Very emotional causing relationship issues

Re: Very emotional causing relationship issues

• pbtoast member

  July 2015

  I'm a FTM so I have no experience with how things may or may not improve down the road, but I have heard that it gets better. The first trimester has been really hard for me, too, and I can relate to a lot of what you are saying in regards to crying or being in a bad mood and not being sure why. I think it is hard for men to understand, in the same way that it is likely hard for other women who haven't been pregnant to understand how this feels. I will say that what has worked for me is to just give myself a "time out" when I start to feel out of control to avoid saying or doing something that I will regret. More often that not I honestly have to choose to keep my mouth shut rather than saying something that I know will be offensive, especially to my SO. I make myself feel better by telling myself that if I'm still upset about it later once I've calmed down, we can have a rational discussion later and I can make my feelings known in a more appropriate way. Often it just goes away and doesn't need to be discussed later. In your case, I would honestly just ask your boyfriend to continue to be patient with you as your emotions feel somewhat out of control right now and let him know it has nothing to do with him (unless it does- ha!). And in terms of ways to better your mood, for me I find that getting some fresh air or just taking a minute out to do something I enjoy or something mindless like watching TV will often help. Sorry to hear that you're having such a rough time and I really you start to feel better soon!

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• razzledazzle93 member

  July 2015

  Thank you! Its nice knowing I'm not the only one feeling emotional lol.

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• Miss Lilac member

  July 2015 edited July 2015

  Getting some exercise has always really helped with my moods! Go and tire yourself out a bit. I'm assuming you're taking good prenatal vitamins? Vitamin B helps with mood swings.
  
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• Monkeybutt80 member

  July 2015

  I am sorry you are having a tough time with your emotions. Before my first pregnancy, I had been on anti-anxiety and anti- depression meds, which I had to stop taking once I became pregnant -- there were safe options, but they had terrible side effects and I could not tolerate it. That, and the hormones from the pregnancy made me crazy during my first pregnancy, especially during my first trimester. I lashed out, I was constantly stressed, anxious and just absolutely lost control of my emotions, and not only that, lost control of how I acted during these episodes. Luckily, my husband took it all and was patient. But what I made sure to do, when I had my calm moments, was to apologize to my husband for my latest ridiculous behavior, acknowledge that I acted irrationally and thank him for tolerating such behavior.  He told me that he appreciated me acknowledging my irrational behaviors, and thanking him for dealing with it. I think it made it easier for him to deal with my abnormal behavior, knowing that I, in my calm state, knew them to be abnormal and irrational. Of course, we had our rough moments and it wasn't always peachy, but eventually I got better. 

  I also want to recommend breathing exercises. It is technically a form of meditation, and I forget what book I picked it up from, but whenever I felt anxiety rising, I would take a moment, and focus solely on deep breathing for a couple of minutes. When you get worked up and about to cry, it's not always easy to stop your thoughts and focus on breathing, but if you can, it helped for me. 

  Good luck. and I hope you start to feel better soon. 

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• FreshBakedBrownies member

  July 2015

  Since you've dealt with depression before and are also dealing with the emotional strain of two past miscarriages, are you seeing a therapist?
  I think it might really be helpful to have someone medically qualified to honestly help you rather than get our untrained opinions here. Yes we are all hormonal and have emotions get the best of us too. But we can't tell you if that's all it is or if you truly need help.
  Going to a therapist with your significant other might help him understand what you're feeling and know how to support you better as well.
  

  

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• Danelle+Miguel member

  July 2015

  Sorry to hear you are having a rough time, but on the positive things should start to get easier after the first trimester. I have found that walking outside or some form of exercise helps me to get feeling better emotionally. Good luck.

  
  
  
  

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• jaimeruns member

  July 2015

  Try doing some meditation. If you have spotify search guided meditation and there are tons that will walk you through it. You can also search YouTube for guided meditation. I have anxiety and PTSD and when I am starting to feel overwhelmed this really helps. Also exercise of any kind gets those endorphins going. Sending positive thoughts your way.

  

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• malaki1418 member

  July 2015

  I'm dealing with the same thing...hang in there! FTM here too. I honestly don't even feel like I'm being that moody, but my SO sees it differently. I am typically a positive/upbeat person and the last 5 weeks (I'm 9 wks 1 day), I have been lethargic, exhausted/run down, and generally pretty blah about everything. I've also been doing a fair amount of complaining at home since I'm trying not to let my symptoms impede my ability to keep up at work -- at one of the busiest times of year for my job at that. He's been kind, but has also shared that he is really looking forward to the 2nd trimester when *hopefully* I'll be feeling better. I've tried to relay how I'm feeling and how he can help. That's really where we're at. What makes me feel better is feeling supported. Maybe think of some or even just one thing that he might be able to do to help? A lot of men like to be able to 'fix' things and without him knowing why you're upset (even if it is nothing), he can't fix it. So, maybe there is something else you can have him help out with or do for you that would at least brighten your day? Hang in there...this too shall pass
  

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