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March 2016 Moms
MrsJP20082015
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So heartbroken, so lost (loss mentioned)
MrsJP20082015
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Today was supposed to be a happy day. I was awaiting a text message from my best friend for 10 years. She had her appointment to see if she was progressing any to go into labor with her second (39 weeks) or if she would be induced. Instead I got a text message telling me they lost their baby. They were team green & she told me it was a beautiful & perfect little girl. My heart is so broken for them. How can something like this happen? Something so perfect & ready to be brought into the world just gone like that. Her due date was my birthday which is next week.
I'm 5 weeks today & absolutely petrified now to go through something like that. I don't want to tell anyone now about my pregnancy (she's the only one who knows) & just hide it until I can't anymore. I was so excited to find out we were pregnant & now I just don't know if I would be strong enough to be handed something like that if I were delt those cards. Life is too hard sometimes.
I'm 5 weeks today & absolutely petrified now to go through something like that. I don't want to tell anyone now about my pregnancy (she's the only one who knows) & just hide it until I can't anymore. I was so excited to find out we were pregnant & now I just don't know if I would be strong enough to be handed something like that if I were delt those cards. Life is too hard sometimes.
Re: So heartbroken, so lost (loss mentioned)
If it makes you feel any better about telling people though, after 9 weeks your baby has the same odds of being born the rest of your pregnancy.
As for your pregnancy, even though bad things like that happen they are not nearly as common as they seem sometimes. Being scared is a perfectly normal part of pregnancy, but take time to grieve with your friend and your excitement should return. After 12 weeks your chances of loss go down to less than 1%, it'll drive you crazy to harp on the what ifs. Don't let some of the amazing ups over the next few months be dampened by what ifs. Enjoy your pregnancy!