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Older child feeling neglected?

tasharchibaldtasharchibald member
in July 2015 Moms
i feel like all I do is nurse or pump. And when I'm not doing that I'm changing a baby or he's crying and needs held. Etc. anyone else feel like their older child is being neglected? How are you making them feel included and spending time with them without exhausting yourself?
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  • 2babes3angels2babes3angels member
    Following!! I haven't had baby yet, but I've been wondering about how this would go for us. Our 1st is 21 months so he's still pretty needy too. I was planning on keeping the NB in the ergo a lot, but I'd like to see others' thoughts
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  • corndogrobotcorndogrobot member
    edited July 2015
    My husband has been spending a lot of time with our little boy. He tells me that he misses me. And I miss him too. But it's nice to see him bond with his dad. He will be 4 next month so he's pretty independent but he still needs snuggles. We make sure to keep our bedtime routine of reading (at least) 2 books every night and talking about his day before bed time. It will be a different story when my husband returns to work and I'm alone with the two of them.
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  • mnj05mnj05 member
    I actually cried to DH about this today because I feel guilty. DH has been home since DS2 was born Friday and helping with DS1 a lot. The next three days, DS1 will be in daycare (we send him twice a week during the summer anyway). Tuesday will be the first day I'll be home alone with both boys. I don't know how I'll handle it between feedings and pumping.

    I'm thinking about taking both boys outside in the mornings before it gets hot and holding DS2 while DS1 plays in his water/sand table. When DH gets home, he can have bonding time with DS2 and I'll play with DS1 for a while. It'll take time to figure out the balance and I know it'll get easier as DS2 gets older.

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  • stormyyautumnstormyyautumn member
    My DH has been awesome about keeping my DS occupied. I also ask him if he wants to do little things to help with the baby like feed her or put her paci back in her mouth or grab diapers for me and then I make sure to let him know what an awse big brother he is. Before we had her we made a point of sitting him down and talking to him about what was to come so I think he was a little prepared for it.
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  • LeannFranLeannFran member
    Following! I'm also very nervous about this adjustment period. I haven't had our LO yet but DS is 18mo and is still quite dependent. I hope more moms post about their plans and survival tricks as I'm eager to make DS feel as included as possible!
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