Not sure why this bothers me, but it does!

v&druston · July 2015

Sorry, just need to get this off my chest. My MIL keeps referring to my son as "my baby". No, he is not your baby, he is my baby. She already refers to her son as
"my baby boy " and that drives me crazy because he is a grown man. I'm really dreading her visit in a few weeks. She keeps talking about holding him the entire time & that's not going to fly.
Again, not sure why it bothers me so much, but it really does!!
OK, rant over.

fghmama6701 · July 2015

Due today as well... my pet peeve is people saying "Well a due date is an estimate not a set date." Yes, thanks for the science lesson, now shut the F up.

2babes3angels · July 2015

My mom does that and it really bugs me too. Although my dad calls him "my son" and it doesn't bother me at all... i think I'm the one with the issue in this case lol.

LW879107 · July 2015

I have the same problem.. Like the way you explained this they could be the same person

haha.. And now she wants to come up ( lives 2 hrs away) next wed-Monday my due date is the 26th.. If not I'll be induced Monday.. I'm beyond po'd and my bf is to the point where he just wants everyone to wait until all three of us are home. I'm at a loss here. I feel like she's gonna hover and be crazy baby lady all over my child.. Like its my time not hers

JLynnG86 · July 2015

My mother and MIL both do that and it pisses me off beyond belief. You did not carry this child for 10 months. She is not "your baby!" To top it all off, yesterday my MIL slipped and referred to herself as "Mommy" while baby talking to my daughter. She corrected herself right away but I think that it goes to show she is beyond juat being excited and is really a freaking psycho.

rachiec773 · July 2015

My MIL does it too- she also lives less than 10 minutes away and stops in unannounced daily - and it's always at the worst times

( she is also super sensitive so any time my husband has tried to gently talk to her about giving us a heads up before coming over and that the baby is our baby she gets mad and upset...FML

megmansell · July 2015

Got a message from my MIL on Facebook the other day, and she says, "You're ready for our little man, I'm sure." The nicest response I could muster was, "Ours? You show me your cankles, I'll show you mine." Every time I talk to her, she says something to offend me, and I am pretty much done playing nice at this point. She always acts sugary sweet even when I know she's been talking shit behind my back but here's the thing.. I would rather be unpleasant to your face. I would rather be real. So real is all she will be getting.

megmansell · July 2015

rachiec773 said:
My MIL does it too- she also lives less than 10 minutes away and stops in unannounced daily - and it's always at the worst times ( she is also super sensitive so any time my husband has tried to gently talk to her about giving us a heads up before coming over and that the baby is our baby she gets mad and upset...FML

I would stop answering the door. It only reinforces the crazy.

bookworm7495 · July 2015

My mom was talking to my belly the other day and called herself "mommy" too! Umm...no.

corndogrobot · July 2015

My mom called my baby "IT" during her visit this week. Twice. :-q

zmombie · July 2015

I think if it was a MIL it would annoy me to! My mom started out with my oldest saying "my grand baby" (which she is) and then when she got older we would "play fight" over her saying she was "my baby" and she would say "no she's MY baby" and that's carried on with both my older daughters. So now if she says something like "give me my baby" it honestly don't bother me. She knows she's mine. She knows I'm mommy. But like I said, if j had a MIL and she was trying to jump in and lay claims.. Um no! You didn't birth me.. Raise me.. Live with me for many years and ect.. Yea it's biased.

shaley29 · July 2015

let these woman love on your babies! They are their grandparents. I can't wait to have my mom around for my daughter. My mom was a single mom and my grandma was like a 2nd mother to me. I only hope that even though I'm married with a wonderful husband, that my mom and daughter have the same type relationship that I had. Grandparents are so special! As for the MIL mine passed away four years ago, and I'd give anything for her to call her "my baby". Be thankful you have other woman who will also show your babies love and affection as you would.

CANTW82BMOM · July 2015

That would piss me off too, but everything my MIL does pisses me off. Her entire being annoys the crap outta me. So not looking forward to her visiting for nearly 2 weeks when LO gets here. Ugh!

Youngwithra · July 2015

My MIL been annoying me as well, ever since baby has been born she's been texting me and DH and asking for pictures. Saw her on Sunday and she was acting so weird, just kept looking at the baby, she didn't even want to pick him up (like she didn't know how to hold a baby ) I even heard her say the baby has her fingers.... What really pissed me off was as she was holding the baby and talking to DH she turned and said to me "I'm trying to see what the baby has of you , but I can't see anything of you in him" /:)

kamio92 · July 2015

More of a rant regarding my own mum. She's crazy excited for bubba to be here and I love that!!!! But the other day she made a really off handed comment about how my baby might end up calling her Mummy.

Huh? No...I don't think so.

I do get the excitement and I think it is wonderful and brilliant and I wouldn't swap it for anything but I'm her mum. Go be grandma and enjoy handing her back when she gets too restless or needs a feed

You get to spoil her. I'll raise her

LECDale · July 2015

Thank goodness I'm not the only one that deals with this! My MIL told me that my son was basically her child, and she constantly tells me how he acts just like her boys and looks like their side (he has looked like dad since the day he was born). I often respond with "he looks like himself".

@rachiec773 when my MIL would just show up and my husband wasn't home I wouldn't answer the door. My car would be in the drive way and she would call/text once she left and I would tell her that I simply didn't want company. She needed a hard lesson on it's not your house and it's not your baby. She stopped coming by unannounced. However, she did use our hide-a-key the other day.. I'm going to need to move that..

aschoppers · July 2015

I wonder if the underlying relationship leads to not liking it. I adore my mil and when she says stuff like 'my baby' I just smile. I think it might bother my husband because he gives her gruff for it occasionally. Now, if my first borns paternal grandmother would have done that it would have pissed me off, cause I don't like her.

crf4 · July 2015

Really bothered me with my first born, now at #3 I realize she really just loves these children. Now what does bother me is the constant referring to the other two as her babies still. At 5 it's just annoying and at 2 it's confusing because he knows he's well loved (Being the baby doesn't garnish special attention or love in our family) but when he's being told how big he is by everyone only to be called a baby by MIL I get super annoyed.

kate5all · July 2015

Have you seen this? https://www.pregnantchicken.com/pregnant-chicken-blog/2012/7/6/monkey-baby.html

jessicayounghouse · July 2015

My mom calls both my kids and the one on the way her babies, because they are. I'm her baby and therefore these babies are hers too. And I'm happy to share! My mom and dad both do so much for me and our family and we're all very close.

Now, I can't say I'd feel the same way if my MIL called them her babies, but she doesn't so I don't have to worry about that! Thank, goodness!!!!! There was even a time there before my daughter could say Granny that she'd call my mom 'Mommy'. We'd just laugh.

But I do agree with a previous poster when she said, let these women love on YOUR babies. Your babies know you're their mommy. And although they can't verbalize it, there isn't a woman in the world that could replace the real mommy!

LibbyC730 · July 2015

I can't imagine the unannounced visits! I like to at least pretend I keep the house clean, but need at least a 15 minute warning to keep that charade up!!
This is also why my in-laws have our spare key and my parents do not! I always enjoy the phone call when I'm out running errands, "hey, we're out front, where are you?" Not there to let you in!!

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