know he's oblivious to the offence. Plus I have been super moody and he's been pretty patient with that. But there are days where I just want to ring his neck.

ariasbabyblog · July 2015

Sometimes he's great, but mostly when I obviously need it. Right now I'm recovering from gall bladder surgery, so he's taken over the household and the toddler for which I am insanely grateful. Before the surgery though, I would be exhausted and he would whine that I take him for granted because I didn't put the clean dishes away that day, ignoring that I did laundry and managed to keep our son from killing himself. When I really need him he pulls through for me. The rest of the time I kind of want to strangle him.

Paige6410 · July 2015

It really depends on the day.

steph_pegasus · July 2015

Fine for the most part. Some days he pushes my buttons just because he can but he also has been great at stepping up when I've been feeling ill.

cyanope · July 2015

He's pretty freaking fantastic. But then again, he always is.

mrsgetz4000 · July 2015

Mine has been great. He's working three jobs just to make sure we are sold when I go on maternity leave. He's kind and understanding. Mostly. He thinks it's funny to get me all riled up. He's lucky he's cute

Sahara26 · July 2015

He's been really great. Even though I am home all day right now because I'm a teacher on summer break, he recognizes that I don't always feel great and picks up my slack. But then there are times when he hogs the bed because he wants to cuddle and I'm burning hot and need some space! Good intentions, but can you not feel the heat radiating off of me?!

Myelhsa · July 2015

My husband has been absolutely amazing. We're both first time parents and he has no trouble inserting himself and making sure he's a part of everything.

He immediately bought himself a baby book and is so educated on everything that's going on. He's definitely nesting; he's been completing so many little projects around the house. He's also just been amazing with all the little things.

I was complaining one day about constipation (so sexy, I know) and mentioned that I was going to stop by the pharmacy on the way home from work. He texted me back about 30 minutes later and said he already got me a medicine on my "approved list", so I went straight home and there were flowers too.

I also had a really tough morning in the beginning with MS but I was determined not to miss work so I headed to the office and at lunch time he showed up with a pint of vanilla ice cream and ginger ale.

And finally, he surprised me (and I bragged about it on here) with a brand new outfit and took me out to dinner after work one day just because he "knows growing a baby is hard work."

He's basically awesome.

jem8407 · July 2015

So far, he has been more amazing than I could have hoped for. He is an only child who tends to be selfish at times. He has truly been great!

cjd&k · July 2015

My fiancé has been fantastic! Sometimes I get all cranky and most the time it's over something so stupid and he still loves me. He's so great with keeping calm and telling me not to stress and helping me when I'm sick or not feeling well. The other day he came home with this super soft body pillow from Costco for whenever I get bigger. He's seriously my favorite person ever!

Love4littlethings24 · July 2015

Mine has been amazing until he took my pizza last night. Yes I was eating in bed but I was so comfy and hungry, I started crying as he snatched it away. We do have bad bug problems and I spill everything but I was literally balling as he was pulling it and I was trying to keep eating lol. Ahh hormones.

Blueyedsky · July 2015

Mine has been amazing! There have been a couple of times where he has taken my last bite of food or something and I want to rip his head off or go cry in the corner, but that is definitely a me problem cause I eat his last bite all the time lol. He's been so amazing that I feel like a giant jerkface...

mommachanner · July 2015

My husband has been amazing! He cleaned the whole house yesterday after I mentioned on my way out the door to work the dust on our dresser. Not only did I come home from work to a clean house but also to all the laundry done! He's been really in tune to my needs (and those of our growing baby). It's all these things that make me eternally grateful and completely in love with him.

Kelley421 · July 2015

Been great! Takes care not breathe on me (everything stinks right now), does my laundry, cleaned out my puke bucket, takes care of older child. I've really been down and am just starting to come back from "the funk". Not sure what I would do without him.

daninikicoli · July 2015

Oh man... Bad day to ask lol

melthompson10 · July 2015

My hubby is caring at times and then other times he is completely a tool

KaraEpp16 · July 2015

Even before I was pregnant - I would answer both. We're both drama queens. Our personalities are so similar, sometimes it makes me gaggy. HAHA.

I had a dream about an EX the other day. I think it was my brain trying to remind me how amazing he is and how lucky I am.

sarah92544 · July 2015

ariasbabyblog said:
Sometimes he's great, but mostly when I obviously need it. Right now I'm recovering from gall bladder surgery, so he's taken over the household and the toddler for which I am insanely grateful. Before the surgery though, I would be exhausted and he would whine that I take him for granted because I didn't put the clean dishes away that day, ignoring that I did laundry and managed to keep our son from killing himself. When I really need him he pulls through for me. The rest of the time I kind of want to strangle him.

My DH does that too " why are the dishes still in the dishwasher" ummm because this liitle bean inhabiting my uterus has decided i will be sick all day and dishes are not my top priorty lol but my kids are a godsend ohhh how they help me out everyday i just love them

peppercorn16 · July 2015

Mine has been absolutely amazing but he has this problem of leaving wrappers on the counter and leaving plates sitting wherever he ate! Yesterday he was off and I got home and could discern that he ate pancake sausage on a stick for breakfast (plate with stick on the table) and went to Sonic for a chili dog for lunch (chili dog container on the counter). He does not get why this is a big deal. He doesn't do it all the time, but enough that it irritates the living daylights out of me even before pregnancy.

ariasbabyblog · July 2015

@sarah92544 I am looking forward to when my DS is old enough to actually help instead of "help". He's only 2 after all. He can throw things away, put stuff in bins, and get things for me, but I haven't quite trained him how to do the dishes

@peppercorn16 Oh god my DH does this all the freaking time! Drives me up the wall! Seriously, the garbage is right behind you and our kitchen is tiny, THROW IT AWAY! Every time I see a wrapper on the counter I swear my eye twitches.

fragglemom · July 2015

I'd have to say that my DH is pretty amazing. He's always trying to do what he can to help me out. On top of everything, he booked a babymoon for my birthday/our anniversary on Martha's Vinyard in September. I need to remember this for all the times I curse his name while picking his laundry up from the floor.

makeshifwings · July 2015

I'm totally with you. Right now I'm so annoyed with my husband I could scream. I clicked on this thread expecting to see people feeling the same, and seeing 20 amazing husband comments made me even more mad...hah. My husband is eating my last fiber one bar that I specifically asked him not to eat right now. I may murder him.

BabyRut2015 · July 2015

I find that my husband is maybe the only person I can tolerate these days.....lol

Everyone else on the planet is irritating the living hell out of me this week, even my sweet younger sister who I can normally endlessly spend time with....

So for now, hubs is in the safety zone. I'm sure he'll screw it up sooner or later hahaha.

LauraFi · July 2015

For the most part my husband has been great. One issue though is that he is a really light sleeper so when I get up to go pee in the middle of the night (multiple times) he sometimes wakes up if I don't close the bedroom door quietly enough. The other night he complained about it when I got back to bed and I can't remember what I said but it wasn't nice... and then I thanked him for never complaining about it EVER AGAIN. I try really hard not to wake him up with any noise so it really irritated me when he complained about it like I didn't care.

jnconstantin · July 2015

I just want you guys to know how lucky you are! This pregnancy has put a great deal of stress on my relationship. I often feel alone and wonder if I am going to be a single mom. I always thought having a baby would make us closer,but so far that has been the opposite of true. I am so happy for all of you, but I am truly jealous of your relationships. Please pray for my little family.

teachmegs817 · July 2015

Mine has been pretty good so far throughout the whole thing. I have that sarcastic, not always your mushy kind of guy, but he's been quite helpful around the house and understanding of all my symptoms and body changes, since becoming pregnant. We are also doing a major renovation on our upstairs. We're remodeling the entire second floor and putting in a new set of attic stairs. My FIL and DH have been working a lot on getting that prepared, so we when baby arrives we have our bedroom redone, as well as the nursery and most of the remodeling done in the other 2 rooms up there. We would like to have all hammering, sawing, painting done by Thanksgiving.

arose3eb · July 2015

I never have a neutral answer to this. I'm either over the moon in love with him or I want to put a pillow over his mouth.

emzy86 · July 2015

Haha! Yes exactly how I felt last night when i started this post! Luckily husband has been better tonight and I'm feeling blessed too.

emzy86 · July 2015

makeshifwings said:
I'm totally with you. Right now I'm so annoyed with my husband I could scream. I clicked on this thread expecting to see people feeling the same, and seeing 20 amazing husband comments made me even more mad...hah. My husband is eating my last fiber one bar that I specifically asked him not to eat right now. I may murder him.

Oops posted my reply to you at the end! Yes I totally felt the same when I posted this.. Some of the partners on here are saints! Luckily husband is better tonight and I'm feeling grateful. At least for 24 hrs or so!

anniyas · July 2015

My partner has been a little bit of both. He rubs my feet (which is the best!) and indulges my cravings... but he hogs the bed and I don't even wan to kiss right now.... his face stubble bothers the skin of my face. I don't even want to be touched. I love him, and think he is amazing, but I just don't want any physical contact lol

mroberts19 · July 2015

My husband is usually really sweet and nice but he recently made a comment to his mom through text messages that I have not been making dinner and he was mad (I wasn't supposed to see it). I painted the living room and kitchen all by myself, pulled weeds, did yard work, and cleaned the house, all in 3 days. So I am still really pissed at him and feel like he lied to me when I would apologize for not making dinner and he would say it was fine. He apologized but I am still mad!!!

emililyha · July 2015

I'm with you @BabyRut2015 My hubby is the only person who doesn't irritate me completely. He's not perfect but he really tries - and the way he shields me from things I've told him I find annoying and uncomfortable (like too-nosy questions from looky-loos and people touching me without asking) is basically superhero quality.

stlmomof2 · July 2015

My partner is amazing. He works 2 jobs so I can stay off my feet and watch my 2 year old at home. Of course I do other stuff that stay at home moms do.I'm teaching my DS counting then ABCs at the moment. DH will always being me food that I'm craving. He's an executive chef too so he can whip out some pretty amazing food quickly. He rubs my back and plays with my hair to try to make me fall asleep faster. If he has time at home he will watch DS so I can get a break or do my errands without him.

Couple days ago he took me to see Jurassic world and planned a date. That was really sweet of him lol

BethP321 · July 2015

So far, he is unchanged. I would hope be becomes more involved in the pregnancy the further along I get (and I can put his hand on my belly to feel baby kicks and finding out the gender, etc). We bicker, but not more than usual; we know each other too well. I yelled at him for being his maid and since then I'm not being asked to get him chips and sodas just because he's too lazy to go upstairs. So that's a plus. I just wish I could see him getting more excited.

cjd&k · July 2015

@jnconstantin so sorry to hear you're having issues with your partner. This is suppose to be a happy time in yours and of course, his life. I will be keeping you in my thoughts.

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